Strawberry Letter: R.I.P. To My Sex Life

Today's Strawberry Letter is about a married couple's dead sex life. The reason I call their sex life dead is because this woman's husband hasn't touched her sexually or sexed her in years. The woman is successful by all accounts: Own home, car, good job, and I assume the husband has the same credentials since they're married. From what I read, this woman's sex drive is high and the husband's sex drive is dead. Check this: The husband admits to cheating on his wife during a bachelor's party years ago. The husband must feel bad about his infidelity because he doesn't want to sex his lady. He doesn't know if she's forgiven him or not, and I respect him for being open about his infidelity towards his wife. Most men would take that to their grave.
When he admitted to cheating on his wife, even if she forgave him & took him back, it's hard for him to be intimate with his wife. He doesn't know if she will be responsive like she was before. She may not admit it, but I think she's harboring resentment towards him for his infidelity. I mean, he admitted he cheated on his woman; how else is she supposed to feel? Going further, he's sown his sexual oats prior to marriage, and he has nothing left for his wife; that's where the disconnect comes from. When someone's done this, that & the third with other people, they're going to get tired of sex, even if their spouse initiates. I think this can be fixed; but both sides have to be willing to meet in the middle.

Grown Soul & Real Talk: Give It Up, Or I Cheat

A married man actually put a sex clause in his prenuptial agreement that states: I have the right to get sex elsewhere if my wife doesn't sex me on demand. When I think of prenups, I think of financial arrangements that state both parties enter & leave with what they came. Sex on demand is new to me in prenups because I've never heard of a couple putting this clause in a prenup. This has to be a fake question. If they've already signed it and are already married, why is he asking opinions? He wants co-signers. She shouldn't have signed no crap like that. Of course, everyone has a right to say what they will (not) put up with, but is there anything in the pre-nup that benefits her?! What about cases of illness, etc? What's he going do when she starts menopause and her sex drive drops? He sounds foolish. Why not worry about the reason she's not interested in sexing him, and correct that? That's too much like right because usually when a woman refuses to sex her man, it's for multiple reasons that are within or out of her control.

That's the dumbest thing I've read, and if she signed something so demeaning, she should take a few bucks and buy some self esteem, and a self help book.Why did he get married if his goal is to cheat? What happened to a union and understanding? I'm hoping he wrote this for shock value. What if he becomes severely disabled or impotent, can she go elsewhere to have her needs fulfilled? If the answer is no, then he's selfish. If yes, then again I ask why would he get married? I have two thoughts: He's worried about the wrong thing; perhaps he should study the definition of marriage because he has no clue. Marriage is about much more than "sex." It's about BOTH parties bringing out the best in each other. Second, he's foolish if he thinks this is going to stand.