Most people have no concept of committment, so I'm going to rewrite the wedding vows. Normally, a couple's wedding vows go like this:
Do you take this (wo)man to be your lawfully wedded husband/wife
to have and hold
Through Sickness & Health
Better or Worse
Richer Or Poorer
After the couple recites these vows, they say "I Do"
Revised Version
Do you take this (wo)man to be your lawfully wedded husband/wife?
To have and to hold
Through good health
For Better
Richer
Until I find someone better
As long as you don't piss me off
When I think about it, why wouldn't the wedding vows be revised? Some people want the perfect mate, even if they aren't perfect. I agree that if you have yourself together, you should seek a likeminded (wo)man. Two whole people make for a power couple because they have similar character. I'm going to use the 80/20 rule. You're gonna get 80% of what you need in a relationship, no more no less. Someone comes along supplying the missing 20%, and you're considering leaving the 80% thinking you're gonna get something better from that 20. Once you leave, you realize that you messed up because what you thought was better, fell short of what you previously had. That 80 you left has moved on with someone who adores them, and motivates them to grow. The catch is, (s)he is right there by their side. Even if someone better comes along, (s)he won't stray because they're satisfied with the one they're with; not many people are that committed to their partner. Why do you think some men marry younger women? Because they're no longer attracted to their wives. Women marry young too, and given the right circumstances would leave their husbands in a flash. There was a time where marriage was valued, but those times have long passed. Some people treat marriage like a car dealership: They have a good car (spouse) that they've invested time in, that car has done right by them, and as soon as a newer model comes out, they trade in their spouse for a newer one.
