Dahlia Speaks (How To Be A Woman)

I was cruising the How To Be A Woman page, and came onto this post. I have no problem with tattoos, as long as they're done tastefully. When you're tatted up, that does look crazy. I know it's one's body, but some things you shouldn't go overboard with. I'm leery of tattoos in general because I've read reports where people contracted HIV & AIDS from infected needles. Yeah, that was enough to turn me off from tattoos. Read Dahlia's words of wisdom regarding tattoos:

 

Tattoos *repost*

There's nothing wrong with tattoos, for the most part. The body is one of the greatest canvases. However, it is wise to do proper research and choose wisely when getting a tattoo.
Ladies, an abundance of tattoos splattered all over your body may project something negative. If you have Pookie, Man Man and Lil Grill's names tattooed on your body with a plethora of other ratchet tattoos, it makes you look trashy. If you have Tinkerbell on a flaming $100 bill next to the name of your street or the word "Bitch" tattooed on yourself, that looks trashy. If you're going to get a tattoo, be mindful of what you're getting and where you're putting it.
What you put on yourself says a lot about you. If you put trashy and outrageous tattoos on yourself, you will be viewed as, and may be treated as such. Ladies don't put on garbage and expect to smell like roses, so don't put garbage tattoos on yourself. If you choose to decorate your canvas with tattoos, go for it, but always do it tastefully. Stay classy ladies.
 ~Dahlia

 

 



ID Channel

Shout out to Khrystle Nichole for this status: If you're thinking about getting married, or want to stay married, don't watch the ID Channel. Who would want to ever get married after watching shows like "Wives with Knives", "How Not to Kill Your Husband", and "Who the Bleep Did I Marry?" And if you're single, there is a show for you too...."Stalked:Someone's Watching".

 

The above status came straight from a friend's Facebook. There is humor in this, but much truth. Those shows are good to watch because you don't know your mate like you think. Anybody can put on a good show to attract you, but when you spend enough time with them, that's when they show their real selves. The common theme in all these shows is the couples didn't do their homework on each other. They were in lust, not in love. The easy part is falling in love with a person: The constant I love you texts, calls, the smoochie-smoochie action, etc turns into I hate you, I can't stand you, I want a divorce, etc. Why do people think that relationships are supposed to be rose petals? In a perfect world, that would be ideal, but because we live in a fallen world, the reality is that divorce, infidelity, and shows like Wives With Knives exist.

If you get to the point where you second guess your relationship, it's time to exit stage left. Life is too short to waste on the wrong person. You have people who WANT a loving relationship, but can't find one through no fault of their own. I heard a saying that rings so true: The wrong people end up together, and the right people have a hard time finding each other. Let's discuss Who The @#$% Did I Marry? The show title alone rings a bell because all couples have wondered this at times. The first argument that ensues, one or both parties scream "Who Did I Marry? Depending on how bad the argument, the aftereffects could leave a devastating impression on the marriage, and could lead to divorce. It's important to keep calm and relax before a spouse says something they may regret. Once the damage is done, in most cases it can never be repaired.

I've never watched any of those shows because I don't know what times they come on, but I will make sure to catch them, because knowledge can come from everywhere, even from negativity. As far as being single is concerned, I don't doubt the stalker issue one bit. Some people see what they want, and will stop at nothing to get their mate. The problem arises, does the person want to be pursued? I wouldn't mind being stalked by an attractive woman, but she must have a sound mind and good character. Nothing worse than being stalked by someone you have no interest in.

Honor Your Father & Mother

If you're familiar with the Bible, you know that Ephesians Chapter 6 tells children to honor their parents so they will live long and well. How does an adult child honor a father who allowed them to get sexually violated by a relative when she was young? Fathers are admonished to be providers & protectors of their families. Being a protector means shielding your child(ren) from all (un)seen dangers. I was watching Iyanla Fix My Life when the Pace sisters were featured. One of the sisters revealed she was violated at a young age, and she held onto that secret well into her adulthood. As I got into the show, she mentioned that although her father was flawed (as all people are), she still respected him because that's what she was taught by the Bible.
That was big of her to continue respecting her father even though he knew who violated her daughter and did nothing. Maybe she didn't tell because he wouldn't believe her, maybe she didn't want to cause a family split, who knows? Not too many adult children would have respect for their parents if they failed to protect them while they were little. Whether that's right or wrong is left to interpretation. Because of a fallen world, this monstrosity happens. It's not right, but it's the truth. I will never understand how parents can fail to protect their children from the predators of society. Once the child gets grown and able, (s)he can protect themselves.
The toughest thing to do is to find it in your heart to respect your parents, even if they allowed unfair things to happen to you on their watch. If you're a Christian, you're supposed to do this even if it it hurts: Do I honor my parents? Of course I do. If I was violated as a child, and my parents knew who did it, but did nothing..I couldn't look at them in the same way. I'd respect them, but it would be tough to be close to people that were entrusted to protect me and they let me down.

DAD WHIPS 13 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER FOR NOT COMING HOME FOR 3 DAYS.!!

 

I think the father was more upset at his daughter dressing like a ho than being gone for 3 days, although I'm sure that played a factor. If a teen daughter goes missing for 3 days and returns looking like a ho, there were problems in the home and with the parenting long before she pulled a disappearing act. He wanted a reason to let loose on his daughter. Some people are saying he went too far, others are supportive of the daughter's slave beating.

 

Three Points:
1.The daughter should've thought about the repercussions before she acted like a floozy. Like Kevin Hart says: She gonna learn today. She won't do that Ho behavior no more.

2. The father took it waaaay too far. You don't drag your daughter and beat them like a slave. Now, she's gonna be scared of her dad (not good) for life. Her view of men will be tainted by this very memory.

3. Girls are fast nowadays, so any ho behavior they think about engaging in, you have to drive it out of them before they end up in a Luke (Miami hip hop legend) video. Obviously, her home life sucks that she had to run off for 3 days. Couldn't be my daughter.

You Don't Tithe? No Help From The Church

The Bible makes mention of tithing; it states that Christians are supposed to give a tenth of their income to the church so there can be meat in the storehouse. What happens when a Christian who isn't a church member comes to the church for help? Do they get turned away or get the help they need? There's a reason why most churches have benevolence funds, because members fall on hard times and those funds are a safety net. I feel like this: If you don't tithe to your place of worship, you can't come to the church for assistance. You tithe to your favorite ministries (there's nothing wrong with that), but you can't financially support your local church, and you have the audacity to reach out for help? Have several seats.

That's like coming to a party with your cup, but didn't chip in on the alcohol. Not only is that awkward, but crazy. You didn't bring any drinks, but you want to drink the alcohol. That's not going to go over well with the other patrons. Most churches will help outsiders in need, but their first priority is to their congregation. It's only fair for churches to help tithing members first, and everyone else afterwards. I think it's ridiculous for some Christians to think they're entitled to help from a church they don't go to, let alone tithe at.

Can I withdraw money from my 401K if I refuse to put money in? Can I use my ATM card if I never make a deposit? If I was in a motor cycle club and I refuse to pay dues, could I get them to fix my bike with due money? Yet, people think they can come a get money from the church house. Getting a true understanding of the word is worth more then any benevolence one can receive. Churches exist to help their members, not be everybody's sucker. If that means putting restrictions on who you help, so be it. You're not going to make everyone happy because there are some people you won't be able to help.



I'm Bossy-Kelis

 

Back in '06, Kelis dropped the song "I'm Bossy" The theme is to empower women to be more assertive. Many women carry that over into their relationships with men, and wonder why they can't keep one. Unless the man is a simp (there are weak men who actually like bossy women), no real man wants a bossy woman. Men are strong-willed and tough, and if you put a bossy woman into the mix, there will be friction because both man and woman will want their way. There can never be two chiefs in a relationship because of the inevitable conflict. It's somewhat acceptable for a man to be bossy because men are authoritative by nature, but for a woman to be bossy...that's not hot. I'm not saying she has to be a doormat (most women wouldn't go for that), but there's a fine line between assertive and demanding.

Ever since "I'm Bossy" came out, women have eaten this song up like a buffet. Regular women from time to time scream I'm Bossy. I don't have time to deal with a bossy woman because no matter what I do for her, it may never be good enough. A bossy woman will have a man jump through many hoops just because. No one has time for that. If a man wants a bossy woman, that's his perogative; he needs to understand that he can't complain about her being unreasonable because he chose her. Obviously, he liked her bossy nature if he slept with her. One thing's certain, I wish I would be interested in a bossy woman. I don't have to worry about that because I'm more laid-back so it's natural for me to want a laid-back woman.

I don't understand how some men LIKE bossy women, that has never clicked with me. Maybe he likes a bossy woman in the bedroom, but I digress. The only men who like domineering women are simps, and we all know simp men have no backbone. If simps want bossy women, they can have them.

 

 

You're That Chick

You're That Chick: Destroying a family because you can't get your own man, knowing good and well he's not leaving his wife. You're just a side piece to him.

You're That Chick: Sleeping her way to the top because she can't get there on talent and hard work.

You're That Chick: First one to say she doesn't like drama, but always in the midst of it.

You're That Chick: Telling a man what his role is, but when he tells a woman what her role is, it's a problem.

You're That Chick: Posting all your drama on Facebook, then get upset when people judge you.

You're That Chick: Complains about thirsty men in her inbox, but her pics have her bent over with her butt tooted in the air. She brought that on herself.

You're That Chick: Being combative with men, but want to cower when he puts you in your place, and dares you to move.

You're That Chick: Faithfully tuning into Scandal Thursday evening, but don't know how to cook.

You're That Chick: Teaching your son how to "beat it up". I believe that's called incest. Ewwww.

You're That Chick who thinks it's cute to have your little girl cussing up a storm. No, it's not. I'm sick of seeing these videos of little ghetto children cursing like grown folks. That's not hot, and never was.

You're That Chick who thinks she can raise a boy into a man. Look at all these effeminate young men, and I ask how's that working out for you?

You're That Chick who would rather spend $500 on weave than your child(ren).

 

*If all of these make a woman "that chick" then she needs to do some serious soul-searching. Being "that chick" is nothing to be proud of.