In life, everyone has their assigned roles. Men have their roles and women have theirs. Confusion comes into play because you have women who try to play men's roles and men who try to play women's roles. This commentary was inspired from Ms. Trina Rogers of Facebook. She posted on her status: "Please don't ask for things you are not willing to give! I was called to duty moments ago. I was asked "why don't men just cater to a woman and let her be who she is?" *Lightening Rod!!!* If you have to ask a question like that, you don't need a man! (hence the reason you don't have one) KNOW YOUR ROLE! Give a King his kingdom and become his Queen! Have you ever heard of a poor, unhappy queen? The man has his place! So do you! Until you acknowledge it and play your part, you will be alone!" She dropped a bombshell. Many women need to soak up this knowledge on how to keep a man. I understand there are women who want no part of relationships and that's fine, to each their own. Ms. Rogers status was for women who want to be in a relationship. To answer the "why don't men just cater to a woman and let her be who she is" question, some women want to live like they're single and you can't do that. When you're in a relationship, ripping & running should be history. Doesn't mean both parties can't have their own lives, just that everything one or both say & do affects the other. You can't stay out until 3am and expect not to be questioned by your spouse, it doesn't work like that. Nobody wants someone who doesn't know their place. In order for people to find their desired mate, they MUST do their due diligence. Don't go for the first man/woman you meet, do your homework. Find out EVERYTHING you can about them and proceed accordingly. If they give off personality red flags, pay close attention because it's those red flags that give you a glimpse of who they are. If you meet a person that doesn't know their place and bucks against you, WHY would you still move forward with them? You're setting yourself up for drama because you're trying to get him/her to know their role and they're telling you they aren't going to conform. Exit stage left because there's no sense trying to turn someone into who you want them to be. They're good for someone, just not you. Some women like to throw out controlling towards a man that won't let their woman do what they want without impunity. A man that's the head of his house is supposed to be controlling! A man is responsible for leading his family to be the best they can be and if he's letting them do whatever, he's not exercising his God-given authority. God created man to be in charge such that the woman can feel covered.
