Letter: I'm a 30 year old young lady. I have been talking to this guy for about ten months now. We stay a couple of hours away from each other, so we don't get to see each other as often as we like. We used to call, text and video chat all the time but now we don't any more since I gave him the cookie. So now when I try to call or text I don't get any response except when he calls or texts. So now since I'm not getting that attention from him I try and find it elsewhere. I was intimate with someone close to him and three other guys he doesn't know. SMH. We talked about it; I told him how I feel and he told me I need to earn his trust, and that I have some making up to do. Please!!! Mr. Harvey and Mrs. Shirley, what should I do to make it up to him and earn his trust?
No No Nooooooo! She gave him the cooch, and now he got ghost. Why does this strawberry letter seem so familiar? Because it happens too often in relationships. A woman and man are getting to know each other, and she feels comfortable enough with him to give him some pie. After the man has eaten her pie, he's ghost. He has no reason to stay around because he got his, and that's that. Her first mistake was giving him the pie too early on. Then again, women know within minutes of meeting a man if they're going to sleep with him so maybe she was so attracted to him that she felt that connection. Since they live 2 hours away, they could've made time to see each other. You make time for what's important, and she wasn't important enough to him.
What makes it so bad, is she goes out and cheats on this man. Why do women do this mess, cheat because her man's not giving her attention. Two wrongs don't make a right. Just because he wasn't giving her attention shouldn't have gave her the green light to cheat. She made herself look bad by being a ho, and now she wants to make it up to him. This relationship is toxic all the way around because she's sexing other men, and he's not giving her the time of day. If he's not giving her the time of day, it can mean one thing: He's also cheating. Think about it, if a woman gave a man some, most men would be sprung and want to continue getting to know her.
I can appreciate her wanting to make things right, so the first thing she needs to do is fess up, and be ready for any repercussions. Yes, he will be upset but at least he'll respect her for telling him straight up. Then again, some women are better cheaters than men because they don't broadcast their exploits. Can she blame him for being upset? She shouldn't, because even though he was at fault for not being more attentive, she was wrong for going behind his back. She needs to do whatever it takes to make things right, and HE needs to give his woman the attention she needs. If a woman feels a lack of attention from her man, she will seek it elsewhere.
