The grandma wasn't wrong at all for intervening on behalf of her grandson. The daughter brought her drama into HER home and tried to flex on her mom. I guess the daughter learned today that grandma doesn't play. There's a difference between discipline and abuse, and the daughter crossed over into the abuse category. Regardless of how frustrated a parent gets with their child(ren), abuse should NEVER be an option. Some black parents are old-school, meaning they grew up being whipped like slaves so they discipline their child(ren) the same way. Only difference is that back in slavery times, whippings were legal so slaves would stay in their place. Now, parents can't spank their children without government intervention. The daughter moved in with grandma, so the daughter has to respect her grandma's environment. If grandma doesn't approve of the way daughter disciplines her son, then it's best if the daughter don't discipline in grandma's presence. I know the daughter is frustrated because the father isn't as involved in his kids lives as he should be, but she made the choice to lay down with him so she should deal as best she can. Discipline is when you correct the child, then talk to them about why (s)he was disciplined, then ask what did (s)he learn from that punishment. You reinforce your love for your child(ren), but you will discipline them if needed.
Oct 6, 2015
Strawberry Letter: Confused Brother
He's not as confused as he thinks, so he should admit it: He can't get over her past. He says he's the last person to judge anyone, but his questioning says otherwise. He wanted to be her "first" and he can't handle it because he's a notch on her belt. He's in the list of men she's bonked and every time he brings it up to her, she gets upset (rightfully so). I'm sure she told him about her past from the start, so he should accept it or move on. He doesn't have much room to talk because he's slept with his fair share of women. Did I read about her throwing up his past in his face? No, because I'm sure she accepted it. As long as they're compatible, he shouldn't be so judgmental. Everybody has a past, but it doesn't mean they're not deserving of a loving mate. As long as they've grown from their past, then that shouldn't define their future. He can talk all he wants about his love for her, but it means nothing until he stops judging her because she slept with dozens of men. Sounds like her past is one of his dealbreakers since he always finds a reason to bring up her sleeping with dozens of men. Maybe he wants to find out her sexual skills, who knows? I would think someone who's slept with dozens of people would be well-versed in the sex arena.
Strawberry Letter: I have a good Man That I Can't Trust
I've been in a relationship with my fiancee for 7 years now, and I can't trust him. He’s never done anything for me not to trust him, but looking at all the men in my family and knowing that they cheated. I can’t trust him because I feel that there is no way he is faithful. I have the mindset that ALL men cheat. My grandfather, dad, and uncles all have cheated on their wives, and those idiots are still with them after they’ve been caught time and time again. I refuse to get hurt. I’ve never had a problem with females calling his phone or anything, but I can’t trust him. He does everything for me and the kids. Everyday he comes home from work or school I ask him if he’s talked to any girls and if he ever cheated on me? This is everyday. He says he’s never cheated and will put it on his mother, who is deceased, and his kids, that he’s never cheated. What am I to do? Am I about to run a good man away?
Response: What does she think? No doubt he's about to run him away. Some men have nothing to hide so they'll tell their lady he hasn't cheated, because he hasn't given her a reason to doubt otherwise, but over time, that begins to wear on a man because it's like she doesn't trust him. A man can only take so much false accusation until he cheats for real, or he leaves because he's fed up with her insecurity. This shows you that some women have it in their minds that he's gonna cheat, even if he's been faithful from Day 1. Listen, just because the men in her family are doggish doesn't mean her man is, so she needs to shove the insecurity before she finds herself alone. He's better than me because I would've left after the first cheating accusation. There's no way I would tolerate cheating accusations when I haven't cheated. I couldn't cheat if I tried, because it's not in me to cheat. If I'm not happy, I'll try and work it out or bounce. Knowing my tolerance level, I'm gone. Best thing for him to do is stay faithful and hope she gets rid of that insecurity because if not, he's gone.
Oct 5, 2015
ICYMI: My Sperm Donor Is A Jerk | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS
I suggest she gets her tubes tied. She lacks any real maturity and her irresponsible actions are hurting, not helping her and the children. After her “miracle child,” she should've piped down on the pill and ceased sleeping with a man who she KNEW didn’t want any more children. Yet, she continues on with her irresponsible behavior of having unprotected sex so now here’s baby #3.
Great sex does not a relationship make; It never has and it never will. The man wants nothing to do with her other than sex and she obliges him. The difference is, SHE will be the one raising three children after he walks away. She may get him into the sack but she won’t make him stay – not even for his own seed(s).
What she does & how she carries herself around men will be a reflection on her children. Her two children and the one on the way deserve better.
Just A Few Things
Just a few tweets I've written over the past few days (some as recent as yesterday).
Good doesn't always have God in it.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 4, 2015
You know what's funny? These Falcons fans talking about #RiseUp, when you didn't hear nothing out of them last season. #ShotsFired.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 4, 2015
Being a workaholic isn't a bad thing if you have no family responsibilities.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 4, 2015
A lot of buff guys have size & strength, but they easily gas out due to lack of endurance. The combination of weights & cardio does wonders.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 3, 2015
A man should never take longer than a woman to get dressed.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 3, 2015
Some people test their potential mates by seeing how far they can go before (s)he puts their foot down.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 2, 2015
What you tell yourself daily lifts you up or tears you down.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 1, 2015
God's blessings come with no strings attached, Satan's "blessings" are in exchange for your soul. #Discernment.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 1, 2015
Oct 4, 2015
Workaholics
Being a workaholic isn't a bad thing if you have no family responsibilities.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 4, 2015
When people think of workaholic, what's the first thing that comes to one's mind? Someone who gives their life to their job. They're the first ones there, and the last ones gone. When the supervisor calls for overtime, (s)he's the first to volunteer because most times, they need the extra money because they're buying something special or they want to go the extra mile for their company. Regardless of the reason, what's so bad about being a workaholic? It's tough finding a job today, so when someone finds a job, they probably want to show appreciation for being hired by going the extra mile for their company. The only time being a workaholic is bad is if you have family obligations. You're busy trying to climb the corporate ladder while your family is falling apart. Someone's missing vital events in their kid's lives because they're chasing that big promotion.(S)he might get the desired promotion, but their spouse may serve them divorce papers because they're tired of being neglected, and the child(ren) become disappointed because their mom/dad hasn't been to their games, recitals, etc. As time goes on, the child(ren) becomes so accustomed to their parent putting their job before them that the child(ren) becomes indifferent towards their parent's presence. It doesn't matter if (s)he's present or not, because they've learned how to live without them. If someone wants marriage and a successful career, they need to understand that one will suffer at some point. Someone with no family obligations has more time to devote to their career. It's nothing for them to put in long hours on the job because they're looking at the big picture. They know where they're going, and they don't have time for a significant other because a relationship will get in the way of where they're trying to go.
Oct 2, 2015
Testing The Waters
Some people test their potential mates by seeing how far they can go before (s)he puts their foot down.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 2, 2015
Today's blog message is called Testing The Waters. You're meeting a person for the first time to see if there's compatibility. Everything's going smoothly so you two agree there could be a future together, so you continue moving forward with one another. I have one question: What's with couples "testing" each other? You're going to intentionally make someone mad just to gauge their reaction. You want to see how they handle anger. To me, that's playing games and I don't have that patience. You don't have to make someone mad to see how they handle anger. All you have to do is observe. People will get upset on their own and how YOU see someone handle anger should tell enough. I've been tested all my life, and I refuse to be tested by a supposed "queen". Where do they do that at? Another thing, while you're busy testing your mate, most likely they're busy testing you; so be sure you can handle what you put out.
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