Respecting Your Elders

I prefer hanging around elders because of the wisdom they have. Face it, young people don't know how to be serious. They think life is about having fun when that's not the case. Usually, older people are established and have stopped playing games. They don't see a need to relive their youth because in their eyes, they had all the fun they can stand so they usually settle down. Young people just don't have the life experience of older folks so that's why I gravitate towards them. Elderly people will always tell you that back in their generation, life was more simple. People actually had respect for each other. Elderly people lived through the Civil Rights Era/racial injustice, great depression, riots, etc. These young bucks couldn't last a day in old folks' generation. Don't get me wrong, there are young people that have their stuff together but that's because they were taught well. What young person you know has their stuff together that wasn't schooled well by the elders in their family? *Crickets* That's why even though I'm 32, I'm old-fashioned in my thinking and I'm not sorry for it. You can learn a lot about life from elderly people, which is why I respect them to the fullest. Ask an elderly person anything, and 9 times out of 10, they know what to say because they've been down that road I'm traveling. Many times, they know what does and doesn't work so I take their direction into consideration.

The End Of Hostess

http://www.thebarrieexaminer.com/2012/11/21/twinkies-bakers-say-theyd-rather-lose-jobs-than-take-pay-cuts

Normally I don't do twice a day blog commentaries but this one caught my eye. As you guys know, Hostess, the company that makes Twinkies has gone bankrupt so they were forced to shut down. As I read the article further, many bakers were fed up with management forcing them to take pay cuts while management gives themselves enormous raises. That's how the business world usually works, the little guy suffers while the execs pockets are unaffected. That's not right so in a way I can understand the rationale behind the workers stance. Some people haven't had raises in 3 years or more and probably have had their pay cut once and to ask them to take ANOTHER pay cut is ridiculous. This is the type of economy graduates have to look forward to and it breaks my heart. At the same time, it's not smart to quit a job without having another job lined up. I remember a company in bad times telling their workers, you will have to suffer with me, and when our company is doing better, we all benefit from it. The workers worked hard for less pay, no one was laid off and when times got better, workers were given more money for their dedication to the company. Now the attitudes are different, companies don't give a crap about their workers, and workers don't give a crap about the company. No one works together. This is how companies fail. Bring back management working with labor, bring back the good ole work ethic and bring back loyalty between companies and employees, We need to work together or we will all surely fail.

Once Upon A Time

Once Upon A Time, women preferred strong men. Strong Men were seen as ideal because they could provide and protect their family. Nowadays, the tide has turned and now women seek out emotional men; men who cry just as much as, if not more than them. These women don't want strong men because a strong man will not put up with his woman's foolishness. A strong man will lay the law down when necessary and if he won't allow his woman to get her way, she starts pouting like a spoiled 2-year old. Women prefer emotional men so they can henpeck him. If a man is henpecked, he will cater to his woman 24-7 even if it means he bites his tongue when he has reason to speak up. A strong man is quick to tax his woman if she gets out of pocket. Why wouldn't some women want emotional men? He uses well placed tears and boom, he's got her right where he wants her. Men know how to play up to women in order to gain their favor. A man doesn't have to be emotional but if a woman likes an emotional guy, that's what he gives her and she falls for it. Discernment IS NOT women's strong point so that's why men are able to easily get over on women. Men are constantly adapting their strategy to suit women's desires, kind of like how a chameleon changes to suit his environment. If a woman told her weak man to eat dog food, he'd do it because he doesn't want her to go off. SO? Let her flip out! It seems like men have gotten soft over time. By the same token, strong women are rarely, if ever attracted to weak men. I'm not saying a man can't be emotional because if he feels the need to show emotion, go ahead but to be emotional 24-7 is too much. I can't stand to see men jump through hoops for women that aren't checking for them.

Thanksgiving Day

Thanksgiving Day Is Upon Us. A time for celebrating friends & family and of course, grubbing on turkey, dressing, macaroni & cheese, cranberry sauce, etc. Every year I watch the parades on TV (Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade in New York, plus other assorted festivals in various cities) and enjoy the fellowship with family and friends. For some people, Thanksgiving isn't so wonderful due to family warfare and personal losses. My  heart goes out to everyone that through no fault of their own, won't be able to enjoy Thanksgiving with their family. I especially want to send a shout out to all our military servicemen & women who are holding it down for our country overseas, those folks deserve the ultimate thanks because if it weren't for them, we wouldn't have the freedoms we do. Aside from that, I want to wish all my FB people a Happy Thanksgiving and eat good, because I plan on doing so, then going extra hard in the gym to burn it all off. Just recently I started helping prepare Thanksgiving dinner because that's part of my self-sufficiency, being able to act the fool in the kitchen like my parents. If I do have a family, they're going to know their dad is a kitchen beast. Because of my intense workout regimen, I have an excuse to eat good for Thanksgiving Day because I know I'll put on solid muscle which allows me to push more weight in the gym. I can't get mad  at the leftovers. I have enough leftovers to last me a couple weeks to a month, which is good because sometimes you don't feel like cooking every day and it's easier if you have leftovers because all you do is reheat and eat.

Balancing Work & Family

At times, it's impossible to balance family and work due to conflicting demands. Either your family will demand more of your time or your job will; you cannot have it both ways. One is bound to suffer. If you put your family first, your job will suffer and vice versa. The key is finding a supportive spouse that understands your rationale for putting in extra hours on the job so you can make sure they're straight. A man's job is to provide for his family and part of provision means you have to take advantage of overtime opportunities or extra income opportunities. After all, he's doing it for the family. Women need to stop running guilt trips on their man because if the money wasn't coming in, she would be upset about that but when the money coming in, she doesn't say anything (by right she shouldn't). At least he has a job because most men don't work. If a man works too much, his woman gets pissed and wants him home more; If he's not making enough, she wants him to step his finance game up. Damned if you do and don't with some women. Did it ever occur to some women that the reason why their man may spend more time at work than with her is because she NAGS too much? *Crickets* No man wants to come home to a motormouth. I said all that to say this: You can't always balance work & family because one is bound to suffer. I got the idea from Sweetie Pie's (a show that comes on at 9pm Saturdays on OWN). Tim and Jenae are supposed to get married, but that's on hiatus due to Tim's busy schedule. Jenae gets pissed because she feels Tim doesn't have his priorities straight.

Arguments Are Counterproductive

 Arguments are counterproductive to a relationship. The reason being is that both sides are trying to prove their case instead of coming to a mutual agreement or at best, agreeing to disagreeing. When you have a man and woman who stands their ground, you're bound to have conflict because neither side wants to admit being wrong because in their eyes, it's weakness. The best remedy is to get someone who is borderline agreeable but has their own mind. They don't have to co-sign everything you say and do but they should understand that you two can have tough conversations without screaming & cussing. When a woman doesn't get her way in a relationship, she gets to acting like a spoiled brat: Throwing verbal tantrums (including but not limited to screaming & cussing, low blows, deflection, belligerence, etc.) and silent treatment. Most men aren't phased by their woman giving them the silent treatment because to him, he doesn't have to hear her mouth and the less he has to hear her whine, the better. Where are the women who DON'T like to argue? There must be a woman that's mature enough to discuss issues in a rational manner. If you have to "argue" in order to have a healthy relationship, that's sad and those women will not receive consideration from me. These women want to be right and refuse to bend, but expect the man to do all the giving & taking. Ladies, a man's word is FINAL. Everything isn't always up for debate. Women are used to dealing in emotions, men are not. Most men will avoid confrontation at all costs; many men will confront when necessary.

Looking Deeper

A woman's heart should be so deep in God, a man seeks HIM to find her. That would be true if she was worth the pursuit but in today's climate, most women aren't wifeable so there's no incentive for men to give chase. Even if she was worthy, many men don't have the patience because some women make men move heaven & earth to prove himself worthy to her. Here's the problem as I see it: Women who use the aforementioned statement are trying to portray themselves as a great catch when they know deep down, they aren't. Everyone wants to portray themselves in the best possible light so people can look favorably upon us. That may work for a while but eventually the truth will come out and when it does, you're looking crazy and those so-called "fans" you had will start disintegrating. If you're going to quote, at least be able to back up what you quote. If a woman says her heart is so deep in God, a man must seek him to find her, then she better portray herself as a Godly woman.