Fast Food, Fast Women

Nojma Reflects

Yesterday

Sisters let look at the correlation between fast women and fast food.

-Both are easily accessible

-Both require little to no effort

-Both are open well after midnight....some are open 24 hours a day

-Neither is good for you physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually

-Both are very convenient ....all you have to do is "drive through"

-Both are quick and easy to get

-Neither one requires any discipline

A home cooked meal is something that requires preparation, and thought, the spices have to marinate, it has to simmer, it takes time, there is quality in it....after a man has a "home cooked" meal he will understand that one leaves him wanting while the other satisfies his soul.

So Sisters, you can either be viewed as a "quick convenience” or as a "long lasting companion"...the choice is yours!

Brothers......be mindful of who you allow to "feed" you!

My View: Another banger from Ms. Nojma. Every time I read her writing, it's always on point and then some. It's easier to go after something that requires little to no effort than put in work to get what you desire. Fast Food & Fast Women have one thing in common: Both provide temporary satisfaction but you're stuck wanting more and more.

The Reasons Why Men Don't/Won't Get Married

The following is a list of reasons men don't or won't get married according to Jeffrey Green:

A) He is having too much fun being single.

B) He doesn't Want to Be, Nor is he Trying to understand why he should be the provider for a woman who makes more money than Him..

C)First wife took him to the CLEANERS in the Divorce and he never is going to let that happen again, It's not that he is bitter, angry or hurt. Its because, to him its completely illogical and counterproductive in light of all the Things he had to do to recover himself emotionally and Financially to get his life back together, to ever put himself in that position again..

D) He Is 40+ and has his stuff together and he is Looking For a Woman that Matches his Vision for himself at this stage of life.

E)He realizes that a woman wants to and knows how to ride his back, But she can't/won't/don't really know how to guard his back.

F) He is older and accomplished. He likes solitude and views a wife as weakness

*Yah (God) did say it was good for some men not to marry*

My view: All of these are right on target. Some men, just like some women don't want to be married because they don't want to give up their freedom & independence for someone else. When you get married, there's an unwritten rule that states you give up the I's for Us's. That's what most people don't understand. You can't go into a marriage thinking it's all about you. You have to be able to give more than you're getting in return. Let's be real here, sometimes the man is going to give more and the woman is going to give more; no way around it. The problem lies when one person is doing all the giving & receiving; of course you'll have a lopsided relationship. I did a blog commentary on Due Diligence that went into great detail on how to select the right mate and this subject ties into that. If people did their due diligence, they would be able to snuff out those who come to them with their hands out, expecting to be pampered and not having to reciprocate. When a man's been cleaned out by his first wife, he would be stupid to jump blindly into another relationship without doing his homework. Otherwise, what's the point of going through that ordeal? Each failed relationship gives you a greater understanding of what you do & don't want. When one has been hurt by their ex and their relationship ends, it behooves him/her to take some time to work on self BEFORE jumping into another relationship. You don't want to bring old baggage into a new relationship. I say this when necessary: Don't bring your baggage to the terminal, get rid of your baggage before you board the flight.