I was having a conversation with a Facebook friend, and we got to discussing relationships. One of the topics was why men tend to shift blame onto women when the relationship goes sour. Both points were made from my end and hers, and it was a good convo. One thing I can't stand is a man who blames women for his downfall. Most challenges we face in life, are of our own accord. When someone tells us to go left, we go right & vice versa. The only exception is the Adam & Eve story in the Bible, where Adam and Eve were given dominion over the entire Garden. They could eat from any tree except the Knowledge of Good & Evil. Eve allowed the serpent to deceive her into eating the apple. They tried to play it off, but God knew what they did. Adam tried to blame Eve for making him eat the forbidden fruit. I'm paraphrasing what Adam told God, when he asked why did you eat the fruit. Adam: God, that woman you gave to me, she took the first bite, and I did too. Eve got the worst of the punishment. Adam wasn't off the hook either, because God came down on him. This story is testament to how some men act like they're powerless when it comes to women. They can't do such & such because of a woman, they need a woman's permission to be the man in a relationship. That's hilarious to me, because if I'm involved with a woman, I'm going to be the man with(out) her. I refuse to ask for my lady's permission to "be the man"; what do I look like? Last time I checked, I'm grown. I would hope she doesn't ask for my permission to be the woman. The next one is a gray area: Women say they want a man who's honest, but when he keeps it real with her, she can't accept it. He has a valid point when he tells her "Don't ask for the real, if you can't accept it". Their relationship is built on a lie, and it's nothing but turmoil. Ok...the smart person would tell the truth regardless of whether their mate accepts or not. It's no sweat off his/her back, because (s)he knows the truth, (s)he's just trying to help you out, by trying to enlighten you. If you don't want the truth, that's on you. A man who keeps it real with his woman would tell her: I'm going to be honest, regardless of whether you accept the truth or not. If you want to bounce, go right ahead. I refuse to lie to you to spare your feelings (you can do this without being a jerk). I just can't stand men who feel like they can't do/be anything without a woman's permission. You don't see women looking to men for approval. I rest my case.
