Sleeping With A Married Man

This Strawberry Letter is from June 13th Steve Harvey Morning Show, and it's titled: Sleeping With A Married Man. Here's the letter:

I am sleeping with a married man. A little background: Over ten years ago, I met this man while I was in college. We hit it off good; we were more than friends, but never defined our relationship. I left to come back home. We keep in touch because we did consider each other as someone we really wanted in each others' lives. I ended up getting married. We still kept in contact. Fastfowarding three years ago, me and my husband separated. My old friend started opening up about how he felt about me, and I fell for him hard, because i felt the same. After my divorce, we started meeting up because we do not stay in the same town. I was thinking about trying to make a long distance relationship work, and go all in. One night, I decided to check records regarding if he was married or not. I remember it being mentioned some years back, but I was told it never happened. Well it did after finding this information out, I was crushed he kept this from me for over six years. It made me question if we really was friends or not. If he told me from the beginning, I don't think I would be sleeping with him now, but my feelings were too deep. I was thinking I could make something of this flame. I did address the issue with him, and tried to walk away. He told me he didn't want to tell me because he knew I wouldn't be down for it, and he really wanted me in his life. After a month or two, He pulled me back in with sweet nothings of he really needs & loves me, and how our relationship is special. I asked him to think about what we're doing; would he be ready for the consequences? He never gives me an answer. And for some reason, we can't seem to let go of each other, well at least I can't find a way to cut my string from him. Please, what can I do to get out of this situation, and can we still be friends without lovers?

 

My $.02: I know Steve Harvey & his staff have to crack up at some of these strawberry letters. Some of these letters are so obvious as to what people should do, but some people make situations so difficult. First off, what is she doing sleeping with a married man? Common sense tells you to leave another woman's man alone. It's bad enough married couples don't respect their marriage vows, it's worse when an outsider infringes on your union. Besides, what makes some women THINK a married man is going to leave his wife? It's not going to happen; the sooner some women learn this, the better. The fact is, she's a jumpoff. He loves her body, not her as a person. That's usually the case with jumpoffs, they are focused on getting theirs; forget the wife. Forget about that wife who thinks her husband is coming home to her, when he's getting some from another woman. Some people will say "If he's not getting at home, he will look for it elsewhere. What married man that's sleeping with another woman is going to admit he's married? IT DOESN'T HAPPEN. The husband sees this woman as a piece of meat. He's going to go home to his wife, and carry on like nothing happened. The husband isn't off the hook, because he should respect his wife. When I read scenarios like this, I have to wonder why get married? Why marry someone, if you want side loving? If you're going to cheat on your (wo)man, DON'T GET MARRIED. I say this often on Facebook relationship discussions, people don't respect marriage. I want to know how this turns out, and hopefully they will get exposed. What's Done In The Dark, Will Come To The Light. Someone should have had some sense to pump the brakes; Wait...that's too much like right.