Mar 10, 2015

Expecting The Most For Least


Those who expect the most, always give the least. We've all met these entitled folks, there's no way around them. You know the ones: They want this, this and that, but are bringing only crumbs to the table. There's two terms for that: Selfish and entitled, both of which are not a good look for anyone. Common sense should say whatever you require, you bring to the table or you work on bringing it to the table. I used to be very generous; I used to help folks without hesitation until I woke up and realize I was being used. Once I realized I was being used, I withdrew my hand, and the folks had the nerve to get upset because I wouldn't let them use me. They must think I'm supposed to care that they're in their feelings because I wouldn't let folks take advantage of me, but I don't. Over time, I learned to put myself first and since I've done that, I've felt so much better. Now, I help those that God lays on my heart to help. Every now & then, I'll feel moved to offer assistance to someone who needs it, but unless I'm led to help someone, I don't help them or I limit the extent of my help. In my opinion, it's ok to expect the most if you're bringing the most. It's a cold world & there are people that are looking for handouts; they prey on generous folks because 9 times out of 10, the generous person is quick to assist them in whatever way possible. There are those who expect the most, who bring the most, and there are those who have great expectations, but bring the least. Which category are you?
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Mar 9, 2015

I Smell A Rat


Saturday's Sweetie Pie's episode was titled I Smell A Rat. Ms. Robbie wasn't too keen on Tim hiring Ma'ri as District Manager of Sweetie Pie's, and she let him know it. First off, Ma'ri has a banking background so her corporate background doesn't mesh well with Sweetie Pie's down to earth, family atmosphere. Ma'ri comes in and tries to throw her weight around, and the employees let her know she doesn't run nothing here. Tim comes up with an idea to bring the staff together, so he has the staff and management learn each other's jobs. He figures if the staff and management learn each other's jobs, that will bring them together, and it blew up in his face because both sides were at each other's heads. Staff feels that management should know the ins & outs of the company, and I agree. If you're going to be a manager, you're supposed to know the ins & outs of your company: How to do each employee's jobs, operations, accounting/payroll, etc. Ma'ri's the kind of boss that doesn't lead by example. The employees know she has attitude so they respond in kind. Danielle & Ma'ri haven't liked each other since Day 1, so they clashed the most.
When you own your own business, your trust level is zero to none. This is your livelihood you're talking about, and you can't take chances on hiring the wrong person. $200 comes up missing and Tim confronts Ma'ri on the missing money. She denies she took it, so Tim suspends her for 2 weeks until he gets to the bottom of it. Personally, I believe Ma'ri took the money because she brings negative energy to Sweetie Pie's. If someone brings negative energy, it's a matter of time before they try to bring your business down. Ma'ri thought Tim wasn't checking behind her, but she learned today. When Ms.Robbie is absent, Tim is in place making sure business affairs are straight. Tim won't let anything or anyone destroy the business. Even when employees think management isn't watching, they are. Most times, management is watching via surveillance. Video footage tells them all they need to know about who's doing slimy stuff. Because Danielle and Ma'ri are battling, I also think Danielle set Ma'ri up to get fired. Danielle could've taken the $200 and framed Ma'ri so she can get Ma'ri out of Sweetie Pie's.
If Ma'ri is let go, Danielle will earn major points with her colleagues because she stopped at nothing to rid Sweetie Pie's of the cancer that is Ma'ri. Then again, as much as I dislike Ma'ri, I don't condone framing people. It's tough to find a job in today's economy, and the last thing anyone needs is someone setting them up because they don't like them. Ms. Robbie was spot on about Ma'ri, and it was a matter of time before the truth came to light. One thing about Ms.Robbie: You can't play her because she knows the game. Her discernment was on point from Day 1. Hopefully, Tim will do what's best for business and can Ma'ri. The reason Tim hired Ma'ri was because they're friends. Most people mean well by hiring their friends, but in business, you're trying to make profits and sometimes your friends can be detrimental.
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Mar 8, 2015

Newton's Law Of Thermodynamics: Energy Transfer

One of Sir Isaac Newton's Laws Of Thermodynamics is about the transfer of negative energy. The transference of energy states, "Energy is not lost or destroyed, it is transferred from one party to the next." I heard this quote in Two Can Play That Game starring Vivica Fox, Anthony Anderson and Morris Chestnut. The concept of the movie is about the battles of being in a relationship. When two people come together in a relationship, each person has a vision for how they want the relationship to work. Anytime you're involved with someone, you're going to clash because of different mindsets; one person wants the relationship to work this way, the other wants the relationship to work their way. Unless some people want cookie cutters of themselves in the opposite sex, it's foolish to think that couples are going to be on the same page all the time. Keith & Shante' (Morris Chestnut & Vivica A. Fox) were going through a rough patch in their relationship, and they decided to separate. The separation was to allow them time to be apart, to think about whether the relationship was worth saving. One scene showed them having a horrible fight, and Keith showed up to Shante's home. They were all over each other at first until something happened: Keith started a fight with his woman for no reason, and once he won the argument, he left with a smile on his face because he drew Shante' into his world. Keith's negative energy rubbed off on Shante, and she had no comeback. From a relationship standpoint, that's what the transfer of negative energy is about; drawing someone into your world. The problem with that is if you're not careful, their negative energy can rub off on you if you allow it.




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Mar 6, 2015

Frustrated In The Church


He's feeling some kind of way about her breaking up with him, so he reacts in a childish manner. The last time I checked, women outnumber men 15 to 1 (or something like that) so why is he sweating her? Seriously, it makes him look foolish because he keeps carrying on with his juvenile antics and so far, she's not giving him life. A person can only take so much juvenile banter from someone until the person hauls off and hurts their feelings. Then some people want to feel offended because they got told something. It's like this: No one is obligated to remain with you if they're not happy. If they're not happy being with you, let them go. For me, no one can make me happy like I can, so I probably wouldn't have this issue. My suggestion for this woman is to keep rising above his childish antics, but if push comes to shove, check this clown and move on. Outside of church, do they work together on a professional level? If not, then they should go their separate ways. Unless absolutely necessary, she should minimize her contact with him because he's not pleased with her breaking up with him, and he's intent on letting her know. Making petty comments, criticizing her decisions, hanging up after she answers her phone; I would expect that from a child or teenager, but not a supposed man. Just like she moved on, he needs to do the same because all he's doing is confirming she made the right decision. Some people aren't compatible, and that's ok. It's better they broke up now, because at least they won't have no shoulda, coulda, woulda moments.
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Digging Deep


Today's Strawberry Letter is a good example of why you should go to the source for the truth, because people will lie to make themselves look good; it's crazy & sad at the same time. This man makes his daughter's mom to be the worst parent in the world: She doesn't do nothing for the daughter, she's trifling and this, that, and the third. My question is: If she's so trifling, why did he lay down with her? He didn't think she was trifling when he was hitting it, so all of a sudden she's trifling because she put him on child support. Some of these men irk me with this mess; She's good enough to lay down with, but not good enough to raise a child with. Yeah, ok...that makes sense. After meeting his family, the stepmother to this 8-year old girl decides to ride with one of his cousins to the baby mama's home. Needless to say, his story didn't match hers. From what I read, the 34-year old mom has herself together and encourages her daughter to have a relationship with her father. That's good because girls need their dads just as much as sons do. A father is the first example of manhood for a young lady. 
If a father does right by his wife, that daughter won't settle for anything less in her romantic involvement with a young man because she saw an example of a healthy relationship between her parents. I salute this mother because she could be nasty and keep her daughter from seeing her dad, but from what I read, she doesn't flow like that. As for him, I can't co-sign his behavior because a man owns up to his responsibility. A thorough man would have no problem with child support if he created the baby. What he doesn't realize is that the longer he dodges child support, the greater his arrears and the longer it'll take him to pay off that balance. $32,000+ in back child support? That's crazy. That's a new car, entry-level salary, a down payment on a home; a lot of things. She had no way of knowing he was shaking his responsibility because he told her what he wanted her to know upon first meeting him. At least she followed her instinct and dug deeper for the truth. Now that she knows, is she going to stay with him or leave? If he kept this from her, there's no telling what else he may be hiding from her.

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Mar 5, 2015

Realness In 140 Characters Or Less Cont'd

This is a continuation of my previous blog where I post some of the best tweets from myself and others on my timeline.












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