A few days ago, I posted a status that said "Not everyone deserves a second chance so why keep giving people chances when you know they're foul?" I stand by my view because it's true, everyone DOESN'T deserve a second chance. Most people aren't sorry for the transgression, they're sorry they got caught. You can tell when someone's sorry if they follow up with corrective action, otherwise they are full of hot air. I've gotten to the point where I will accept someone's apology but in the back of my mind, they don't mean it because they will keep repeating the mistake. At what point do you say enough is enough? If you overlook too many offenses, that shows weakness because people will think they can play you any kind of way. That may work on other people but not me. I analyze the mess out of people (hopefully they do the same with me) because I don't want to be played. There's a time to confront & a time to let go. A person's actions will always trump words. You can deserve a 2nd chance but your actions will show otherwise. 9 out of 10 times, the person has no remorse so if you keep giving them passes, you're wasting your time because you know they gonna keep on being foul. In that instance, you're setting yourself for continual hurt. Life is too short to be hurt over and over so you have to steer clear of toxic people. While I believe EVERYONE deserves a second chance, many people mistake it for weakness. "He/She gave me a free pass so I'll keep hurting him/her because I know I have to keep apologizing and they'll accept it." I'm all for showing compassion and mercy, but when you see they're not willing to change and they keep repeating the nonsense, there will be no more passes and I cut them loose. You can almost always tell when people are serious and trying to do better but more often than not, you can tell when someone's trying to play you. Some women are good for this because they know their man is sorry and they give him chance after chance; then they finally get fed up and leave. Little do they know, the next man who comes along has to pay for the mistakes of the ex. If they used better judgment, they wouldn't be so jaded. I'm all for second chances because some people truly deserve them and it's that 2nd chance that causes them to change for the better.
