A lot of people like to say "You don't know what you're not willing to put up with until you're involved with someone" It's like this: When I speak into the atmosphere what I won't tolerate from a woman, I mean what I say. Any woman is welcome to test me, and she'll find out how much I mean business when I serve her her walking papers. She won't get a chance to make the correction because in my mind, she should've thought about the repercussions of trying me. Too many men are scared to put the fear of God in their lady because they don't want to come off as controlling. If demanding peace of mind from your significant other comes off as controlling, tough nuggets. Both couples should be willing to put the fear of God in each other because that forces the couple to be on point at all times. It's something about the threat of losing a good mate that causes one to do whatever it takes to keep their spouse, within reason. In other words, check your (wo)man on small matters so they won't become big issues.
Feb 20, 2015
I Love Her
My respect for men who try to heal broken women is dwindling by the second. This man is involved with a hateful single mother who says all kinds of mean things if she doesn't get her way; to top it off, he still loves her and thinks she's a great person. If someone says vicious things if they don't get their way, they're not a great person to be around. If someone's a great person to be around, it shows in their demeanor and disposition. They may be going through rough times in their lives, but they don't take it out on their loved ones. The Bible says that what's in your heart will come out of your mouth, so if you say something hurtful, it was in your heart all along just waiting to come out. The only reason I can come up with as to why he's still with her is because he's trying to see the good in her. By trying to see the good in her, he can work through her pain and have a beautiful relationship. He's better than me because the first hurtful thing she said to me, I'm gone. I don't have the patience to heal a broken woman, nor should I have to. Why should I pay for what her previous ex did? I'm not.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them. She's showing him her nature, so what's the problem? He's trying to change her, but you can't change someone who isn't receptive to change. Only God can change a person's heart, so he should leave it up to the Lord to work on her because from the sound of this letter, he's fed up with her bad attitude. When the man told her daughter he could handle her, the mother puts him to the test. She's pushing him away just to see if he's going to stay. If he leaves, that's confirmation for her that he's a "weak man" who can't handle a supposed "strong black woman" Newsflash: Animals need handling, not humans. Sounds like he doesn't know his worth as a man because if he did, he would've left at the first instance of emotional abuse. When someone emotionally abuses you, it's a matter of time before they physically abuse you.
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