Before you get involved with someone, you should ask yourself this question: Can I live with the things I dislike about you? The answer to this question should determine how far you progress in your relationship with that person. Everybody that's in a relationship has things they dislike about their (wo)man, that's a given. Some people choose to love their (wo)man despite their shortcomings, others tolerate, and some people leave. Everyone has to do what's best for them, and I understand that. Little things like occassional sarcasm isn't so bad, but when the sarcasm is frequent and becomes hurtful, you're supposed to nip that in the bud. What you allow is what will continue. If someone's honest, they will be direct in their faults & will give you the option to stay or leave. If you stay, you're accepting the good & bad of someone. I respect people who are forthright about their shortcomings, because at some point you'll see their true colors.
How do you know what you dislike about someone unless you're in a relationship? If you're friends with someone, you're evaluating them as a potential partner. You observe them at their best and worst, and their worst tells you all you need to know. Can you love someone even if they're not being lovable back? I've said this before & I'll say it again, nobody can love unconditionally. I can see why some couples live together before marriage, because you don't really know someone like you think. You're not around them 24-7, so all you can do is go off of what they give you. When you're in tune with yourself, you develop discernment. Discernment allows you to see a person's true nature. If you have good vibes with someone, you feel a sense of calm around them. They've been honest with you about who they are from Day 1, and you respect them & vice versa. If something isn't right about a person, you get an uneasy feeling. That's your spirit telling you to exercise caution.
Some will change for the better or worse. Each person has to keep in mind they're not the person they're in love or lust with. No one's mind stays programmed the same way for long or forever.
I'll leave you with this: Eletha Owens Also, when you find out what you don't like about a person, you have two choices: stay or go. If you choose to stay, please keep in mind that a person is most likely to be set in their ways and aren't going to change anytime soon if at all. You can't make a person change, only that person will choose to change. That's why a lot of relationships/marriages fail.
