I'm going to be 100 with this: This man is garbage, straight up. He's leeching off this girl's mom and it's upsetting the daughter. When the daughter's away at school, her mother has no help. Mom has to ask friends for help, when she has another CHILD living under her roof. Make it so bad, this child sees how much of a leech her mom's man is, so why can't the mother? I feel bad for this child because she's tried to talk some sense into her mother, and the mother refuses to listen. I bet the LW and her mother have discussed this many times, and each time the daughter brings up her feelings on this man, mom is like "You don't know what you're talking about" or "You're not going to come between me & my man". When I read this letter, I immediately shook my head because letters like this seem to be a common occurrence, where mother lets her man mistreat her and she takes it. If the daughter says something, she's being disrespectful. It's like this: It's on mom to get sick & tired. The daughter can pray for her mother (which is good, she should keep doing that) to see the light, but the final word is on mother. No amount of wise counsel will do any good if her mother doesn't see her worth & understands she deserves a lot more than what she's getting. These are the kind of women that become bitter because once they've had enough and finally leave, they want to make the next man pay for the sins of the previous one. Women like the LW's mother are conditioned to this disrespect, and they camoflauge to hide their pain.
