A Time To Fight, A Time To Chill

Ever since Adam & Eve disobeyed God, life has been a struggle. Between unemployment, and kids being born with disabilities, some people are born with a good start in life, others have the odds stacked against them. That's the mark of living in a fallen world. How much fighting does one do before (s)he wants peace? At some point, you want to kick back, and relax. No one wants to fight 24-7, I know I don't. I've been fighting all my life (still do to this day), and now I just want to kick back and relax. I want a taste of Easy Street. Then again, when your back's against the wall, you find out how strong you really are. The Bible speaks on seasons: There's a time for laughter, and a time for grief. A time to live & die, etc. Everything happens according to season. Some people experience difficulty early on in life, others experience it later. Both aren't necessarily wrong, it's just that we're all different, so each person has their own story to tell. The more battles you face, the more accustomed you become to fighting. Is this a good or bad thing? Yes & No. Yes, because testimonies come from tests. No, because you should want to have good times in life. Even the most battle-tested warriors want times of peace. They want to be able to let their guard down, and enjoy life. There was a Lizard Lick Towing episode that dealt with this very issue: Ron Shirley, owner of Lizard Lick Towing received a business proposal from a crooked businessman Lars Dixon. Lars offers Ron a hefty sum of $ if he forks over his company. Ron accepts the check, but Lars throws a curveball. The curveball was that Ron's crew would be without jobs, and after Ron realizes the mistake, he gets his company back because Ron's cousin was going undercover for Lars, feeding Ron intel about how Lars is cooking the books. Long story short, Ron had to fight hard to get his company back, and now that he has his company back: He learned that everything that glitters, isn't gold. Sometimes, you can chill too hard, and be caught off guard by a situation. At least when you were doing battle, your guard was always up so nothing could get by you. I said all that to say this: There's nothing wrong with being a fighter, but you should also want to kick back sometimes. There's a time to fight, and a time to start living. I think I want to start living.

Pure Comedy..Jesus Doesn't Love You

Some ideologies are SO ridiculous, that all you can say is Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You. Some of these are recycled from yesterday, others are fresh off the top.

 

~Shout out To Men who are "secure" in their manhood to show emotion (i.e. cry), yet consider themselves real men. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout out To Women who want to be men; Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout Out to women who criticize other women who hold them accountable for twisted ideologies towards men. PURE COMEDY, JESUS WILL NEVER LOVE YOU.

~I want to send a special shout out to people who criticized Rachael Jeantel for her dialect & speech. First off, she's trilingual (Creole/Haitian, Spanish, and English), and second, she didn't want to testify. Third, she was the same age as Trayvon Martin when he was killed. Given what she's been through, people need to have several seats and lay off that girl. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Special shout out to Christian women who quote the Bible regarding man's responsibilities, but when an educated man flips the script, and talks about what women should do...wolves howl in the wind. A deluxe vibrator collection and an army of dead zombie cats are their lot.

~Shout Out to men who talk about going to Brazil or wherever to find a wife, because they think she will jump when you say how high. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~It's ironic that some women want a man with his stuff together, but expect him to help her come up. Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You

~Half of the best TV Shows earlier this year got axed, only to be replaced by crap TV. Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You (network executives)

~Men should stop kidding themselves. All of a sudden, you want to settle down with one woman when you used to be a pimp/player? Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Since when did education & financial stability make one a suitable spouse? I thought loyalty & respect, plus compatibility were more important. To those who think this way: Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You.
~Shout out to men who want to be women, because it's easier. Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You.
~Shout out to all ladies who take on manly characteristics, then want to be women when it suits them. Pure Comedy...Jesus Does Not, and Will Never Love You.

I Got Something On My Mind

~Shout Out To Men who say "yaaasss" in a homosexual manner. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~The irony about this gay agenda is when people take a stand against gay marriage, gays and gay supporters are quick to say "Live & Let Live". Ok, then when students want to pray in schools, talk about Jesus or celebrate Christmas..LIVE & LET LIVE.

~From Hondo Solomon: "I LOL when I find women stating they want a man that can keep up with them. This always leads to their doing everything else except taking care of the man and his home."

-Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout out To Men who are "secure" in their manhood to show emotion (i.e. cry), yet consider themselves real men. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout out To Women who want to be men; Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~It's suspect for a man to be worried about what another man is doing. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~To whom much is given, much is required. In the same light, when much is acquired, much is at risk.

~Shout Out to women who criticize other women who hold them accountable for twisted ideologies towards men. PURE COMEDY, JESUS WILL NEVER LOVE YOU.

~Today's rap is all about balling in the clubs, what I smoke, drink, how many cars I have, I have hoes, gun shooting, pushing weight (drugs), etc

~People talking about popping molly, and sweating; do these fools know what molly is, let alone can do to you? Shakes Head. I swear rappers are gassing these folks up with drug use promotion. First, sipping syrup. Second, popping molly. What's next?

~Special shout out to Christian women who quote the Bible regarding man's responsibilities, but when an educated man flips the script, and talks about what women should do...wolves howl in the wind. A deluxe vibrator collection and an army of dead zombie cats are their lot.

~Shout Out to men who talk about going to Brazil or wherever to find a wife, because they think she will jump when you say how high. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~"It's not tricking if you got it" Well, I'm not tricking, and I got it.

~New Year, New Me? Have Several Seats. New Year, Same You. Nothing changes, and probably never will.

 

 





Polygamy=Constant Sex?

This brother keeps it real regarding polygamy. Read the following paragraph:

John Tank Williams
I noticed something about you brothers on facebook who promote POLYGAMY.....you never speak about the ECONOMIC side of POLYGAMY......you know like "how much it would actually cost to run that shit". I'm sorry but you can't raise 8 kids and support 4 wives working at PUBLIX making $9.75 an hour....oh, but I get it....you gonna put your wives to work right??? well, if you do that then you're gonna have 4 tired, angry, frustrated, unhappy ass women........same ol nigga shit.....Let's be honest brah, you just want a whole lotta booty in the house, right??? If you talking about POLYGAMY without ECONOMICS, don't call it POLYGAMY....call it POO-NIGGA-ME.....ol Pussy hawk ass niggas.........

 

My View: Aside from the foul language, this man has a point. Many men who choose to engage in polygyny DON'T count the cost. All they think about is having multiple women in the house; which means they get sex anytime they want (which may/may not be true, depending on the women involved). Taking care of ONE family is tough, but to be responsible for multiple women? Nah, I'll pass. Some men don't consider the huge responsibility of trying to keep multiple women happy. It's all about sex for some of these thirsty men. Each woman brings her own set of attributes and skills to the table, and for polygyny to be successful, all women must come together to help the man build. Polygamy is like a company: The man is CEO, and the women function as his employees; each woman plays her position. The main wife (the one he marries) must support her husband's polygamy lifestyle. That's where the problem lies, because most women would not go for their man having multiple wives. Let a man tell his wife he wants to be a polygamist, see how that works out for him. There are some women who would be ok with polygyny, because when you consider both spouses working full-time to provide for their family, the husband & wife will need assistance with daily home operations. Let's do the math: $14 hour * 40 hours * 52 weeks a year=That's $29,120 a year a husband is bringing home; not counting taxes. A husband engaged in polygyny (a man having multiple wives) CANNOT support 4 wives and 8 children off of that salary. If a man is going to engage in polygamy, he better have multiple income streams. Sure, he can put his wives to work, but the wives are going to be unhappy, and irritable. Hondo Solomon (a Facebook friend, and author of The Polygamist Papers: An Introduction to Polygamous Culture and Its Principles, Pitfalls, and Ethics) approaches polygamy from a practical standpoint. Most men think about having a bunch of women, but none of the business that goes with taking care of a family, providing for, and guiding them.



Self-Made

When I think of the term self-made, I see a person who has become successful on their own. They had a vision of where they wanted to be, and made things happen for themselves. These people had no help; in fact, others have rejected them when that person has taken the time to get to know an influential person, in hopes that (s)he will mentor him. This self-made person is tired of relying on others, so they decide to take their future in their own hands. "If no one will help me come up, I'll do it myself." Is being self-made a bad thing? Yes and No. Yes, because at some point, one must learn to rely on others for assistance. Sometimes (I hate that I have to say this, but it's true for the most part), you have to be told no, in order to get to your yes. Being told no shows you that everyone will not help you when you ask. No, because many times you have to encourage yourself. You have to dig deep, and not let naysayers deter you from your dreams. Many successful people are where they're at, because they didn't accept being told no. They pulled themselves up by their bootstraps and were driven to make their own way. Once they start to prosper, they can say "I did that. I had no help getting where I am now." There's a time to rely on others, and a time to do it yourself. If you've watched the entrepreneur show Shark Tank, the narrator announces the following self-made investors who are entrepreneurs: Mark Cuban, Daymond John, Robert Herjavec, Kevin O'Leary, Barbara Corcoran, Lori Greiner (Lori alternates with Barbara on some Shark Tank episodes). I think all of us are self-made to a degree, because there were times we had to rely on our abilities to make it, and times where we had to solicit support from a mentor. Self-Made is a term that elicits pride, a belief that you can achieve anything you put your mind to, no matter the opposition.

You Don't Judge? Wait For It...Wait For It.

Mary Stieff

I have something to get off my chest that has been vexing me for a very long time. Too many people nowadays talk about "I don't judge". Yes, you do, just not in some of the ways you think are important. My issue is: I hate when people think just because you have never been married, never had children, and been single a good while, that you are clueless to real life situations and struggles. A clear "judgement". They feel this person has nothing to teach them. Really? How about a person being single by choice learning self-discipline, self-control, and knowing their self-worth that they don't have to settle for just any and everybody out here who looks their way. A person who is not making babies all over the place and crying about child support and baby mama/daddy drama. You made them, you laid with them. Be happy you have them. You could be in the opposite situation where you want babies desperately and can't or know if you can have them. You may be single, but you've held a few marriages and relationships together based on God given wisdom. You can get into the psyche of troubled and wayward teens because you counseled them for over 10 years. You can tell their parents what's going on with them without even knowing them but, knowing the parent and their behaviors. Or because these teens choose to confide in you. Also, you have spent the last 20 years helping to raise other people's children. You've taken them to appointments, did late night feedings, been in hospitals holding hands to calm fears, watched and cheered baseball games, track meets and practices, and watched the oldest few graduate high school. But, because you never birthed a baby or been a Mrs. you get put behind a glass wall and get labeled as clueless, or invaluable.
Oh really? Yeah, I hate that!

 

My View: Everybody is judgmental, like it or not. Some people are bold with it, others are subtle in letting people know they are judgmental. What's the deal with people thinking that because you're single, you can't offer valid relationship advice? That's silly because some of the greatest advice has come from single folks. They're able to be that 3rd eye for a couple; they may see things that couples don't see. I'm going to keep it real: Couples don't have all the answers, when it comes to relationships. Yes, couples can be a good information source for singles looking to be involved. After all, the best way to be successful is by surrounding yourself with successful people. At the same time, that couple gives you advice according to what works for them. Their advice may/may not work for you. I applaud single people who are single by choice. They are learning about themselves, and working on their goals. I believe there's someone for everyone, but according to a recent conversation with a friend of mine, not everyone is meant for a relationship. Others are single by choice, some are single just because they aren't willing to settle for less than what they servce. Don't discredit a single person just because they aren't in a relationship. Be selective in what advice you receive. If it applies, accept and keep moving. If not, toss it in the trash. Some people in relationships can be narrow-minded, because they tend to look down on singles as if something is wrong with them if they're not in a relationship. Many people see the pitfalls of others and their relationships, so they end up not making the same mistakes. A wise person learns from others' mistakes. Then again, you have to ask yourself why this single person is giving you their unwarranted advice. Could they want what you have, and are trying to break you guys up? More times than not, that's the case.



Real Men vs. Real Women

Women like to say what a real man does/is, and men do the same thing (explain what a real woman does/is). Both genders are correct. Here's a list of Real Men vs. Real Women statements:

 

1. Real Men Don't Hit Women, even if she's trying to kill him-Some women love to throw this in a man's face when he's trying to defend himself. The sad thing is, some women do this because the law is on their side. Put their hands on a man, he can't hit her back or he'll get locked up. Not to mention that some women are spiteful, so they can make a man's life hell just out of spite.

2. Real Men Cater To A Woman-If she makes his life better, why wouldn't he want to give her the world? Here's the catch: The woman has to be worthy, because no man in his right mind should go all out for a woman that's NOT doing anything for him.

3. Real Men Don't Argue With A Woman-I don't know where this one came from, but it has lame written over it. No man is going to let ANYONE (especially a woman) get jazzy at the mouth with him. According to some women, a man is a man if he lets a woman talk crazy to him. Everytime a man is critical of a woman: He's bitter & gay, hates his mother, hates women. Deflection is a favorite tool to draw the focus off oneself. Personally, I don't have time to go back & forth with a woman. If she wants to act stupid, she can act a fool by herself.

4. The Bible Says...A Man Is Supposed To (insert Bible verse about what a man is supposed to do)-This one here is a trip. Yes, the Bible does outline man's responsibilities, BUT the Bible also says what a woman is SUPPOSED to do. I see why many men want nothing to do with some Christian women, because many of them can quote scripture about what man should be doing, but when it comes to a woman's role, they leave that part out.

5. Real Women Take Care Of Their Man-Self explanatory. When I say "take care of their man", I mean someone you're married to. So many people take care of each other husband & wife style, then there's nothing left for marriage. A man or woman IS NOT obligated to take care of their mate during the courting phase. When the couple gets engaged, I can see that; because they are getting ready to become married. To give husband benefits to your boyfriend is NO BUENO.
6. Real Women Support Their Man-Pretty obvious, if you ask me. Many women expect for their man to be on point before he steps to her, so why aren't women held to the same standard? The man has to support his lady in her dreams, but when he asks for her support while he's trying to make a better life for them, and it's going to take time, some women become impatient. Many women want microwave prosperity.
7. Real Women Are Great Cooks-Today's modern woman doesn't know how to cook, nor does she want to learn. Yet, she expects for her man to be a 5-star chef. Just like men should be expected to know how to cook, the same applies to women. Besides, what if the man doesn't feel like slinging pots & pans every day? If his woman knows her way around the kitchen, she can relieve him on some days.
8. Real Women Don't Argue-A man says what he has to say, and moves on. There are some women who don't like arguments, and that's good. Life is too short to go back & forth with someone, especially a person you take to be your partner. You can have disagreements without the cussing, name-calling, and other childish antics. Many women don't know how to argue without raising their voice. That's what turns men off, and causes them to walk away.