Does the perfect man or woman exist? Depends on who you ask. Some believe the perfect mate is out there but it takes work to find & keep them, others will love a person despite their faults. There's nothing wrong with desiring perfection in a mate because all of us want the best possible man or woman who will add to our lives. The problem lies where you expect a man or woman to be this, that & the third and you're bringing very little, if anything to the table. How can you have a laundry list of standards for a prospective man (or woman) when you aren't whole yourself? That's crazy to me. Women are good for this because a lot of them have the "I'm not settling for chicken dinner when I deserve prime rib" mentality. It's ok to have standards but be real with your desires. You're only going to get 80% of what you need & want in a relationship; no more, no less. That's in most cases. This 20% comes along and you're thinking you're getting something better because that 20 has what the 80 lacks. You leave your 80 for 20 and later down the line, you realize you had a good thing. By then, it's too late because that person has moved on to someone that will love them unconditionally. I think nobody should require of someone what they aren't willing to bring to the table themselves. If you expect a man to work out and you don't exercise, that's futile. If a man expects his woman to be independent but he has nothing going on for himself, that's flaw to me. In a dream world, the perfect man & woman would exist but in reality, they don't. It comes down to what you will & won't tolerate. Don't get me wrong, I believe the perfect man & woman does exist but it takes time to find him or her. Once you find someone that's perfect for you, do everything in your power to hold on to them.
