Don't Believe The Hype

Nojma Reflects

Don’t believe the hype that Black Men have a fear of commitment or don’t have the desire to marry. The right woman can turn “I will never be a one woman man” into “I want to be with her forever“. That is the power of a beautiful, knowledgeable, Godly woman, that knows her role, isn’t auditioning for yours, knows the beauty and power of submission, doesn’t flex on her man, laces her tone with compassion instead of contempt, walks with him in this journey called life, instead of running ahead so she can claim “first place“, revives you when your energy is low, shields his weaknesses from the world but promotes his strength, she is his diary, her mind is the pages, and the love is the ink with which he writes with, her heart is where the key remains secured, what he expresses with her, STAYS with her, she provides an atmosphere that allows him to speak his pain, fears, and frustrations without judgement , allows him to be vulnerable, because he knows that this woman understands him like no one else, he knows that this woman loves him like no one else, in her spirit he sees God, in her wombs he found the path that leads to his legacy, in her arms he finds solace, in his house he finds PEACE, in her food he finds healing, in their children he sees the perfect blend of both “he and she“…….and the type of man he “never” thought he would be…..is now the type of man he has PROUDLY BECOME.

This was another beautiful read by Nojma Reflects (she has her own facebook page, do a Search and subscribe to her writing). The right woman will make ANY man want to settle down. Why wouldn't a good man want a good woman? She completes him and helps him be a better man in all areas of life. She rides for him through the good & bad, keeps him lifted up in prayer and in turn, a REAL man will not stray from the love of a good woman.

Pre-Marriage Cohabitation

http://madamenoire.com/253017/ask-a-very-smart-brotha-why-you-shouldnt-live-together-before-marriage/

This was an interesting read. Everything Damon said coincides with my view on shacking up. Biblically, shacking up is wrong because it can lead to temptation. On the other hand, cohabitation provides the couple an opportunity to test the waters. If you live with someone long enough, you find out a lot about them. It's not like a couple going out frequently and spending time together or chatting on FB, texting, IM, etc. Those may be convenient but there's nothing like spending time with someone in order to find out about them. The only way cohabitation could work is if the couple sets clear boundaries on what will & won't work, otherwise shacking could do more harm than good. From a financial standpoint, cohabitation would work because the couple can share expenses; this would especially work if the couple lives in an expensive city like New York, Miami, Boston or San Francisco. I can see why some people don't want to live together because over time you want your own space and you don't have any privacy when you're living with someone. Allow me to expand on pre-marriage cohabitation from a Biblical standpoint: If a couple is living together with intentions of fornication, then yes it's dead wrong. The following scriptures speak on this: (Acts 15:20; Romans 1:29; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, 18; 7:2; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). The Bible promotes complete abstinence outside of (and before) marriage. Even if a couple living together isn't sexing, the assumption is made because they're living together. In that manner, the Bible forbids pre-marriage cohabitation altogether.