I don't blame many women for not getting involved with single fathers because of baby mama drama. Anytime someone is involved with a single mother or father, the other parent will always be in the picture due to the child(ren). Some people can overlook that, some people can't. That's why I can't fault men for overlooking single mothers, just like I don't fault women for overlooking single fathers. Who wants a ready-made family? I will admit, it takes a special (wo)man to raise someone else's child(ren) as their own, and not too many (wo)men are up for that task. Anyway, this letter is crazy for the simple fact that these two have been warring since grade school. This lady goes out of her way to help this single mother who was a victim of Katrina, and the lady gives her (the letter writer) her butt to kiss. It's actions like hers that give people a reason NOT to want to do for others because some people are very ungrateful. Not only that, this lady went so far as to have the other woman fired from her job, all because she doesn't like her? If logic serves me correctly, disliking someone means you don't give them any power over you. You don't spend energy trying to bring them down to your pathetic level because all that's doing is making you look stupid. Chances are, the other person is keeping it moving while you're envious of him/her for whatever reason. There's not many people I dislike because to be honest, I don't value people enough to dislike them. If I haven't done anything to warrant that person disliking me, that's their problem. I'm going on with my life; I'm not going out of my way to slander their name or bring them down because how does that make me look? I rest my case.
The reason why the baby's mother hates this woman so much is because the man found a better woman than her, and she doesn't like that. She can't stand to see her baby's father happy so she's going to do whatever it takes to destroy someone else's relationship. She wants him back, but he doesn't want her back. Nothing she can do to change his mind because for whatever reason, their relationship soured. If someone doesn't want you, that's their decision. Before she gets into another relationship, I suggest she gets over her hurt or she's going to project her pain onto the next man based on her failed relationship.
