What You Don't/Won't Do

Nojma Reflects

22 hours ago

Keep saying what you don't do...at your own risk...

Keep saying:

"I don't submit"
"I don't support"
"I don't cook"
"I don't need you to do anything for me"
"I don't assist in building....you should already be fully built and operational when we meet"
"I don't________(fill in the blank)

I'm just saying.....the more you say "I don't".......it lessens your chance of saying "I do"....in regards to being a WIFE.

 

 

My View: Like I stated in a previous blog commentary, what you won't do, someone else will. True, you have the right to say what you won't do, but someone also has the right to keep it moving on you and find someone who will. Choosing wisely is key. If you know someone's not up to snuff, why are you going to choose them? That's silly. You're willingly throwing yourself into the lion's den when you choose someone that's blunt in telling you they won't do this, that and the third for you. It's hard for me to feel bad for those who find themselves in these kinds of relationships. They told you what they weren't going to do and you didn't take them at their words. I'm reminded of a quote by Maya Angelou: When someone tells/shows you who they are, believe them. She wasn't lying because people will tell you who they are by their conduct, and it's up to you to decide if you can overlook that and try to build something with them, or you need to serve them their walking papers. Me, if someone shows me who they are, I believe them. Why wouldn't I? They let me know offtop how grimy they are so why would I fool with them? They could do me dirty and when I check them, they can say "You knew how I was before you met me." And you know what, they would be right because they showed me their true colors and I didn't listen. For every I Don't, there's an I Will. Just something for people to think about.

I Can't Stand Women Who Can't Stand Other Women!!!!

 

I got this video from a friend's Facebook page. She gives her $.02 on women not liking other women. She speaks REAL TALK so it behooves my viewers to listen closely to the words she says. A few things she says that caught my attention are "I get along better with men." Yes, we all gel better with certain people and that's okay. Statistically, 2% of the population will not like you for any or no reason. That's okay because not everyone is meant to be in your life. It's true some women get along better with men but that's because they've gotten to know them. Some women grew up around men so they haven't been exposed to fellow women. To say you can't stand someone of your gender when you haven't gotten to know them is flaw, to me. True, women have sound reasons for not liking other women and many of the reasons make sense: Cattiness is a big reason for many women not liking each other. A woman can't stand to see another woman looking or doing better than her; the first thing she says is "Oh, look at that heffer, she thinks she all that." Some women do think like this too! I like what she said about a man on a mission: The most important women in a man's life are his mother, aunts & niece(s). If his woman can't get along with his mother or aunt, then she won't be a good wife. It boils down to commonality. If a woman has more in common with men, that's her perogative. Maybe she genuinely feels comfortable around men because let's be honest, if she's in a dangerous situation, her male friends have no hesitation protecting her. Flipping the script, if two women are out enjoying themselves and they find themselves in a volatile situation, chances are those women don't have the street smarts to handle themselves and unless a man steps in, it won't bode well. Sometimes, women have legit reasons not to like each other but most of the time, women not liking each other boils down to jealousy: One woman looks and dresses better than the next, assumptions, etc.