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Good morning,
The Torah, the Bible, the Qur’an and other religious texts (that I’m less familiar with) were trying to teach men an important lesson that is often misinterpreted. They all have explicit warnings about powerful men falling for women to their ultimate detriment. Whether it’s David or Sampson, many interpret this in a sexist way, where it’s supposedly saying ‘watch out for women’ or ‘you can’t trust women.’
What it is actually saying is that a sexually undisciplined man is ultimately a weak one. He’ll betray his friends, his nation, and sabotage himself. He can be the strongest physically but will ultimately open himself to lose battles. He’s easily distracted and manipulated.
A man who is willing walk away from sexual opportunities is incredibly powerful. He doesn’t need validation. He doesn’t need quick thrills to distract him from his pain. He is patient as he seeks deeper, long term love rather than short term affection. He probably loves and values himself.
Rather than do the hard work of mastering self control, we’ve blamed women when shallow sexual pursuits lead to trouble and drama. The Torah/Bible/Qur’an warned us, but we decided to reinterpret it so that we had less responsibility.
Discipline leads to strength. A disciplined athlete eats right, trains hard, and avoids things that may interfere with his/her goals. A disciplined student studies hard and forgoes parties. They win in the long run.
A sexually disciplined man finds deeper connections, is harder to control, and isn’t constantly seeking validation.
Young men should realize it’s not how many women like you, or want to sleep with you, or say you’re a good lover that makes you a strong man. It’s actually how little you need to hear those things and still value yourself that shows your strength.
My view: This brother is on point with everything. Sexual irresponsibility has led to the downfall of influential men. High-profile men see an attractive woman & lose their senses, not realizing those women are interested in his status, not him. As soon as he loses his influence, those women are gone. Discipline is required to become one’s best version of themselves.
