If I'm Not Happy, No One Is Happy

"If Mom Ain't Happy, Nobody's Happy" & "If she ain't happy, you (the man) won't be happy" are two phrases some women love to utter. Think about it, a man can be handling business when his lady comes out of the blue & starts nagging. Many times, some women don't know why they're nagging, they just do it out of habit. I get that women want quality time with their man, and I'm all for that. There's a different way to go about it. Nagging is a turn-off for any man, and makes many men tune her out completely. Nobody has time to hear someone run their lip 24-7. Look, a woman is more likely to get what she wants if she approaches me in a respectful tone. If some women master this, they will always get what they want from their spouses. Men don't like being talked at, and if a man feels like his woman is talking at him, he won't only ignore her, but he will not go out of his way for her. Some women have been misled into thinking that nagging will get a man to acquiesce. It may work on some men, but he'll do it to shut her up. I'm thankful that my happiness isn't dependent on a woman, or anyone else for that matter. If someone's unhappy, that's their problem. It's not going to stop me from being happy. When I hear those two phrases come out of a man's mouth, I think simp. A simp goes out of his way to please a woman who's not interested in him, so he's going to use the aforementioned statements if it's going to put him in good standing with her. It comes as no surprise that some women who utter these statements are being manipulative, because a real woman would allow her man to make her happy in his own way. A real woman doesn't have to nag to get what she wants out of her man. As long as she's submissive, a man will move heaven & earth to please her.

Why Can't Men Turn Down Sex?

Women can turn down sex with no problem, but some men have the hardest time rejecting a woman's sexual advances. Why is that? I think it's because women value sex much more than men do. For many women, sex represents that magnetic bond that links a woman and her man for life. Some women have to feel comfortable enough with a man before they sleep with him, which makes sense. Men can bonk this woman and that woman with no connection; thank you, and leave $20 on the table. There isn't a man alive that will turn down cutty, because he doesn't want to be seen as gay. Granted, there are some men that will reject cutty, but they're in the minority. Most men think with the little head instead of the one containing their brain. In high school, young men are pressured to make out with the hottest girl in school or else he gets the third degree of why he didn't hit that, or being asked "Are you gay?" Too many men base their self-esteem on getting some loving from a random woman, not realizing she could be taken or have a STD. Most times, these men have no business going for themselves; all they want to do is chase after some booty. You have a real man who is about his business, and doesn't salivate over a shapely woman wanting to sleep with him. To him, there's more to life than sexing an attractive woman. He turns her down, and she gets upset and proceeds to attack his manhood (he's gay, he doesn't like women, he couldn't handle her anyway, etc.). Some men could care less because that's confirmation he made the right decision. How some men can put their lives on hold just to bonk a woman is beyond me. Do you think women are going crazy over not getting package from a man? No, because some women figure men are going to keep throwing themselves at them, so it's no loss. If women can focus on other things rather than getting it in with some man, men need to do the same: Focus on other things rather than chasing after booty. You know, build your legacy. When a man has his stuff together, the women will automatically come. It's better than worrying about whether this woman or that woman is going to let you hit it.
 

Acting Brand New

It's funny how some people forget their struggle, once they get on top. You know what I'm talking about: A person gets their breakthrough, and they start acting brand new. Their demeanor changes from their clothes to self-esteem. There's an old-saying that goes "Never forget where you come from". Simply put, don't let success change you. So many people forget they weren't always on top, so why are you going to act like you're all that? It's stupid. It's shameful that some people don't know how to handle success. They forget who supported them when no one would give them a shot. Like the Bible says, pride goes before a fall. Be careful how you treat people because on your way down, you'll need some of those same people. Life has a way of flipping the script where you struggle, and others prosper. Some of these celebrities are good for this. Many of them came from nothing, and had to work hard for their success. Once they got big, here come the big mansion, luxury car(s), fine dining, etc. I'm not saying you should be ashamed of being blessed; quite the contrary. You're supposed to look like God did something for you. If someone has a problem with you being blessed, they can take it up with the Lord. At the same time, remain humble. When you're humble, God can bless you with more because he knows you can handle it. He knows you won't act brand new. If you're wondering why God doesn't bless you any more than he has, maybe it's because you can't handle the blessing. God doesn't bless someone if he knows they can't handle it.

Blk Man Commits Suicide By Cop After FB Post Reveal Beastie Baby Momma K...

 

This story is crazy. This man kills himself because his baby's mother wouldn't let him see his son. Get this, he wanted to be in his child's life. You have fathers that pump & dump; they pump a woman with his seed, and dump the child on the woman. I'm going to post a few of Rachael's comments from my Facebook page:

Rachael Notyaaveragechick Guelle Unbelievable. Smh! You women don't want a good man to be a father....blah. He laid down with a lowlife piece of shit and now all women are to blame. How was getting himself killed helping the situation? If there's a God? Like really? Smh! I wish people would stop having kids with trifling hoes. She will get her justice. You never turn your child against his or her other parent. Even if the other parent ain't shit. Smh!

Rachael Notyaaveragechick Guelle Killing yourself over anyone is stupid. I could understand if he killed her but that's wrong too. I can't believe he left his child behind with that scum. Smh! Never. I would've made her life a living hell. I would've tracked her every move, recorded every conversation. Smh. All I see is two sorry ass parents. Damn shame!

 Another comment from Rachael: They are both pathetic. You never turn a child against his other parent. It doesn't matter if they are good or bad. Smh! If you don't have anything good to say, shut the fuck up.

 

My View: Men, be careful who you lay down with because you never know someone's true nature. It's no secret that some women can be very foul. They use their children against the father because of a personal vendetta. I guess if she can't get to him, she'll get him through his child(ren). No matter your problem against your (wo)man, YOU DO NOT use your child against their parent. I can't respect that at all. People say he took the easy way out, but I don't see it that way. This man was tired of fighting; he was going through this situation for 5 years, and each time he got no results. How much more can you fight? Men, do not take your lives over these foul women. They're not going to be at your funeral; they're not going to paint you as a hero. On the contrary, these women are keeping it moving. Going further, the system will allow these single mothers to take days off to go after child support. This is real talk, her justice is coming. She will never sleep at night, because she caused this man to kill himself. She will have his blood on her hands & once the child grows up, that child will want to know the truth, and I hope the guilt eats at her to where she tells the truth. She needs her son taken from her and made to pay child support. There are plenty of stories like this, and each time I come to the same conclusion: Men need to wake up! Stop going by your sausage and use the brain God gave you! If you don't see yourself with her long-term, don't have a child with that woman. You don't know if she's vindictive, and you don't want that in your life. I'm thankful I don't have to go through this because I have too much to accomplish in life to be saddled with child support for 18+ years. Should I decide to get married & produce children, I'm doing it the right way: Get established in my career/education, meet the right woman, we have real talk, then get married. Some of these men are too stupid to realize that many women are playing them. They turn men against each other as part of a master plan to eliminate the male gender. The reason why some men simp so hard for the approval of women is because they think she'll give him sex. 9 times out of 10, that's not the case. Some of these men need to wake up. If this story doesn't cause men to tighten up, I don't know what will. I read about this and it's very very sad! I saw the FB post the young man put the day before he died. If you look on my news feed page, there's a guy Marvin Cease. He shared the entire post of what the young man felt. If what he said about her has truth, I just don't understand why these immature spiteful women prefer their children to be without their father. If they're wanting to be a father, let these men father their children regardless of what he might have done to you, or what happened to your relationship! Grow up! At the same time, it was selfish of him to kill himself, because now his son is going to grow up without a father. I'll never forget this story. My condolences go out to Derrick's immediate family.

Marrying The Game

Marrying The Game chronicles the life of rapper Game (Jayceon Taylor) and Tiffney Cambridge. They have several children together and are trying to sort out their issues. They were supposed to celebrate their 1-year anniversary, but life got in the way. Now, their relationship status is on hiatus until they can figure things out. Honestly, I don't believe they're going to last because they're having too many issues. Tiffney wants Game to settle down, and The Game has no intention of putting away his rapper persona. If music is how he provides for his family, why can't Tiff see that? She knew/should have known what she was getting into before getting involved with a music star. Music stars are desired by loads of women, some of whom don't care if he's married. Women jump out their clothes to get at her man. I remember an episode where Game and Tiffany had a big blowout over him leaving for Paris without her. Was it that serious? He was gone for a couple days, and would've came back home. It wasn't so much him being gone, it was having a female assistant and not telling Tiff. Call me crazy, but if a man hasn't given his woman a reason to mistrust him, she should be cool with him having a female assistant. He has to establish boundaries, and keep business and personal separate. That's too hard for some men to do because if a woman and man are working together, feelings are bound to get caught because they're so used to being around each other, that it takes one spark to set something off. If a woman can't trust her man to go out of town on business, they shouldn't be together. Besides, she would expect Game to trust her if she went out of town on business with another man. If Tiff wanted to keep tabs on Game while out of town, she could've gone to Paris with him, even if he would've disapproved. There's nothing like seeing for yourself. Jayceon Taylor is a good father to his children, so that should be enough. My thing is, Tiff is trying to change Game into a family man, and I don't think that's what Game wants. He (Jayceon) just wants his lady to accept him as is. They want different things, and that's fine. No couple is going to be in sync 24-7; each person has their own mind and should be free to be themselves around their (wo)man. If you can't be yourself around your mate, who can you be yourself around? I think Game & Tiffney should co-parent, and go their separate ways. Think about it, they can't agree on anything, and they're just not compatible. Tiffney wants The Game to turn down his rapper image, and Game just wants Tiff to accept him as he is. If you can't accept the good & bad about your mate, do them a favor and sever ties. They are better suited for someone who closely matches them.

I'm Blessed=I'm Cocky?

 Let's be real, many people don't like hearing how others are being blessed. Why? Because of jealousy. If THEY aren't on the receiving end of God's blessings, they don't care about others being blessed. I'm being honest. By nature, some people are envious of others good fortune. Some people struggle for their breakthroughs, and others it seems like everything they touch prospers. It boils down to faithfulness & obedience. The Bible says that obedience brings blessing. When I think of blessing, I think of the entire scope of blessing: Physical health, material wealth, etc. When a person speaks of their blessing(s), my first thought is they're cocky. Why? Because they tell everyone how they have this and that. God did this, that, and the third for me. Personally, I enjoy seeing & hearing others get blessed because it gives me hope that I can get mine too, if I stay faithful and obedient. When people receive their blessing, usually they flaunt it as to say "Look at me, I have this, this, and this" Remember show & tell back in school? That's what I get when I see people constantly showing off their blessing. I'm not against sharing what God is doing in people's lives, but many times people do it to show off. You can share what God is doing in your life, but remain humble. Humility is the key. The reason why I say be humble in your blessing is because just like God blesses you, he can retract that blessing if you get beside yourself. Oftentimes, Christians (and others in general) can become enamored with the blessing instead of the giver. Not everyone will celebrate in your blessing. Some people will front like they're happy for your blessing, but get them alone and the hate flies. "Why did (s)he get blessed, why couldn't have it been me, why why why? I can't stand sister so & so, she think she all that, etc." You folks know what I'm talking about. To protect yourself from being a target of jealousy, it's best to remain humble in your blessing because no one likes an arrogant person. In closing, If all a person can talk about is the material aspect of God's glory (that is part of it), then they're showing off. These are people that aren't used to having nothing in life.
At the same time, I do enjoy hearing testimonials of God taking someone from the Pit to the Palace.



Lay It Down

 

We all have that song that lifts our spirits, and improves our outlook on life. For some it's rap and/or hip-hop, others it's that old-school soul/R&B music. This song does it for me every time I listen. The song title Lay It Down (get your mind out of the gutter) helps me do just that, Lay It Down. Lay Down my worries, trouble, etc. What's the use of carrying trouble on your back? It's not going to make life easier for you. In many cases, all that worry you carry on your back is just going to wear you down more & more; until you finally decide to lay it down. I feel like this, if something's out of my control, I put it in God's hands because only he can work it out. That doesn't mean I'm not going to do my part in the natural; I am, but trust God to do his part in the supernatural. You know, it bothers me that some people are too prideful to let go of their worries. For them, letting go is too much like relinquishing control. Many people believe if you can prevent troubles, than do so. To an extent, they are correct because if you see danger ahead, why would you move towards the danger zone? No, you're going to detour around it because you don't want no worries. Most challenges we face are of our doing, so because we got ourselves in mess, it's up to us to get ourselves out. For challenges we face that are out of our control, remember one thing: We live in a fallen world, so at times life is going to be unfair. In the times that life is unfair, you have to Lay It Down, and Let It Go (into God's hands).