Men & Women As Friends

This blog was inspired from a chat I had with one of my FB friends. We were discussing whether men and women can be friends. The overall consensus was yes, men and women can be friends. It happens all the time. The greatest relationships start out as friends. There's something to be said for investing years in a person and watching that bond blossom into a beautiful relationship. The woman I meet (whoever she is) will be my friend first, then she will graduate to significant other and eventually wife. During the friendship, both the man and woman learn a lot about each other: They get to see each other at their best and worst. It's in that time they figure out whether they would make a great couple or if it's better off they remain friends. Many times, a man and woman mean so much to each other that if their relationship doesn't work out, they will call it quits and terminate the friendship; they are close beyond comprehension. I think friendships between men & women have to stand the test of time in order for gender to become irrelevant; many times men and women secretly want to nail each other but are scared to take it there for fear of feelings developing. I think the real problems start occurring when you and/or your friend gets involved (and vice versa) due to jealousy. The man and/or woman is so used to having him/her all to themselves that they can't bear the thought of him or her being with another person. It boils down to ulterior motives, whether the man and woman want to be friends for sexual reasons or they truly care enough about each other to form a close bond that may evolve into something meaningful.