Things Men Say When Caught Cheating

When a man gets caught cheating, it's interesting to hear the litany of excuses he comes up with to avoid responsibility. Here's a list of the most common things men say when they are caught cheating:

1. It's Not What It Looks Like

2. I Was Drunk

3. She Looked Like You

4. You Made Me Do This

5. See What Had Happened Was (insert lie here)

6. She's My Sister-Ewwww, men use this one? Shakes Head.

7. I Have Sex With Her, but I love you

8. She was helping me file my taxes

9. I was doing this for us-LOL! That will go over well with any woman.

10. I was practicing a new move I wanted to try on you

11. We were praying

12. I accidentally fell on top of her (or she accidentally fell on top of me)

13. She Made me do it

14. We were wrestling

15. I didn't know you were coming back early-That's how many women catch their man, by making them think they're gone for a while.

16. I don't know her, she's been wanting me for a long time

17. That's my friend

18.I needed a release since you

19. Look baby I can explain...

20. She needed someone to talk to

There's plenty more where that came from. I'm not going to lie, these are hilarious and ridiculous at the same time. It just goes to show you that some men will do any & everything to avoid manning up for what they do. If you make your bed, you have to lie in it. That Part.

Where Are The Good Men?

Many women ask Where Are The Good Men? According to the following poem by Winslow Willis, they're amongst us. Now, everyone's definition of a good man varies but I think this poem nails it.

From the MIND of Winslow Willis

"Where have all of the GOOD men gone?"

Some good men are janitors. Are you willing to date a janitor?

Some good men are garbage men. Are you willing to date a garbage man?

Some good men manage fastfood restaurants. Are you willing to date a fast food manager?

Some good men drive school buses. Are you willing to date a school bus driver?

OR, by GOOD do you mean: college degree, fancy six-figure job that you can brag to your girlfriends and parents about, fancy new wheels, and a five-figure bank account? Don't miss out on good MEN, while searching for good THINGS! :)

To me, good men don't have to advertise about being one, it shows in their conduct towards their loved ones and strangers. A good man knows who he is and what he stands for. There's nothing wrong with wanting to live good (I want that myself and I'm taking steps towards doing so) but like the poem reads in the last sentence, don't miss out on a good man while searching for good things.

What You Won't Do, Another Will

http://www.ebony.com/love-sex/confessions-i-gave-into-his-fantasy-now-i-dont-know-who-my-childs-father-is-304

"What You Won't Do, Another Will" seems to be people's favorite statement to use in a relationship. It can carry a negative & positive connotation. It can be positive and negative because if you refuse to do right by your spouse, someone else will come along and take your place. The above link entails a woman who had a lot going for herself and her husband proposed she sleep with another man. My first thought was "Really?" What sensible man would give his woman a pass to sleep with another guy? She obliged and slept with the first man. Another guy comes along and asks the same thing and she obliges. She's pregnant by BOTH men and doesn't know who the baby's father is. She gave into her husband's fantasy and now she probably will have to raise the child solo because both men will deny the child is theirs. Reading stories like this are why some men & women need to be careful who they bonk because children are no joke. I feel for the child moreso than the lady because that child doesn't know who the real father is. Who's to say she's going to explain to the child once it grows up and starts asking questions? At some point, this lady is going to have to have real talk with her child about its father. When the lady got pregnant, the man had the nerve to go off on her. He was just as much at fault as she was because he could've put a stop to it but he didn't. Why did you not use a condom? Whether or not the bf suggested it, she should have been more conscious about protecting herself and preventing pregnancy. Has she been tested for HIV, STD/STI? 

When he became distant, she didn't mention that she sat him down and talked to him. What happened to asking simple questions? I hope the letter writer has learned some things about herself from this experience. I wish her and her daughter luck, and a good therapist.

Trading Heaven For Hell

"Nojma Reflects

January 11

You have to love the women that send me messages. Just bless their poor little deflecting hearts. I was told that submissive women get "boring" after awhile. Hey Brothers how many of you trade in your peaceful home, with a submissive wife, who knows her role, doesn't challenge yours, who manifests the continuance of your existence through her womb for a loud mouthed, you can't tell me nothing, I am grown woman " punchanella, punchanella what can you do? punchanella, punchanella I can do it too...except I can do it better rebel of a woman? Because that makes so much sense right? To trade Heaven for Hell."

What man wants to trade heaven for hell? Any man that trades a good, submissive, strong woman for a rebellious woman deserves every bit of hell she will put him through. Constant verbal warfare, the snide remarks, belligerence, etc. No sensible man wants to go through that. It baffles me that there are women who think like the above referenced in Nojma's blog. These women believe that challenging their man on every front equals strength. No, it means you don't trust his judgement to where you fall back and let him lead. Over time, he will get sick of the constant warfare with his lady and go elsewhere. What one woman won't do, another will. A man willingly choosing a rebel woman is like throwing yourself into molten lava, he gets burned beyond recgonition. A man goes to war every day he steps outside his door and the LAST place he wants to have wars is his home, the place of peace.

Call & Response Segment

Normally I do blog commentaries on various issues but today's going to be different. I'm going to post a series of statements that sound crazy and I give a response. Without further ado, let's get it on!

1. The sweetest woman in the world can become the meanest woman in the world if you make her that way.

Response: Negative. She was already mean to begin with, just that she did a good job suppressing it.

2. A man sleeps around and gets called a pimp, while a woman sleeps around and gets called a trick, hoe, slut, etc.

Response: Both men and women who sleep around are playing Russian Roulette with their lives. But hey, if you want your meat to turn rancid and your kitty to shrivel up into a prune, who am I to judge?

3. Everybody deserves a chance, just not from me.

Response: That's your perogative, but know that the other person can say the same to & about you.

4. Good Men & Women are hard to find

Response: Negative. They're right in front of you but you don't want to do the work to get & keep one.

5."I'm a good woman with a Master's Degree, my own house and car"

Response: And? So are many other women, what makes you stand out from the rest?

6. All women are golddiggers.

Response: You get what you put out. If you floss like you have bankrolls, then expect every woman on the block checking for you.

7. Men Are Dogs

Response: You stayed with that dog, so what does that make you? It's owner.

8. Mom! I'm pregnant. It's something in the air

Response: Your legs.

9. Women say: Your body is a temple, not a visitor's center

Response: Really? With all the men you let visit your temple, you need to consider expansion.

10. Behind every good man is a good woman

Response: For the most part, this is true. A good woman brings out the best in her man and vice versa.

Sarcasm, Role Reversal & Exposure

 I can say and do what ever I want to who ever I want because I'm me and I'm God's Chosen One. Only he can judge me and no one else can. 

That's right!

I talk to God ALL the time and he said to me that it don't matter if I call black men weak, broke, or liars because God agrees with me. He told me that it doesn't matter that I took my "baby daddy's" children from him and hid them from him because he's not giving me more or enough money.

God is MY MAN!

He told me just the other day when people were condemning me for tricking for money to buy some jewelry, get my kids some Baby Phat, me a nice Gucci purse, and maybe some baby formula, that to tell y'all that you're GOING STRAIGHT TO HELL and that he doesn't like UGLY.

Only God can judge and ya'll MESSED UP NOW!

OOOOOOOH girl, I can't wait for God to put you black men on a shishkebab and roast your little black butts in HELL for talking crap about his "chosen one" for tricking to SURVIVE. 

You MESSED UP NOW!

Thank you JESUS!

Out of the mouths of fools. What do some of these ignorant women think God's going to do? JUDGE THEM. This is sarcasm, role reversal and exposure all in one!

Anything You Can Do, I Can Do Better

"Nojma Reflects

You know, when we start dabbling into the thinking of "anything a man can do, a woman can do and do it better", we get into dangerous territory. Your search for a man will be null and void, because you will never have a man if you are trying to BE a man. The truth is men and women are NOT made equal. I never heard a man witness his wife or a woman give birth and say "man I would be so much better at labor then she would"!

Appreciate the way God made you. I love and I mean I freaking LOVE being a woman. I love my femininity. I love the beauty, power and life that is my womb, and I don't take that for granted at all.

I am learning that some women are confusing "independence" with "confidence", and since confidence is appealing, those who confuse the two don't understand why they aren't appealing.

Confidence is security in yourself, is loving yourself, loving the way God made you, your talents, and as a woman if you are confident in your womanhood, your ability to nurture, console, comfort and you know the value of your womb, THAT is appealing.

However, telling a man you don't need him for anything is quite the turn off."

I know we've all heard the little cartoon jingle "Anything you can do, I can do better, I can do anything better than you. No You Can't, Yes I Can" It's ok to have confidence in yourself & your ability but let's be clear, God didn't make men & women equal. He created men and women with a set of characteristics that defines who they are. There are things men can do better than women and vice versa. That's okay. Have you ever heard a man witness his wife or a woman giving birth and say "I could give birth better than her" NEGATIVE! Because men don't do that. For the most part, men know their place. Deep down, women need men and men need women so let's stop fronting and admit we need each other.