Michael Baisden QOTD: Are People Genuinely Happy When You Meet The Right Person?

A lot of people are only happy for you when they are happy. If they don't have anyone special or if their relationship isn't working, they have a hard time being genuinely happy for you. Be careful who you share your happiness with. A lot of people will smile in your face, but can't wait until you are having a problem. Some will try to secretly cause problems between you and your significant other. It can depend on how it will affect their relationship with you, and if they are in a happy relationship. If you start spending lots of time with your new love, they may feel left out. Don't neglect friends and family for a new love. You should be able to give some time to friends. If they are unhappy in or out of a relationship, it may make them feel depressed or sad because they want happiness as well. 

Sometimes, I believe that some people are genuine when they say they are happy when you find that special someone. Most times, you can tell on their faces when they aren't. You can tell who really cares/doesn't care about your happiness when you meet that special person. Your circle will become smaller. The people who really care for you will stay the same towards you, regardless of what you can and can no longer do with, or for them. The ones who don't will change on you when it's no longer about them. It's not up to anyone to be happy for me if I find a special person, it's up to ME to be happy. I don't want on approval stamps from anyone. When it comes down to it, your true friends will be happy for you finding true love. Haters? Not so much, but they can eat shards of glass.

Marriage Buffet

If marriage was a buffet, people would pick & choose what they want in a person. They would take the good & leave the bad.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 19, 2015

If marriage was a buffet, people would pick & choose what they want in a person. They would take the good & leave the bad. Think about it, when someone's looking for a mate, they have a laundry list of what attributes they desire in a (wo)man. (S)he must have this, that and the third. In short, (s)he must be perfect, but expect their mate to overlook their imperfections. Crazy isn't it? If marriage was a buffet, most people would take the good and forget the bad. They would take someone who's loving, driven, attractive, God-fearing, etc. and would leave the flaws at the buffet line because to them, the flaws would make the meal taste bad. There's nothing wrong with wanting the perfect person UNLESS you're perfect yourself. The way I'm set up, my patience is 0 for foolishness. 

If I think an issue is going to be a problem, I let it be known. The other person has a small window to fix the problem or she takes flight. In a perfect world, marriage would be a buffet: You get the person's good instead of their bad. Couples NEVER have arguments, they're always on the same page and because there would be no dissension in marriage, divorce attorneys would be unemployed because they would have no clientele. Because this world is fallen, unfortunately people have to take the bad with the good. Some people can love the good & bad of their spouse, some people can't. For those who won't love the bad parts of their spouse, that's their right. Everyone has the right to have the marriage they desire, provided they're the person they desire.