Every single mother who feels she deserves to be honored on Father's Day for playing both roles NEEDS to read this (I know many of them won't, but I'm still going to share):
Tina DeVeaux
I AM NOT A FATHER...
I was blessed to like, love, date, marry and burry an amazing man for nearly 14 years who blessed me with 3 extraordinary children. I AM their mother. I am NOT their father.
Similar to Rachel Dolezal, I lack the authentic experience of growing up as a boy and transitioning into manhood and fatherhood.
I lack the experience of the neurological and hormonal cues that translate into fatherly nurturing.
I lack the male experience of teaching a boy to swing from ropes, fight, cook meat, camp and date.
I lack the tone of voice that instills a fatherly fear in every child within ear range.
I lack the stature of a man that calls things into order simply with his presence.
I lack the pride and maturity that a man experiences the first day he learns he will be a father.
I lack the ability to provide and protect as a man and instill the discipline that only a father can authentically instill.
I lack the ability to challenge, provoke, and enforce the tools and exercises that a father brings.
I lack the physical, emotional, social and spiritual contribution and commitment of a father that gets handed down to his children.
I AM NOT A FATHER. I AM A MOTHER. I AM AN EXTRAORDINARY MOTHER who has trusted God to make up the difference, leaned on the wisdom of great fathers and worked overtime as a woman to attempt to fill in the gaps!
Happy Father's Day to the men in my life who have shared your stories, given me advice, corrected my approach, shared with my children, been an example and toughened me up when all I wanted to do was cry and let go.
I WOULD NOT DARE ATTEMPT TO STEAL YOUR DAY!! YOU ARE EXTRAORDINARY! ENJOY YOUR DAY, YOU DESERVE IT!! #Salute
