Relationships: Don't Apply If You're Not Ready

 

When I'm on Facebook, I see a lot of photos about relationships. The one that comes to mind is Relationships are like a job, don't apply if you're not qualified. When I think about it, it makes perfect sense. Relationships are like a job interview: One person plays the hiring manager and the other is the prospective employee. The prospective (wo)man is auditioning for the role of significant other. (S)he is asked questions about past relationships, moral character, etc so the chooser has a good idea of how they are. If more people approached relationships from an employment standpoint, there would be a lot more successful relationships. Pre-screening is the key. Look for keywords in their character because the keywords will tell a lot about them. Most times, you don't have to interrogate a person because they will usually let you know who they are right off the bat. They will tell you straight up about themselves. It's up to YOU to determine if you can look past their shortcomings. The old adage is tried & true: What You See, Is What You Get. In relationships, this couldn't be more true because if a person lets you know who and what they are, you have no right to be upset if they aren't up to your standards. THEY told you the real about themselves, and you didn't have the discernment to exit stage left. Many people enter relationships without pre-screening their potential mate, then wonder why the relationship went south. I'll tell you why: They didn't do their due diligence on their desired mate. (S)he may look good, but what else? Will they stay on your team when you hit a losing streak? Are they willing to help you build instead of tear down? Tough questions need to be asked in order to get to know someone. How a person responds to tough questions speaks volumes; their answers show you may have a keeper because they are committed to you through thick & thin. It's easy to discuss your strengths; everybody can do that. It's the weaknesses that gets folk jammed up.

Frustrated: Black American Men In Brazil

 

 

Various people have mentioned how American black women are the least desired among races. Whether that's true or not remains to be seen, because I haven't experienced much of what others are talking about. Why is that? I avoid drama queens at all costs, so it spares me from their venom. There are undesirables of all races, not just black women so why are black women being singled out? This documentary sheds light on how many black American men are flocking overseas to Brazil because in their eyes, Brazilian women respect them & don't come with the baggage that American black women do. Again, I've never experienced bad women because I don't give them a chance to infect me with their poison. First offense, I'm gone. I don't have time to love a woman through her nonsense. My peace of mind is far more important than loving a woman through her rough times. If Black American men find love in Brazilian women, more power to them. I like to see happy couples in love, because that gives me hope in knowing that as long as I keep working on myself, the right woman will come along, and bring the best out of me (and vice versa). Many black men have valid reasons for going after Brazilian women, but sometimes it's an excuse. You know, some black men want a woman that says how high when he tells her to jump. Most black women aren't going for that controlling behavior, so they put up resistance. Black men don't like this, so they throw their hands up at sisters and leave them in the dust. Granted, no man wants a combative woman (I don't), but at the same time, many women have a problem with submission to an upstanding guy. He can be honorable & of good moral character, and some women still won't submit to his leadership. Simply put, men need to choose women that are a great fit for them. If he's laid back, choose a laid-back woman. If he's strong, choose a strong woman that will lift him up when he's down. Problem Solved.