Don't Check My Child(ren)

I don't care who's slighted, but I have to get this off my chest. Parents have a problem with other adults checking their child for disrespect. Well, if you did your job then other adults wouldn't have to.    I'm tired of some parents getting in their feelings because a concerned adult has the guts to try and point your child in the right direction. Let me give an example: Your child is a known bully who has been reprimanded for picking on other students for whatever reason. It's brought to your attention, and the parent shrugs it off like "Oh it's nothing, boys will be boys." Bullying is a serious issue due to its damaging effects on students. Kids are a reflection of their parents. If a child is misbehaving, people look at the parents. The child doesn't know any better, for the most part. It's until the child gets old enough to know right from wrong that everything falls on that child. People need to cut the crap, and stop making excuses for kids misbehavior because it's annoying. If your child is a bully, check them or someone else will. People are losing patience with these wayward youth and taking matters into their own hands. When another adult handles your child, you want to get in your feelings because someone did what you wouldn't do. Some parents are too busy trying to be their child's friend that they let their child run this & that. If a child is disrespectful to me & no parent is around, I will check that child. If the parent has issue with it, they can see me and I'll tell them the same thing. When I was coming up, my parents were well known so I couldn't do wrong without them finding out.

Marriage Is Business, Not Romance

 Salute to my FB friend Hondo Solomon for this topic, because the Bro. is on point. Before anyone reads today's blog message, take a few seconds to read the topic title and re-read it again. The reason I want folks to reread this topic at least 3 times is because a lot of folks are confused about what marriage is really about. See, some people think marriage is lovey-dovey where you come home to that (wo)man and sex them on demand. No, marriage is business & not romance. Why is marriage business and not romance? It's simple: There's legal, financial, and health benefits to being married such as lower tax rates for married couples, spouses recover faster from illness, and from a professional standpoint: Married couples are seen as stable, therefore they're more likely to advance faster at their company, etc. 

Those are some of the reasons why I say marriage is business. Being that marriage is business, you have to do your homework on your potential husband/wife. Find out all you can about them from family & friends, professional colleagues, exes, professors, etc. Getting intel from the aforementioned sources is a great way to find out if someone's worth marrying because you get to learn their work ethic, what makes them happy or mad, their dreams, etc. Once you find out your desired intel, observe how they handle disappointments. How someone handles setbacks is a testament to how they'll be as a husband or wife. If they're quick to give up just because of an issue, then you can bet that they have no hesitation on backing out of marriage. You wouldn't accept the first deal that's presented to you because you could be missing out on something better.

It's ok to say no to marriage proposals because this is life we're talking about. A person may be a great catch, but they're not necessarily a good catch for you.