I used to think being selfish was bad but as I got older, I realized everyone is selfish to a degree. Those who say they aren't selfish are lying because no one can be generous 24-7. There comes a time where you must put yourself first because if you aren't at your best, you can't give anyone your best. No one wants leftovers because leftovers signal scraps. The original person got the good stuff and they left you with their scraps. I'm as thoughtful as the next person but I won't be used. If I get the idea I'm being played, THE END. Selfishness is only bad if you go around thinking the world revolves around you. You don't care if your actions harm others, all you're worried about is getting yours. You have the power to help someone but you choose not to because you don't see that person as worthy of your assistance. Selfishness can be bad if you don't help someone in need. No one has gotten where they're at on their own. I'm selfish (make no apologies) when need be. I want to give the best to someone and if I need to save for myself, so be it. Otherwise, I'm of no use to myself or someone else who is dependent on me to be at the top of my game. What's funny is people get upset when you cut off the gift because you saw they were using you. That's their problem, not yours. Allowing yourself to be used is not the move. It's when you've been used long enough that you decide to be selfish and not care about anything/anyone around you. That's understandable but at the same time, there are genuine people that really need help so to turn your back on them is foul. Everyone is not above being selfish because when it comes down to you or another person, 9 times out of 10 you will do what's best for you and yours.
