Do For Self

Some men kill me when they say "I want a woman that'll take care of me" That woman existed in the 40's & 50's but today's modern woman isn't having it. A man should be able to take care himself and not be dependent on a woman to cook & clean for him. The older I get, the more I realize that a woman can't do anything for me I can't already do for myself. If I have laundry that needs to be done, I do it myself. If I'm hungry, I throw something together and keep it moving. Why depend on someone to do what you should be able to do for yourself? No one should be dependent on anyone for basic self-sufficiency. It never fails. What happened to men taking pride in being able to do for self? Now you have men that actually brag about how their woman takes care of them like his mother. As a man, yes I want a woman with some characteristics of my mother BUT she has to be her own person. I have one mother, I don't need another one. Honestly, I would be embarrassed to know that I was living with my wife and wasn't pulling my weight. Even if she says she doesn't mind, deep down she really does and it's just a matter of time before it comes out in a verbal boxing session. There's no honor in someone doing for you what you can do for yourself. Each person should bring their own unique personalities into a relationship so both parties can learn from each other. Equally ridiculous is women who say they want a man just like their father. WTW (What The What)? That sounds like incest to me for anyone who says they want their mate to be like their parents. True, their parents may show them what to look for in a mate (which I can understand) but to have a cookie-cutter version of your parents through your spouse is not the move, AT ALL. When two people are together, they should HELP each other, not TAKE care of each other. A better term would be to care for one another. One person isn't doing all the work but both parties are caring for one another. Being taken care of sounds like what our parents did when we were children/teens, but when you become an adult, you should know how to take care of yourself. I'm all for pampering my special lady (whoever she may be should I confirm I want a relationship) but I couldn't expect her to take care of me, nor should she expect me to do so & vice versa.