Thug Lovin Pt. 2

A sad realization I've come to is that some women love abusive men. He has no goals but he has swag so that's good enough for them. These are the same women who talk about how they've won. Ma'am, how have you won? You've won with a broken heart, bitterness towards good men that want to treat you well, ice-packs and the list goes on. If she calls that winning, then let her. Men should stop trying to save these women because it's obvious they don't want to be helped. Until a woman truly gets fed up, she will get out. Nothing anyone can say will make her see otherwise. It's a figure of speech (I'm too respectful to mistreat a woman) but let me go upside my woman's head and see if she loves me. Under no circumstance will I ever understand how a woman can stay with an abusive man. He doesn't have to be abusive, he can cheat on her and some women will stay. I feel like this: If you let one thing slide, you'll let major issues slide and at some point, you have to confront head on. You can't allow someone to bulldoze you and not say anything. Abusive/Controlling people have no respect for those who LET them run amok and this pic proves just that; some women have low self-esteem to where they will take any & everything a man gives them.

Open Marriage

Unless the concept of marriage has changed, I've never heard of an open marriage. Last time I checked, marriage was a bond between TWO people that made vows to cherish each other for better or worse. Just another example of how some people want their cake so they can eat it too. Marriage is for monogamy-oriented people, not swingers. That's all open marriage really is, glorified swinging. You're married to someone but you want to sleep with other people. If you can't be faithful to your spouse, maybe you shouldn't get married. It makes more sense than having an "open marriage" It's funny how people try to desecrate a sacred bond because they don't want the commitment. This is why people should take their time to get to know someone because there's no sense in marrying someone that's not on the same page. You're being faithful to your spouse but you don't know if they will return the favor. Stats like these are why people need to screen their partner very carefully.

Here are some statistics according to http://www.divorcestatistics.org: 

Marriage Divorce statistics (in percent)

First Marriage 45% to 50% marriages end in divorce

Second Marriage 60% to 67% marriages end in divorce

Third Marriage 70% to 73% marriages end in divorce

Do these sound like good odds to you? Not to me so that should tell people that the odds of your marriage being successful get slimmer with each marriage. You're lucky to stay married for 10 years or longer. Open marriages - majority of folks aint going for that. When you REALLY love someone, you are not trying to give them permission to be with someone else. Now the person you don't care about, totally different ballgame. You have egos and jealousy playing a huge part for men and women. "Here you go baby, you can see other (wo)men and still be married to me" Yes, see how that works out for you.