Oct 7, 2015

Strawberry Letter: Out Of Control Discipline


The grandma wasn't wrong at all for intervening on behalf of her grandson. The daughter brought her drama into HER home and tried to flex on her mom. I guess the daughter learned today that grandma doesn't play. There's a difference between discipline and abuse, and the daughter crossed over into the abuse category. Regardless of how frustrated a parent gets with their child(ren), abuse should NEVER be an option. Some black parents are old-school, meaning they grew up being whipped like slaves so they discipline their child(ren) the same way. Only difference is that back in slavery times, whippings were legal so slaves would stay in their place. Now, parents can't spank their children without government intervention. The daughter moved in with grandma, so the daughter has to respect her grandma's environment. If grandma doesn't approve of the way daughter disciplines her son, then it's best if the daughter don't discipline in grandma's presence. I know the daughter is frustrated because the father isn't as involved in his kids lives as he should be, but she made the choice to lay down with him so she should deal as best she can. Discipline is when you correct the child, then talk to them about why (s)he was disciplined, then ask what did (s)he learn from that punishment. You reinforce your love for your child(ren), but you will discipline them if needed.

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