Every man wants their woman to hold him down in the rough times, right? Right. Who wouldn't want a man/woman that has their back when the going gets tough? The following question was posed to me by a friend: Why do men withdraw from women they are closest to when they're going through things, but find time to get on facebook? Is it because they are ashamed? My response was as follows: It can be due to shame but it has more to do with pride. Most men don't want to seem weak in front of their woman so they feel they have to be strong 24-7. If a man has to withdraw from his woman in order to get his mind right, that's what he will do. Many men don't want to burden their woman with his problems so that's why most men deal with their issue(s) on their own. When life gets rough (and it will), every man wants a lady that has his back. It takes a lot for a man to open up and when a man feels good about his woman to open up to her, she IS NOT to undermine him in any way because that could damage the relationship. Most women want a strong man (rightfully so) but the strongest men break down from time to time; it doesn't make him less of a man, it means he's human. Men deal with issues differently than women. If women have an issue, they usually talk it out with each other because women are used to dealing with their emotions. With men, it's the opposite. Depending on the man, he will deal with the issue(s) straight up and keep moving. You have some men that deal with problems by going away to clear their heads and that's fine; different strokes for different folks. If I'm in a relationship with my lady and I had a lot on my mind, my first instinct would be to bring it to God and then my woman, if I choose to. Once I get alone, I'm able to resolve most, if not all my problems because the solitude helps me sort things out. I feel it's at least common courtesy to say I need some alone time but dont just single one person out ESP when they are probably one of the few people that genuinely care about you. Everyone needs to be MIA at times in order to get their mind right. Not all the time do we need others to get us through. If a man doesn't feel comfortable telling his woman what's on his mind, that's a sign he needs to get rid of her.
