Pure Comedy..Jesus Doesn't Love You

Some ideologies are SO ridiculous, that all you can say is Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You. Some of these are recycled from yesterday, others are fresh off the top.

 

~Shout out To Men who are "secure" in their manhood to show emotion (i.e. cry), yet consider themselves real men. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout out To Women who want to be men; Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout Out to women who criticize other women who hold them accountable for twisted ideologies towards men. PURE COMEDY, JESUS WILL NEVER LOVE YOU.

~I want to send a special shout out to people who criticized Rachael Jeantel for her dialect & speech. First off, she's trilingual (Creole/Haitian, Spanish, and English), and second, she didn't want to testify. Third, she was the same age as Trayvon Martin when he was killed. Given what she's been through, people need to have several seats and lay off that girl. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Special shout out to Christian women who quote the Bible regarding man's responsibilities, but when an educated man flips the script, and talks about what women should do...wolves howl in the wind. A deluxe vibrator collection and an army of dead zombie cats are their lot.

~Shout Out to men who talk about going to Brazil or wherever to find a wife, because they think she will jump when you say how high. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~It's ironic that some women want a man with his stuff together, but expect him to help her come up. Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You

~Half of the best TV Shows earlier this year got axed, only to be replaced by crap TV. Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You (network executives)

~Men should stop kidding themselves. All of a sudden, you want to settle down with one woman when you used to be a pimp/player? Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Since when did education & financial stability make one a suitable spouse? I thought loyalty & respect, plus compatibility were more important. To those who think this way: Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You.
~Shout out to men who want to be women, because it's easier. Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You.
~Shout out to all ladies who take on manly characteristics, then want to be women when it suits them. Pure Comedy...Jesus Does Not, and Will Never Love You.

I Got Something On My Mind

~Shout Out To Men who say "yaaasss" in a homosexual manner. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~The irony about this gay agenda is when people take a stand against gay marriage, gays and gay supporters are quick to say "Live & Let Live". Ok, then when students want to pray in schools, talk about Jesus or celebrate Christmas..LIVE & LET LIVE.

~From Hondo Solomon: "I LOL when I find women stating they want a man that can keep up with them. This always leads to their doing everything else except taking care of the man and his home."

-Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout out To Men who are "secure" in their manhood to show emotion (i.e. cry), yet consider themselves real men. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout out To Women who want to be men; Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~It's suspect for a man to be worried about what another man is doing. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~To whom much is given, much is required. In the same light, when much is acquired, much is at risk.

~Shout Out to women who criticize other women who hold them accountable for twisted ideologies towards men. PURE COMEDY, JESUS WILL NEVER LOVE YOU.

~Today's rap is all about balling in the clubs, what I smoke, drink, how many cars I have, I have hoes, gun shooting, pushing weight (drugs), etc

~People talking about popping molly, and sweating; do these fools know what molly is, let alone can do to you? Shakes Head. I swear rappers are gassing these folks up with drug use promotion. First, sipping syrup. Second, popping molly. What's next?

~Special shout out to Christian women who quote the Bible regarding man's responsibilities, but when an educated man flips the script, and talks about what women should do...wolves howl in the wind. A deluxe vibrator collection and an army of dead zombie cats are their lot.

~Shout Out to men who talk about going to Brazil or wherever to find a wife, because they think she will jump when you say how high. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~"It's not tricking if you got it" Well, I'm not tricking, and I got it.

~New Year, New Me? Have Several Seats. New Year, Same You. Nothing changes, and probably never will.

 

 





Polygamy=Constant Sex?

This brother keeps it real regarding polygamy. Read the following paragraph:

John Tank Williams
I noticed something about you brothers on facebook who promote POLYGAMY.....you never speak about the ECONOMIC side of POLYGAMY......you know like "how much it would actually cost to run that shit". I'm sorry but you can't raise 8 kids and support 4 wives working at PUBLIX making $9.75 an hour....oh, but I get it....you gonna put your wives to work right??? well, if you do that then you're gonna have 4 tired, angry, frustrated, unhappy ass women........same ol nigga shit.....Let's be honest brah, you just want a whole lotta booty in the house, right??? If you talking about POLYGAMY without ECONOMICS, don't call it POLYGAMY....call it POO-NIGGA-ME.....ol Pussy hawk ass niggas.........

 

My View: Aside from the foul language, this man has a point. Many men who choose to engage in polygyny DON'T count the cost. All they think about is having multiple women in the house; which means they get sex anytime they want (which may/may not be true, depending on the women involved). Taking care of ONE family is tough, but to be responsible for multiple women? Nah, I'll pass. Some men don't consider the huge responsibility of trying to keep multiple women happy. It's all about sex for some of these thirsty men. Each woman brings her own set of attributes and skills to the table, and for polygyny to be successful, all women must come together to help the man build. Polygamy is like a company: The man is CEO, and the women function as his employees; each woman plays her position. The main wife (the one he marries) must support her husband's polygamy lifestyle. That's where the problem lies, because most women would not go for their man having multiple wives. Let a man tell his wife he wants to be a polygamist, see how that works out for him. There are some women who would be ok with polygyny, because when you consider both spouses working full-time to provide for their family, the husband & wife will need assistance with daily home operations. Let's do the math: $14 hour * 40 hours * 52 weeks a year=That's $29,120 a year a husband is bringing home; not counting taxes. A husband engaged in polygyny (a man having multiple wives) CANNOT support 4 wives and 8 children off of that salary. If a man is going to engage in polygamy, he better have multiple income streams. Sure, he can put his wives to work, but the wives are going to be unhappy, and irritable. Hondo Solomon (a Facebook friend, and author of The Polygamist Papers: An Introduction to Polygamous Culture and Its Principles, Pitfalls, and Ethics) approaches polygamy from a practical standpoint. Most men think about having a bunch of women, but none of the business that goes with taking care of a family, providing for, and guiding them.



Self-Made

When I think of the term self-made, I see a person who has become successful on their own. They had a vision of where they wanted to be, and made things happen for themselves. These people had no help; in fact, others have rejected them when that person has taken the time to get to know an influential person, in hopes that (s)he will mentor him. This self-made person is tired of relying on others, so they decide to take their future in their own hands. "If no one will help me come up, I'll do it myself." Is being self-made a bad thing? Yes and No. Yes, because at some point, one must learn to rely on others for assistance. Sometimes (I hate that I have to say this, but it's true for the most part), you have to be told no, in order to get to your yes. Being told no shows you that everyone will not help you when you ask. No, because many times you have to encourage yourself. You have to dig deep, and not let naysayers deter you from your dreams. Many successful people are where they're at, because they didn't accept being told no. They pulled themselves up by their bootstraps and were driven to make their own way. Once they start to prosper, they can say "I did that. I had no help getting where I am now." There's a time to rely on others, and a time to do it yourself. If you've watched the entrepreneur show Shark Tank, the narrator announces the following self-made investors who are entrepreneurs: Mark Cuban, Daymond John, Robert Herjavec, Kevin O'Leary, Barbara Corcoran, Lori Greiner (Lori alternates with Barbara on some Shark Tank episodes). I think all of us are self-made to a degree, because there were times we had to rely on our abilities to make it, and times where we had to solicit support from a mentor. Self-Made is a term that elicits pride, a belief that you can achieve anything you put your mind to, no matter the opposition.

You Don't Judge? Wait For It...Wait For It.

Mary Stieff

I have something to get off my chest that has been vexing me for a very long time. Too many people nowadays talk about "I don't judge". Yes, you do, just not in some of the ways you think are important. My issue is: I hate when people think just because you have never been married, never had children, and been single a good while, that you are clueless to real life situations and struggles. A clear "judgement". They feel this person has nothing to teach them. Really? How about a person being single by choice learning self-discipline, self-control, and knowing their self-worth that they don't have to settle for just any and everybody out here who looks their way. A person who is not making babies all over the place and crying about child support and baby mama/daddy drama. You made them, you laid with them. Be happy you have them. You could be in the opposite situation where you want babies desperately and can't or know if you can have them. You may be single, but you've held a few marriages and relationships together based on God given wisdom. You can get into the psyche of troubled and wayward teens because you counseled them for over 10 years. You can tell their parents what's going on with them without even knowing them but, knowing the parent and their behaviors. Or because these teens choose to confide in you. Also, you have spent the last 20 years helping to raise other people's children. You've taken them to appointments, did late night feedings, been in hospitals holding hands to calm fears, watched and cheered baseball games, track meets and practices, and watched the oldest few graduate high school. But, because you never birthed a baby or been a Mrs. you get put behind a glass wall and get labeled as clueless, or invaluable.
Oh really? Yeah, I hate that!

 

My View: Everybody is judgmental, like it or not. Some people are bold with it, others are subtle in letting people know they are judgmental. What's the deal with people thinking that because you're single, you can't offer valid relationship advice? That's silly because some of the greatest advice has come from single folks. They're able to be that 3rd eye for a couple; they may see things that couples don't see. I'm going to keep it real: Couples don't have all the answers, when it comes to relationships. Yes, couples can be a good information source for singles looking to be involved. After all, the best way to be successful is by surrounding yourself with successful people. At the same time, that couple gives you advice according to what works for them. Their advice may/may not work for you. I applaud single people who are single by choice. They are learning about themselves, and working on their goals. I believe there's someone for everyone, but according to a recent conversation with a friend of mine, not everyone is meant for a relationship. Others are single by choice, some are single just because they aren't willing to settle for less than what they servce. Don't discredit a single person just because they aren't in a relationship. Be selective in what advice you receive. If it applies, accept and keep moving. If not, toss it in the trash. Some people in relationships can be narrow-minded, because they tend to look down on singles as if something is wrong with them if they're not in a relationship. Many people see the pitfalls of others and their relationships, so they end up not making the same mistakes. A wise person learns from others' mistakes. Then again, you have to ask yourself why this single person is giving you their unwarranted advice. Could they want what you have, and are trying to break you guys up? More times than not, that's the case.



Real Men vs. Real Women

Women like to say what a real man does/is, and men do the same thing (explain what a real woman does/is). Both genders are correct. Here's a list of Real Men vs. Real Women statements:

 

1. Real Men Don't Hit Women, even if she's trying to kill him-Some women love to throw this in a man's face when he's trying to defend himself. The sad thing is, some women do this because the law is on their side. Put their hands on a man, he can't hit her back or he'll get locked up. Not to mention that some women are spiteful, so they can make a man's life hell just out of spite.

2. Real Men Cater To A Woman-If she makes his life better, why wouldn't he want to give her the world? Here's the catch: The woman has to be worthy, because no man in his right mind should go all out for a woman that's NOT doing anything for him.

3. Real Men Don't Argue With A Woman-I don't know where this one came from, but it has lame written over it. No man is going to let ANYONE (especially a woman) get jazzy at the mouth with him. According to some women, a man is a man if he lets a woman talk crazy to him. Everytime a man is critical of a woman: He's bitter & gay, hates his mother, hates women. Deflection is a favorite tool to draw the focus off oneself. Personally, I don't have time to go back & forth with a woman. If she wants to act stupid, she can act a fool by herself.

4. The Bible Says...A Man Is Supposed To (insert Bible verse about what a man is supposed to do)-This one here is a trip. Yes, the Bible does outline man's responsibilities, BUT the Bible also says what a woman is SUPPOSED to do. I see why many men want nothing to do with some Christian women, because many of them can quote scripture about what man should be doing, but when it comes to a woman's role, they leave that part out.

5. Real Women Take Care Of Their Man-Self explanatory. When I say "take care of their man", I mean someone you're married to. So many people take care of each other husband & wife style, then there's nothing left for marriage. A man or woman IS NOT obligated to take care of their mate during the courting phase. When the couple gets engaged, I can see that; because they are getting ready to become married. To give husband benefits to your boyfriend is NO BUENO.
6. Real Women Support Their Man-Pretty obvious, if you ask me. Many women expect for their man to be on point before he steps to her, so why aren't women held to the same standard? The man has to support his lady in her dreams, but when he asks for her support while he's trying to make a better life for them, and it's going to take time, some women become impatient. Many women want microwave prosperity.
7. Real Women Are Great Cooks-Today's modern woman doesn't know how to cook, nor does she want to learn. Yet, she expects for her man to be a 5-star chef. Just like men should be expected to know how to cook, the same applies to women. Besides, what if the man doesn't feel like slinging pots & pans every day? If his woman knows her way around the kitchen, she can relieve him on some days.
8. Real Women Don't Argue-A man says what he has to say, and moves on. There are some women who don't like arguments, and that's good. Life is too short to go back & forth with someone, especially a person you take to be your partner. You can have disagreements without the cussing, name-calling, and other childish antics. Many women don't know how to argue without raising their voice. That's what turns men off, and causes them to walk away.



Don't Lay Up, If You Can't Pay Up

Unless you've been living under a rock, 70% or more children are born out of wedlock. That statistic is dismal, because it shows that some people don't respect natural order. The natural order is education/career, marriage, then children. That's how it was done back in the day. Having children is expensive, because you have to raise them for 18 years minimum. Buying school clothes, life & health insurance, college fund, senior fees, etc. All of that takes money. My question is this: If you don't see yourself long-term with someone, why have their child(ren)? It's not fair for the child, because they are split between two homes. Studies show that children growing up in a two-parent are more likely to be successful, because their parents gave them proper guidance. Of course, there are instances which children are better off with one parent; abuse and absenteeism to name a few. You have parents who are physically there, but not there emotionally. Some parents know nothing about their child(ren), and vice versa. That's where this topic comes from, because how can parents bring children into this world, and not invest in them? You might as well give the child up for adoption, or get an abortion (worst case scenario). Being that I'm against abortion (except for rape, because I feel a woman should not be forced to carry a rapist's child. In that manner, I'm for abortion), the best route for unwanted children is adoption. You have couples who would give unwanted children a loving environment. It's lazy for parents to have children, and not take care of them. Young parents push their child(ren) on the parents, while they rip & run the streets. Many times, some young parents let their parents raise THEIR child, because they want to have fun. Sorry, but if you lay up, be ready to pay up. Paying Up means you sacrifice fun for your child(ren). Instead of going out with the fellas, you're home taking care of your child(ren).

Sleeping With A Married Man

This Strawberry Letter is from June 13th Steve Harvey Morning Show, and it's titled: Sleeping With A Married Man. Here's the letter:

I am sleeping with a married man. A little background: Over ten years ago, I met this man while I was in college. We hit it off good; we were more than friends, but never defined our relationship. I left to come back home. We keep in touch because we did consider each other as someone we really wanted in each others' lives. I ended up getting married. We still kept in contact. Fastfowarding three years ago, me and my husband separated. My old friend started opening up about how he felt about me, and I fell for him hard, because i felt the same. After my divorce, we started meeting up because we do not stay in the same town. I was thinking about trying to make a long distance relationship work, and go all in. One night, I decided to check records regarding if he was married or not. I remember it being mentioned some years back, but I was told it never happened. Well it did after finding this information out, I was crushed he kept this from me for over six years. It made me question if we really was friends or not. If he told me from the beginning, I don't think I would be sleeping with him now, but my feelings were too deep. I was thinking I could make something of this flame. I did address the issue with him, and tried to walk away. He told me he didn't want to tell me because he knew I wouldn't be down for it, and he really wanted me in his life. After a month or two, He pulled me back in with sweet nothings of he really needs & loves me, and how our relationship is special. I asked him to think about what we're doing; would he be ready for the consequences? He never gives me an answer. And for some reason, we can't seem to let go of each other, well at least I can't find a way to cut my string from him. Please, what can I do to get out of this situation, and can we still be friends without lovers?

 

My $.02: I know Steve Harvey & his staff have to crack up at some of these strawberry letters. Some of these letters are so obvious as to what people should do, but some people make situations so difficult. First off, what is she doing sleeping with a married man? Common sense tells you to leave another woman's man alone. It's bad enough married couples don't respect their marriage vows, it's worse when an outsider infringes on your union. Besides, what makes some women THINK a married man is going to leave his wife? It's not going to happen; the sooner some women learn this, the better. The fact is, she's a jumpoff. He loves her body, not her as a person. That's usually the case with jumpoffs, they are focused on getting theirs; forget the wife. Forget about that wife who thinks her husband is coming home to her, when he's getting some from another woman. Some people will say "If he's not getting at home, he will look for it elsewhere. What married man that's sleeping with another woman is going to admit he's married? IT DOESN'T HAPPEN. The husband sees this woman as a piece of meat. He's going to go home to his wife, and carry on like nothing happened. The husband isn't off the hook, because he should respect his wife. When I read scenarios like this, I have to wonder why get married? Why marry someone, if you want side loving? If you're going to cheat on your (wo)man, DON'T GET MARRIED. I say this often on Facebook relationship discussions, people don't respect marriage. I want to know how this turns out, and hopefully they will get exposed. What's Done In The Dark, Will Come To The Light. Someone should have had some sense to pump the brakes; Wait...that's too much like right.



I Want What You Have

What you take for granted, someone is praying for. Some people don't realize how blessed they really are. I look at people suffering with disabilities, and those who have perfect health; I know in the back of a disabled person's mind, they envy the person with perfect health. What comes naturally for most people, others struggle with. I can't stand people who take their blessings for granted. Those are the first ones to bellyache when something goes wrong. Sometimes, God will take away your good fortune to let you know there are those who are less fortunate, that will appreciate YOUR good health, talent(s), or social status. If I had the ability, I would make every ungrateful person walk a mile in the shoes of someone who's less fortunate; see how that turns out. I bet you those ungrateful people will straighten up REAL fast. No one wants to go back to struggling, especially if they remember what it took to get where they're at. Those are the people I admire, because they are humble. Humility goes a long way, remember that. You have some people who complain, no matter how great things are going. I want to say, "What are you bellyaching about? You have everything going for you, and then some, and you're crying? There are people that have to work harder than you to get the same opportunities. If anything, THOSE people have reason to bellyache." I will say this, to those who had a good start in life: BE GRATEFUL! Appreciate your good fortune, because there's others with the odds stacked against them, that try to catch a break, only to have doors repeatedly slammed in their face. When I start being ungrateful, I check myself because there's always someone worse off than me. I don't glorify anyone's suffering (I pray for their deliverance), but I am grateful that I don't have worse struggles than some people.

Daddy's Girl(s)? Have Several Seats.

Let it be known that I'm annoyed at some women who refer to themselves as Daddy's Girl(s). Really? That's a red flag because to me, that shows she can't think for herself. She has to run to Dad for everything. See, men wouldn't get down like this because it's expected for a man to be able to stand on his own. So why should women get a pass? Doesn't make sense. When I think of the term Daddy's Girl, I think of an attached woman that measures her future husband by her father. If he was a wonderful husband, she seeks that in her future husband. If he's sorry, well..you know the rest. Just like women frown upon mama's boys, men should frown upon women who refer to themselves as Daddy's Girl. Grow Up ladies, seriously. After a certain age, you should be able to choose for yourself the kind of man you want, INDEPENDENT of your father. Some women pride themselves on being independent, but you wouldn't know it since they refer to themselves as a Daddy's Girl. Should I meet a woman who refers to herself as Daddy's Girl, she WILL NOT receive further consideration from me. I understand if a woman had a wonderful father, but once she grows up, she should be able to discern for herself what a good man is. Some women are always saying how independent they are, well here's their chance to prove it: From here on out, a woman IS NOT to compare her future husband to her father, even if her pops was an excellent provider & parent. It's borderline incestuous to hear a woman paint herself as Daddy's Girl. To me, that signals some sexual activity going on (yes, dads and daughters do have sexual relationships in this sick world). Make it so bad, some women glorify being a Daddy's Girl. Ma'am, being a Daddy's Girl is not a good look for you or your future husband. That tells your man you aren't independent enough to choose a good man for yourself, so you need your father to be your measuring stick. If men are expected to leave father & mother, and cling to their wife, the same applies to women.

Keep It Classy: By Lotus (How To Be A Woman)

I like my women classy, not showing all the booty.

 

How to Be a Woman

KEEP IT CLASSY

Ladies,

Summertime is upon us, and the summer wardrobe is in effect. While we are dressing for the weather, we still need to be mindful to leave something to the imagination. We can't expect for men to approach us like the ladies that we are if we are portraying an image less than that. Ladies look like ladies. We can still be sexy and beautiful without showing everything God gave us. True enough, sometimes, you can't judge a book by its cover. But, if the cover of the book is a hot mess and shows him everything from the outside, why would he want to waste his time opening up the book to find out what's inside? Also, please dress appropriately for your body type, meaning the body you have NOW, not the body you want LATER. If you're not where you want to be physically, be encouraged, because hard work will get you there. What you look like in relation to your attire, is a direct indicator of how you feel about yourself on the inside. Some crave attention and dressing scantily is how they get it. But, all attention is not good attention. I have never understood how a woman can walk around half-naked and then get upset when a man steps to her disrespectfully. Respect yourself first. Ultimately, your style and attire is your decision. All I'm saying is, let's keep it classy. Because everything is not for everybody. S/N: Those that protest about this post, just might be the guilty ones.

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Getting Upset When It Rains: By Lotus (How To Be A Woman)

Introduction: Some women will blame the moon, stars, and the sun for some of their poor choices. It never ends. Excuses have excuses.

 

How to Be a Woman

***CAUTION: HARD HITTER AHEAD - PROCEED AT YOUR OWN RISK***

UNDERSTATEMENT

Ladies, 
 You can't create your own storm, and then get mad when it rains. Accountability is severely lacking. We have made choices that have led us to the sad, current state of affairs that we are in. It's always, "What about the men"? "Look what they're doing." "They are no good." I say, what about the women? Look what we are doing, or not doing? We make "no good" choices and then want to wash our hands of all responsibility. We should be ashamed. Women have no self-respect anymore. Some will do anything for a dollar. They share their body with the devil himself as they lay down their dignity, only to rise with disdain. They exit the house and face the world, looking like they just rolled out of bed, with head scarves and pajamas their choice of attire. They use their children as bargaining chips, and as a means to get a check. Instead of raising their standards and raising their children, they choose to decrease their value and diminish their worth. Ethics and morals seem to be a thing of the past. Partying takes precedence over being an active, responsible parent. Our little ones are more familiar with curse words than spelling words. I could go on, but I won't. I am truly saddened by what we have become, and I weep for our babies. A sad state of affairs? Please. That's the understatement of the year.

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Pledge Of Allegiance: Lotus (How To Be A Woman)

Introduction: As usual, the lovely ladies of How To Be A Woman drop another hit. This one is about loyalty. The reason why some women have issue with loyalty, is because they are loyal to the wrong men.

 

How to Be a Woman

PLEDGE OF ALLEGIANCE

Ladies,

Loyalty is everything. Dedication to your man creates an unbreakable bond. Relationships must be based on mutual devotion and respect. We are all familiar with what allegiance means. But, sometimes our loyalty is misplaced. We have loyalty to our careers and our girlfriends. Some of us have more loyalty to our hairstylists than we do to our own man. Constantly breaking up over minor issues is not a display of loyalty. Professing your love publicly but flirting in your inbox with other men is not dedication. If you feel like the man you are with is not worth your loyalty for whatever reason, it's time for a re-assessment of you. Could it be that you attracted someone not "worthy" of your loyalty, because your actions don't make you worthy of any either? Make that promise. Dedication to your man makes you all the more attractive. If you can't pledge your allegiance, you're a waste of each other's time.

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Wake-Up Call To Men: Stop Simping Movement

If THIS doesn't light a fire under men's behinds, I don't know what will.

 

STOP Simping Movement
Men of today will put up with anything from brawds because they don't have 'any' standards.

They will put up with anything from women, attitude and all. Women are out of pocket today because men have no standards. They (men) do not have a set of standards they adhere to, they flip-flopping game goofy sons a bitches.

And this is usually what a tender dick puts up with to get laid.

I hear and see women say and type all the time 'that a man must PROVE he's a man before she treats him with any kind of treatment like RESPECT.

And it's usually like that because men put up with bullshit attitudes from women. I'll be DAMNED, if a woman ain't coming with 100% cooperation.

I've had it, I get it, I REFUSE to deal with lower caliber women that cannot bring what I require to the table (QUALITY). Most men think they are lucky because they got a bitch, FUCK THAT!! I've had cooperation and I HAVE cooperation from women. My mindset is I've had it before, I can get it again which I do, I can and I will. I can get better than a bitch with an attitude. I do not deal with women who make my life difficult, and there are women who like to be difficult. I had a woman once tell me "I hope you have money to go with those high demands you make when trying to get women" it's high demands to a bitch who can't MEET my standards and are BELOW me. My standards are high to those who cannot reach out to me and touch me, those who cannot get with or at me. Unlike some people who have OVER EXAGGERATED STANDARDS; I've actually HAD and HAVE what I require from women, most people make standards and they've never had what they are demanding. My standards, that is how I roll, It's how I get down.

Most men THINK having women come at them with half ass cooperation is normal, because that's what they are use to, that's what they are use to putting up with.

When a woman says a man must first show her (whatever she deems worthy of man title) That's a sign she's going to be difficult. A man shouldn't have to prove shit, who the fuck is she?

What the hell do these females think this is?

Coaches do not put players in play that don't submit to them, SO WHY SHOULD A MAN SHOW A WOMAN WHO IS ALREADY GIVING HIM A HARD TIME THAT HE IS A STATE CHAMPION?
She's not even acting like a team player, or like she wants to be drafted.

Generals do not lead armies of rebellious soldiers into the field of battle, knowing it will up the chance they'll lose with an idiot in the ranks, so why should a man show a woman anything, IF SHE CAN'T STAND AT ABOUT FACE AND TAKE ORDERS LIKE A GOOD SOLDIER?
Pack your bags, go home, we do not need you.

STANDARDS, that's what I'm talking about, GET SOME!!! If women aren't showing you respect and cooperation up front, do not bother with them. -SSM.



Showing Your (Wo)man love: Dahila of How To Be A Woman

Fellas, it's not simpish to treat your lady. It's okay to buy her something nice, take her out to eat and take her to get her nails done, but only if she deserves it. If you're with a woman that treats you badly, you shouldn't even treat her to a Happy Meal. You should treat her with a charge to the game. But, if it's your woman and she's good to you, there's nothing wrong with treating her to something. Granted, you don't have to buy her flowers everyday, that's excessive. But if she likes a pair of shoes at Aldo's and you get it for her, don't think that you're a simp. You should want your woman to always look good and on point. Your woman should match your sexy. What man wants to look like he stepped off of GQ Magazine and his lady looks like she stepped off of National Geographic? Seriously, no man wants this.

If she's a real woman and she treats you like a king, return the favor. After all, she's your queen and she didn't get on that throne with you without work. She worked to get herself to a level to be with a man on a high level. So, treat her as good as she treats you. If you don't know what to get her, the Victoria Secret Semi Annual Sale starts next week. That's a treat for her and you. Treating your lady doesn't make you a simp, it makes you a king that's proud to have a great woman on his arm that is worth treating like a queen.

~Dahlia



The Friend Zone: By Dahlia (How To Be A Woman)

Intro: Dahlia (How To Be A Woman) puts men on blast about the Friend Zone. Read On

 

Fellas, I want to talk to you guys for a moment. Never allow yourself to be put in the friend zone, ever. I don't care what Guy Code or what simp books say, don't you dare let yourself be put in the friend zone. Women do not respect a man in that zone.

When a women puts you in that category, she wants the most benefits from you without having to commit to you or sleep with you. Typically if she puts you in that zone, she's talking to another man, she's in a relationship, she's using you to boost her ego, she's using you to trick your money to her and/or she views you as a "brother". Women, for the most part, do not respect 3 types of men: men who aren't dominate and don't lead, men who are simps and men in the friend zone. Don't wait for her to change her mind, because she really won't and don't simp to her, she'll use you to boost her ego and get free things from you. Women like to work for their men, because things you work for have value. If she doesn't have to work for you, she doesn't value you, so why should you be her man?

If she puts you in the friend zone, switch your game up! Become distant and unavailable. If she wants you to buy her something or take her out, make it seem like you don't have anytime for her. Tell her you're going on a date or your with hitting a spot with many beautiful women (not a strip club), even if you aren't. Also, holler at her friends and watch her switch her game up. If you talk to her friends, her ego will be frazzled because you were bold enough do it. And women like competition. Sometimes, women don't see a man as worth it unless he has other women around him. Or, just charge her to the game. Move onto women that are worth your time. You must never allow a woman to compromise your manhood. Value yourself as a man. You have to believe that you are worth something greater than the damn friend zone. Put yourself on and move onto bigger and better opportunities. Deal with women who will value your worth, your game and your masculine energy. If she doesn't, charge it!

The friend zone is the twilight zone, just a ball of confusion. You get what you allow. Value yourself, get out of that situation and move onto something worthwhile. Fellas, real men strive for the best, so don't lower yourself to the friend zone. Always value yourself as a man.

~ Dahlia ♥



A Random Thought (Azalea of How To Be A Woman)



Another POWERFUL message by one of the How To Be A Woman ladies. Read On:

How to Be a Woman

~~A Random Thought~~

I was looking at some flowers and thought of a good analogy, since women are often compared to flowers: Making a flower takes a lot of energy for a plant, no matter how big or small. Creatures are attracted to the beauty of a flower, including humans. They are colorful, fragrant, and an indication of bearing fruit.
Why does this have any relevance to this page? Well, it takes hard work to 'be a flower,' especially one that bears fruit. It takes time and effort to be gentle, nurturing, tactful, sweet, and pleasant. We are 'cultivated' by our people, views, ideas, beliefs, and experiences--our climate, water, soil, sunshine, and air. We take these things and make them our own and share them to the next person. We are the plant we become and can change depending on environment--the most adaptable survive.

If the plant is not wanted, then it is a weed. It is so easy to be a weed. They just pop up where you least expect them. They are annoying, sometimes parasitic, and deeply rooted if they want to be, but with the right tools they can be removed or cultivated into a more useful/attractive plant. I would rather keep and teach it to grow than culling the plant.
I would like our teachings to be like plant food and fertilizer. Some will be like fish emulsion--yes, it stinks and is yucky, but it is needed and useful for growing. Some will be like slow-release---it is gentle and won't burn. Some will be like compost--an oldie but a goodie. Some will be like a liquid fertilizer--a thirst quenched, a refresher. Some will be grainy and powdery--like oatmeal, it is good for you.
I'd like this page, like my garden, to be organic rather than conventional--we don't want to produce GMOs, as they are artificial and loaded with pesticides and herbicides; we want to make the real stuff--natural, more flavorful, more nutritious, and more likely to be heirlooms, and won't cause cancer in the long run.
If you are a flower according to your man and other men, please spead the seeds your flowery goodness onto the next generation so they can be the future cultivar of flowers. Be a flower or a fruit-bearing flower, but for goodness sake don't be a weed.
*~Azalea



Prince Charming: By Dahlia (How To Be A Woman)

How to Be a Woman

Ladies, it's okay to have dreams for your Prince Charming. We grow up imagining ourselves as princesses and we hope to find that prince that will whisk us away to a beautiful castle and that we'll live happily ever after! But, unfortunately, life isn't a fairy tale.
As young girls, we're princesses that dream of princes. As women, we're Queens that dream of Kings. Don't give up your dreams, because they can come true. You can find that wonderful, real man, but you must understand what it is to be a wonderful, real woman. You must be on top of your A game, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. You need to understand that while a college degree, a nice place and a good job are great things, that doesn't put you at the top of the totem pole. Real men want a good woman at their side, one who has her own mind, acts like a lady and submits to him, as well as other great features and aspects. And ladies, you already know that you only submit to the right kind of man.
It's okay to have a dream. But the purpose of a dream is to work on it to make it a reality. If you dream big, do big. Make sure you can be the best woman you can be for yourself, and be on point so that a great man will check for you. Water does indeed seek its own level, so be on your Queen ish so you can find a man on his King ish. Be the best and the best will come to you.
As it was said in "Inception", "You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling."
~Dahlia ♥

 

 

My View: When I started this blog website in January 2012, the intent was to showcase my $.02 on various subjects. I still do that, but I also promote others' work on my blog as well. The Facebook Group How To Be A Woman is a page that I proudly support because the ladies who run it are stand-up; one of which is married. Much of this week's material has come from their page, because it's too good NOT to share. Today's topic is titled Prince Charming. Every woman dreams of finding her Prince Charming; the perfect man she can live happily ever after with. Nothing wrong with that, because a stand-up man seeks a queen he can grow old with. The difference between today's woman seeking Prince Charming, and children's fairy tales is evident: In children's stories, the princess spent time getting herself ready for her Prince. She made sure she had herself together, and she wasn't satisfied until her Prince saw nothing but perfection. Today's woman? Not so much. Some women want to be called queens, but many act NOTHING like one. How can you be called a Prince or Queen, when you don't have the qualities of one? That's nonsense. This part stands out to me: Make sure you can be the best woman you can be for yourself, and be on point so that a great man will check for you. Water does indeed seek its own level, so be on your Queen ish so you can find a man on his King ish. Be the best and the best will come to you. If you want the best, BE the best. A woman has every right to want Prince Charming, but she should make sure she's getting herself together so that when Prince Charming arrives, she will know it. Nobody has a right to expect the best, if they're not the best, or willing to become the best. That goes for men & women.

Forgive & Forget: On My Terms

Hurt is a part of life. Everyone has been hurt, will be hurt, or is hurting right now. For those who haven't been hurt, it's only a matter of time because people are flawed. Some people deliberately hurt you, others don't mean to hurt you (but they do). Those who deliberately hurt you, at least you know where they stand, and you can avoid them or deal with them from a distance. If someone hurts me deliberately, they are showing me their true colors. Once someone shows me their true colors, it's a wrap. I choose not to deal with them because who's to say they won't try to do it again? One strike is all I need, and I'm gone. Everyone is familiar with the phrase "forgive & forget", right? I believe in forgiving, but not forgetting. If you forget, you'll fall for their mistakes again. People do what you allow, always remember that. At some point, you must wise up to how a person is, and deal with them accordingly. Some people can forgive & forget, while others the healing process takes time. Some hurts are so deep that it takes time for a person to forgive & forget. For example, sexual abuse is one of those tragedies you CANNOT just get over. Most sexual abuse occurs between loved ones, and for someone to violate a person in that way is shameful. The hurt from that stems so deep, that the victim is going to need counseling, and much prayer to get over that anger/bitterness. I will say this: People who say forgive & forget are the ones who have a hard time admitting when they're wrong. These people expect others to give them a pass for their mistakes, but hold it against someone if they foul up. People like this do not make good friends, employees, mates, etc. because they can't take responsibility for their transgressions.

Love Leaving the Heart & Union: By Joe A. Mitchell III

Joe Anthony Mitchell III

This is For the Real Men and Women. In the Marine Corps, Pain is Weakness leaving the body, but in a relationship, Pain is Love leaving the Heart and the Union.
A mistake is something that was done wrong, and can not be changed no matter how hard we try, but through patience and understanding, caring, and love it can be forgiven. To my married folk heres a lesson, and to my engaged folk, heres a message. If your married and God fearing as you say, why are you running from your marriage and seeking a divorce? If you say God put you two together, then it should be God who tears you apart (Death do us Part) If your engaged, stop running from every little argument or fight. If a fight did ensue, what part did you play in it? If he or she has come to you and said babe, or sweety lets work it out, and all you can say is no I don't want this anymore, and he or she has begged you, you can't get mad when another man or woman wants what you have. How many times are you going to reject your love one? Will you push them to the point they tell you they hate you, when you know thats not in their character? How many more games are you willing to play with people's mind and hearts? And lastly, do you really really really know, there's a (Thin Line Between Love & Hate). If you got a good man or woman, hold onto them, everyday isn't going to be sunshine, but its up to you to make those raining clouds and thunderstorms disappear. Amen.

 

My View: This should be a part of pre-martial counseling. Every couple seeking to get married must memorize this marriage credo. If every couple committed this to memory, divorce would be non-existent because before hasty decisions are made, each person takes time to clear their head, and then work out their issues. It's funny how people say they're God-fearing, and when they get married knowing there will be good & bad times, the first thing they say is "I Want a divorce". Obviously, they must be not God-fearing because if they were, they would pray together and seek God's direction for the rocky times in their marriage. God gives two reasons for divorce: Infidelity, and abuse (although not explicitly mentioned in the Bible). As difficult as it is for me to say this, infidelity can be forgiven. The offender must repent of the transgression, and work to regain their spouse's trust. I believe that if you don't have trust, you have nothing. Infidelity warrants automatic termination for many people, and that's fine. If you're faithful to your (wo)man, and (s)he cheats, the hurt person is within their right to kick you to the curb. In that instance, you have no one to blame but yourself. If you're bold enough to creep, you're bold enough to accept the consequences. I truly believe that some people are not cut out for marriage, let alone a relationship, because if you're going to run from every little fight, what does that say to your (wo)man? That tells them you aren't committed to making a relationship work. Therefore, they can't count on you to get in the ring and fight with them for your marriage.



Apologize For Being Blessed

I was watching Steve Harvey's comedy routine on BET, and he touched on this. He said: When you get blessed, some of your friends will make you feel like you have to take them with you. Now, that's complete craziness because real friends celebrate your success, not make you feel like you have to bring them with you. It's YOUR discretion as to whether you want to share your blessing with your friends. I will say this: Had your friends kept the faith, and done the work, THEY could get the same blessing. Some people are so humble that they actually feel bad for being blessed, like they don't deserve it. Yes, none of us deserve God's blessing, but he blesses us out of the goodness of his heart. The idea of apologizing for being blessed is crazy. One of my Facebook friends has a saying: I will never apologize for being blessed. If you have a problem, take it up with the Lord! That right there is confidence in knowing you have a right to expect God's blessing. Obedience, and being faithful will yield staggering blessing. As you get blessed, you may have to cut some friends loose. Why? A lot of factors: Jealousy-Some friends will get jealous of your blessing, because they feel like THEY deserve it more than you. "Why is (s)he being blessed, and not me?" "I'm doing the same thing they are, and yet I haven't gotten my breakthrough". The statements are ongoing. God has individual blessings for all his children; you're not going to get the same blessing as another person. Your blessing may come in the form of supernatural talents, another's blessing could be financial, this person's blessing may come through good health (even though certain medical conditions are hereditary), etc. God blesses people how he sees fit, it's not up to us to determine how God wants to bless folks. I feel like this, if you have to apologize for being blessed, you don't deserve the breakthrough. You can remain humble, and enjoy your blessing. Or, better yet...if you don't want your blessing(s), I'll take yours!



Players Revealed

           I had a conversation with a Facebook friend about this very subject, and this is how the convo went:

 

PLAYERS REVEALED:
"A player is usually a manipulative, deceitful person, its hard to know. They usually end up tripping themselves up. There are usually tell-tale signs. A player shows up and works really really hard to be in your life as much as he can right away. He's extra sweet, too charming and tries real hard to make you believe your life has no value without him. Yes men use sex as a weapon too, so watch how much he brags about what sexual feats he can do for you. He does not give real information about him, he skirts over any details you may ask for. A player moves in real quick for the kill. That first 30 days he is so totally prince charming. Tries to get you hooked on him. Then when he thinks he's got you he backs all the way off and makes you chase him.

He does the minimal he can to keep you hanging while he moves on to his next victim or chase. Watch how big his ego is...that's a huge red flag you have a player on your hands.

He's all flash and no substance. He doesn't talk much about real life things that should be close to him like family, details about his job, as a matter of fact he paints himself to be that guy who's life is almost too good to be true. Material things are high on his list of priorities. He'll want you to do lots of stuff for him, while he barely does anything for you.

ACTUALLY A player is easier than you think, he tries to make you think you're lucky to be with him, his ego will be his greatest down fall, he can't resist flirting and will often go to the bath room or check on his car and if you watch he'll have something to say to some girl or the waitress when he walks away from you. He's usually in a hurry because he has others to bless with his presence, and is in a hurry to get you into bed, (but of coarse it's be cause he's so taken by you) and if he gets turned down a couple of times he'll go bless some other lady with his affections cause that's all he's really interested in. UNLESS he's real player and then he'll walk through hell and high water until he does score and his giant ego is soothed. One golden rule to remember, if he's instantly too good to be true....He probably is. yes they dress well and know how to talk and usually are good at pleasing you sexually. but a true player gets you to spend your money, invest your time, change your plans or schedule to accommodate them. and they will be the perfect person until they are done with you then they drop you never to be heard from again. and a real player will play off your emotions and never use any of theirs. As for a true player, it is not so much about sex as it is their EGO. They crave feeding their ego by seducing you with what they think you want to hear. The more you respond to them, the more euphoric it is to them. It's a fix they need to uplift their own insecurities within themselves. They are very charming, funny, very good with words, initially very available. They appear to be humble and very caring to others, when in fact they only care about themselves. They love the chase and conquering of the whole process. Once they have you at your peak of wanting them, they'll back down and run to the next victim. "

11:05am

　

　

Richard Hudson

Spot On. The problem lies with women who entertain these types, then cry & paint all men as dogs after being hurt.

11:27am

　

　

Jeannine Carswell

Oh yes!!! The women who *enjoy* bad boys deserve what they get. I feel no sympathy for them. The thing is, men like this pursue ALL KINDS of women, not just the women who seem to "want" them on the surface. They'll prey on lonely women - GOOD women, but lonely ones- and take advantage of their vulnerability. They go after strong women, religious women, educated women, etc. I had great male friend of mine tell me recently "Jeannine, you are a challenge to men. You are like Mt. Everest, and the smoothest players want to CLIMB you. Want to be able to say that they conquered a woman like YOU. They FAIL miserably with you though lol" And it's so true!! These "players" are so used to weak-minded women who bow at their COMMAND and women that become slaves to their CHARM. That is not me and will NEVER be me! But these men and their EGO believe that my mind can be changed. So they'll try to deceive me...lie about themselves to impress...charm me...compliment me to death...stare EVER SO DEEPLY into my eyes. **I've GOT her** Umm...NO dude. I'll enjoy your compliments but I'm not swayed by them;I appreciate your charm but I'm not giving you SHIT until you show me your authenticity; Stare at me ALL you want but I can see your TRUE INTENTIONS in those bedroom eyes. Ms. Carswell will MIND-FUCK you better than you could ever do her!! Nigga I will flip the script on you!! They ALWAYS feel so stupid by the time I'm finished with them. It's really amusing for me. Bad People sometimes need a taste of their own medicine.

12:24pm

　

　

Richard Hudson

The strongest of women aren't immune to being duped. Men hunt, observe, we stalk our prey. All women have vulnerable moments, and men play off that. Once a woman lets her guard down, BOOM! A player moves in for kill. It doesn't matter how discerned a woman may be, a player will always adapt to the kind of woman he's with.

12:39pm

　

　

Jeannine Carswell

Oh yes. And that goes for the man or the "player" also. I actually don't mind letting my guard down at certain points. However, I'm excellent and getting a man's guard down if I really want to also. So it ends up being this "battle" of wills, ya know. I love to f*ck a player's mind up - has happened many times.

Lastly, a man's desire for pussy or taste for "conquering" should have some kind of boundary. A man shouldn't be willing to be EVIL and crush hearts unnecessarily JUST to fuck somebody. It's not that serious! There's too much "easy" pussy in the world to put a good woman that you do not DESERVE through a bunch of BS. Just because you have a dick shouldn't mean that you lack ALL morals.

12:42pm

　

　

Richard Hudson

True, you gotta be delicate with it. LOL @ these dudes trying to strongarm for coochie. Smh.

12:50pm

　

　

Jeannine Carswell

Welp. Richard you & I do have our differences. But I can say that we both have very strong minds & willpower when it comes to relationships, and I respect that

　

　

　

Jeannine Carswell

When you do post the topic, please add my first reply about players chasing "all kinds" of women too.

12:57pm

　

　

Richard Hudson

I will

A true player goes after all kinds of women.

Professional, working-class, etc.

12:59pm

　

　

Jeannine Carswell

Thanks

And I didn't know that at first, as many women don't. But I am absolutely aware now.

I avoid players. They don't turn me on in any REAL way. And if I do stick around (for the amusement), it's just to fuck with them the way they fuck with other people.

　

1:04pm

　

　

Richard Hudson

Lol, they reap what they sow.