"That's why no one wants you." That's supposed to be a bad thing because? Sometimes, it's a blessing to be unwanted by certain people.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) May 19, 2015
Everyone has heard this notorious shaming tactic from time to time. Some people really think they're supposed to hurt one's feelings when they say this garbage, which some folks may be slighted by this statement. The majority of people would shrug it off because for one, some people are single by choice. They don't need someone to define them. If someone comes into their life, good. If not, that's cool too. They were fine before that person, and they'll be fine after them. I'll go one better: They'll be fine if no one wants to be in their life! The main folks who utter this statement are those that no one would want anyway. I find it hilarious that people think everyone's hard up for a significant other. I've mentioned this in a few previous blogs: A significant other enhances what's already there. They aren't responsible for completing you, you're supposed to already be whole. At the same time, some folks would take the "That's why no one wants you" statement to heart. Some folks self-esteem is low that they think something's wrong with them if someone told them that. If anything, there's a lot more wrong with the offender than the victim, so for those who are slighted by that statement, know your worth and don't let anyone make you feel bad for being single. It's better to be single than alone in a relationship. In other words, you can be with someone and still be alone. What do I mean by that? You and this person live together, but you two barely communicate. Y'all know nothing about each other, but everything's lovely according to y'all (side eye). Sometimes, being unwanted is a blessing because you avoid drama. When the wrong people want you, it's only a matter of time before something goes wrong.
