This commentary from MrEnigmatic Opinion caught my attention, so I'm gonna share. The commentary is long, but worth the read.
Black American Women.
A man once told me that if you get involved with a black woman, you should keep one bag packed and your running shoes ready. He said that you should make sure that you do not allow her to have anything to hold over your head, specifically children, because it will force you to make her a permanent part of your existence. Children are their only source of power over a black man and they are willing to use that power to its fullest he told me. I pondered his theory for awhile and I suppose I understand where he was coming from. I pondered our recent history with black women. If you look at our recent history with black women, loyalty to us, and our culture has not been anywhere near a priority to modern black American women. Yet many will argue that "they are not all like that" or ask if a black woman has broken your heart solely as a means of shutting down any way for us black men to question their overall collective mentality. Merely saying that they and other black women they know do not fit into the overall disloyalty, is supposed to be enough evidence that we black men are simply paranoid and insecure. Let's examine.
Since the 1980's, black men have been bombarded with imagery and suggestions of black women choosing and encouraging black women to be the wives and lovers of men of other races, white men in particular. Although this is not something women of other races do, black women would argue that this is in some way "normal" that they are simply "exploring their options". Completely ignoring that based on our history with white American men, to choose open forums such as television and magazines is an insult to us black men. Yet they continue to do it without regard to that history.
They have openly called us "gay" which is a favorite insult of theirs, although statistics show that black men are no more gay than white men, yet calling white men a bunch of gay or bisexual men isn't exactly on their radar. They've aggressively called us "down low" in order to put that image out there to anyone willing to listen, particularly if it's women of other races. Now you can even at times see white men mimicking black women and their "black men are gay" chants. Mostly because the image of a gay black man helps destroy our image of masculinity, which white men have been trying to do since the day our ancestors first stepped foot onto Charleston, South Carolina soil.
They have aggressively pushed the bisexual black man image in order to explain their current HIV epidemic, because they believed this preserves some image of wholesomeness they believe they have in the eyes of the public, mainly so that men of other races would not see them as dirty women. They only want black men to appear dirty. The truth is that black women are leading all in HIV contractions for the same reason they lead all in unwed pregnancies; and the black women who contract it the most, are far from wholesome. They are predominately IV drug users, prostitutes and black women who have more condom-less sexual partners than their children have birthdays. condoms. For them to say that black men being DL is the reason for it is like blaming winter coats for cold weather.
They have routinely called us "broke ass niggas" although reliable data shows that black men earn more money than they do. They have never been afraid of their own contradictions in this area. On one hand they expect black men to show his money, to wear it on his back or to ride in it, while spending money simply to spend time with them. If he doesn't, he gets no where with them. He is considered a broke loser and unworthy of their time. Yet they will criticize black men for not being fiscally responsible, and praise white men for not doing the same frivolous things with his money they expect us to do with ours in trying to impress them.
They expect us to be surrogate fathers to their bastard children, or to accept that they prolifically abort the ones they cannot use. They expect praise when their sons become lawyers, but want us to join them in blaming the fathers when he becomes an abominate Thug Nigga. Black men are dead beats when the children are failures, but are not necessary when they are successful.
So what do we do black men? What do we do with this? What can we do with so much disdain and disloyalty? Because I want to keep my reproductive odds high, I have to take the advice of the gentleman I mentioned at the beginning of this post, and make sure I'm always free to leave. I will never give up on black women completely, but I won't give them the power to use their vagina's or their ovaries to gain control over me. I control me. I keep my bags packed when dealing with them, but if some of you progressive brothers choose not to even enter their space...I suppose I understand.
EO.
