Today's blog message is Ready For Committment. We have a 30-year old woman who seems to have a good head on her shoulders. She meets a man who she thinks the world of, but there's one problem: He's not ready for a relationship. Either he's turned off by her being a single mother, or he may not be THAT into her. Usually, a man will let a woman know early on how into her he is by several factors: Frequency of communication, his eagerness in getting to know her, they schedule outings together, etc. If a man is into a woman, he will move heaven & earth to show it. He's not about playing games because he knows she's got other potential suitors on stand-by. She may feel that he's the one, but does he feel the same way? From the lack of reciprocation he's giving her, it's safe to say he's not into her as much as she's into him. The question remains is does she want to waste her time trying to force what may not be meant to happen?
When I read these Strawberry Letters, I always look for answers to the question. 9 times out of 10, the letter writer seeking advice has already answered their own question(s). This letter is no different because she states "I don't want to feel like I'm wasting my time." There you have it, she already answered her question. Any further anguish that happens from this moment forward is her fault, because she can either give him an ultimatum or continue raising her children. Right now, her main focus should be on raising her children. Age has a lot to do with this letter as well, because sometimes, younger men like to play games with women. They teeter back & forth with their feelings on a woman. One minute he wants her, and the next minute, he doesn't. An older man doesn't have time for that mess. He either wants her or doesn't, and he moves forward. I don't think he's ready for a relationship, so she might want to move onto the man who is. Time is too short for play play.
