This came off a Facebook friend of mine's wall: "When I meet a woman, within 3 seconds I know if I have a physical attraction. Within 3 minutes of a conversation, I know whether I have a mental connection. Within 3 conversations (if she ...gets that far), I know whether I have a spiritual, emotional, and social connection. Then, she is placed in one of 3 categories in my life: networking friend, platonic friend, or courtship friend. The last one is only for the RARE women." Can conversation determine the length of a relationship? I think so because conversation helps people get to know each other. It's in conversation that you find out someone's life vision & outlook. I feel conversation says a lot about a person. If someone cannot converse about politics, education and the world around them, they will be deemed as ignorant because they have no concept of the world around them. I look at a woman's conversation ability before getting to know her. If she can't discuss anything other than going to the club, getting her hair done or shopping, I determine her conversational skills as lacking. Nobody wants to be with someone that cannot hold a decent conversation, myself included. I can discuss sports and music with the best of them but I know more about the world around me and that's more important. If you're walking in discernment, it won't take long to discover a fraud. That's where you learn discernment, through conversation. If you don't have a good feeling about someone through conversation, that's a sign you two are better off as friends or going your separate ways. Most people have little to no discernment, which means what someone can identify in seconds, it takes longer for somebody else. I want to have deep conversations because those conversations are more memorable than who won last night's game or what shoes you got from the mall yesterday. What does she want 3,5 or 10 years from now? When you're talking to someone that cracks jokes 24-7, anyone would assume they don't know when to be serious. So, conversation can and does tell a lot about a person.
