2 Kinds Of Interest

Marvelous Marina Woods

women::: there are two kinds of interest from a man.
#1 simple interest - calling, texting, spending time, talking, dating, etc.
#2 special interest - may look just like simple interest in some cases, but special interest has a couple of additional components. a- sacrifice. a man with special interest may sacrifice his own free time to spend with you. he may sacrifice, and call you even though he is a self described "anti - talk on the phone person".

b- goal or principle. whereas a man with simple interest may continue to show you interest, a man with special interest demonstrates his interest with a goal in mind. he dates you with a goal of marriage as the stated end. simple interest men often date a woman and speak about marriage with the ol’ "maybe one day" line. the special interest man sees you as ‘A WIFE’ and uses contact with you to determine if you are ‘HIS WIFE’.

90% of ya’ll that are getting the simple interest man. His interest is copyable, and can be applied to any woman, anywhere. the simple interest guy IS NOT trying to sacrifice, and tailor his contact with you for your benefit. he says "why go through all of that, I can just pick someone else".

 

My View: This makes sense. The level of interest a man has in a woman determines how far he will go to make something happen. If a man really wants to be with a woman, he will move heaven & earth to make it happen, and she will respond in favor. If there's little or no interest, a man will come up with every excuse in the book not to spend time with the woman. In that case, she can't be upset because in so many words, he's telling her she's not worthy of his time. You can't force someone to be with you, they have to make that decision themselves. Let's be honest, a good man is hard to find. Even more difficult for a woman is to find a good man that will sacrifice his time to be with her. THOSE men aren't to be trifled with.

 



What Are You Worth?

Marvelous Marina Woods
WHAT ARE YOU WORTH?
Seeing that marriage is what dating Christians ultimately seek, why not make marriage the centerpiece of dating, without all the ties? In the Bible, exclusivity before marriage was granted with a price. When Jacob told Laban that he wanted to marry his daughter Rachel, they agreed on a price before she was set-aside for him. Today, with our boyfriend and girlfriend culture, exclusivity costs nothing and is given freely therefore it means next to nothing, especially to men. It is Biblical for a man to collect his savings, buy a diamond and offer it to a woman as a sacrifice and a promise to marry her. No matter what our society says, the Bible does NOT support the process of women setting themselves aside exclusively before a sacrificial offering has been made. Imagine Jacob asking Laban to marry Rachel without a sacrificial demonstration of his love. Jacob worked 7 years for the hand of Rachel. How much are you worth?

My View: Working 7 years to get your desired man/woman? Nobody has time for that. What people you know that are willing to put in that much work for someone who's probably not worth it? I rest my case. I could see putting in work for someone you're genuinely interested in but even that wears off fast. I understand you're supposed to take your time in relationships because we're talking about a lifetime committment; you're not supposed to rush into a relationship with the first person that has a pulse. As the old saying goes, all that glitters isn't gold. Most people focus on the external rather than the internal which is what gets people jammed up. Patience IS NOT a virtue for many folks, and in a way I can't blame them. Nobody should have to jump through hoops for someone, but at the same time you shouldn't rush into a relationship without doing your due diligence. You gotta find that balance between action and caution. If you have a good feeling about someone, full speed ahead. The slightest doubt you have about someone is for a reason, it's to let you know something's not right. Today, very few people are patient enough to take their time to get to know someone. If you told them how in the Bible, Jacob had to put in 7 years work before he could marry Rachel, most people would look at you with a screw face as to say: "7 years? You have to be kidding me. I'm not waiting that long. If (s)he can't recognize a good thing offtop, I'm not waiting around for them." Someone who knows their worth WILL NOT settle for the first person who comes along.