300 Sandwiches=Engagement

Catching A Man With 300 Sandwiches

 

This story has gone viral all over the internet. Stephanie Smith has been challenged by her boyfriend to make 300 sandwiches or he won't marry her. So far, she's made 176 so I'd say she's doing pretty good on the challenge. I just love to see people get bent out of shape about this story without digging deeper. This is why the word "feminist" has such a negative connotation for many people. If a man buys his wife or girlfriend a Rolls Royce, a trip to Spain, or a mansion in Beverly Hills, no one thinks twice; it's almost expected of him. But if a woman decides to do something nice for her boyfriend, something that smells remotely of June Cleaver, the feminazis get out their knives. It's not about the 300 sandwiches, it's about meeting a challenge. When she says "He gave me a challenge—a dare, to some degree", it really is a testament of how a healthy relationship isn't about settling, but constantly pushing and challenging your partner to be better. For some that is stop swearing, quit smoking, loose weight, or make 300 sandwiches. Many women burnt their buns when they read this story; "She shouldn't have to make 300 sandwiches to prove her love for him". Those women remain unmarried because they aren't willing to go the extra mile to get & keep a man. Women who object to Ms. Stephanie making 300 sandwiches remain unmarried, because they're the main ones crying over why no man wants them, but they don't want to do what it takes to keep a man. It's not like she's telling women to follow her path; she's doing what she feels is necessary to get Eric to marry her, and if it's through sandwiches, oh well. The 300 sandwiches thing wasn't a literal challenge from her boyfriend. Instead, she has discovered how taking a genuine interest and putting forth actual effort into something HE loves has made their relationship stronger regardless of a ring. She has enjoyed learning to cook and experimenting in the kitchen. And the boyfriend appreciates her efforts (since he is a gourmet chef and all). When 2 people are willing to take an interest in something that defines their partner, then gratification makes the love that much sweeter. If more women had her humble spirit, men would come out of the woodwork to get at them. I think it's funny how some women are crucifying her, saying all kinds of craziness like: She has low self-esteem, he should love her regardless of her making 300 sandwiches, he's not going to marry her after the 300th sandwich, etc. As stated before, the same women criticizing her for using food to hook her man (Eric is already a gourmet chef, so he knows how to cook.) are the same women who don't have a man. Let them tell it..."My man should love me even if I don't know how to cook" Sorry ma'am, but many men will not entertain a woman who can't cook, let alone do simple things to show her love for him like making sandwiches.

 

TD Jakes I CAN DO IT AND I KNOW IT I've Got What I Takes

This is an encouraging word for anyone who feels insecure about their calling. No one is 100% confident, everyone has their moments of insecurity and if they say they don't, they're lying.

 

Stand By Your Man

 

Famed country singer Tammy Wynette dropped this song Stand By Your Man. The premise of the song is that women need to stand by their man, right or wrong. Today's message is based on Tammy Wynette's hit from the early 90's. A newly married couple has big dreams for their marriage, plans that involve financial security. The husband gets word of a business venture, and agrees to invest half his life savings (without consulting his wife) The reason he doesn't consult his wife is because he believes in this venture so much, that he throws caution to the wind. His wife is skeptical, so it's hard to convince her to go along unless she has concrete evidence that the business will succeed. The success rate for this business is 50%, but he believes in this investment so much that he's willing to risk it all. Do you put your fear aside and discourage him, or you believe in him so much that you are willing to support him in this endeavor? Here's the catch, he's already invested and has lost half the life savings, but he's confident with a few adjustments, he can make back what he lost, and then some. He invested without her knowledge because he thought it was a sound investment; he got advice from an investor, and moved forward with the investment decision. At first, you think he didn't make a wise decision, but there's always bumps in the road at first. The true test is sticking with your man so you can reap the reward at the end. You're not going to be successful right off the bat all the time. He's basing his confidence on research. You can have your man's back, and question him. Sometimes, you have to question your man's judgment especially if you think he's going to lead you wrong. If the husband raised any objection, his wife would catch feelings and say how he's not supporting her. Yes, he lost half the life savings in this business venture, but he's determined not to fail. He's going to make adjustments, and the business will prosper. The wife gets upset (and rightfully so) because there goes the children's college fund. The main idea is that sometimes, you have to weather the storm with your mate, even if it means taking losses along the way. When he reaches that light at the end of the tunnel, he will remember his woman who supported him through it all. She will have reason to celebrate in his prosperity, because she didn't quit when the going got tough. Many (wo)men want the shine, but not the grind. They want to celebrate their mate's blessing, but they weren't there during the struggle.

Dahlia (How To Be A Woman): Protect Your Man

Today's message is from Dahlia, one of the administrators of How To Be A Woman on Facebook. This message shows that men need to be protected just as much as women. Men deal with a lot on a daily, and if his woman doesn't have his back, what does he do? Show your love for Dahlia.

 

How to Be a Woman

REPOST - Protect Your Man

Ladies, you have the power to protect your man. Men face a lot, more than you think. They face stresses of the world and pressure from their roles. They must be the providers, the guardians, protectors, the kings, the alpha men. They must go out in the world and battle with the elements of society. When he is worn out, defeated and tired, protect him.

Yes, men need protection too and we women have the nurturing spirit to protect them. He is like a sword, you are like his sheathe. A sword can be a dangerous weapon when wielded. A sheathe protects the sword from wear and tear, and weathering from the elements, but it also keeps it enclosed so it won't harm. He is the warrior, you are his shield. You protect him from attacks, ensure that his vital parts are covered and that he is safe. Sometimes, he even needs protection from himself when he's feeling down and needs uplifting. When he's facing war with his job, society, his family; be at his side and soothe him, reassure him and take care of him. Protect him from the outside forces that drain him and drag him down.

Men need for their women to have their backs. Have his back and protect him. Be the ear when he just wants to vent, be his nurse to soothe his wounds, just be there. Protect him always and maintain peace for him, yourself and the foundation you have together. The time is now ladies. Let's protect them!

~ Dahlia



Cheating & Lying=Caring About Someone?

 

Some women will actually believe this crap that men speak. First off, a true man would never cheat & lie to his woman because he considers how it makes her feel. Second, once she finds out the truth, she doubts everything he tells her from that point on, even if later on down the line he is honest about other things. I cannot support this statement because it promotes dishonesty. If you can't be real with your mate, who can you be real with? That's crazy to me. Unfortunately, many women believe this because deep down, the truth hurts (and usually it does). If the truth hurts, why wouldn't you want it watered down? It's like medicine: Good for you long-term, but bitter in the short-term. When I think of a woman who accepts this statement, I think of someone who can't handle the truth. She has no one in her life to keep it real with her out of love. Her circle is full of yes-(wo)men, those who butter her up with cutie-pie talk instead of that which will help her grow into the best woman possible. Sadly, not many people can handle true talk; that shouldn't stop anyone from telling the truth, as long as it's done with tact. Nobody's going to respond to tough love like "you did such & such wrong, you did this, that and the third incorrectly". A woman should be able to handle truth however it comes. I have a hard time understanding how you can cheat & lie to your mate, and claim to love them. If you care for someone, you wouldn't intentionally hurt them. You care enough about your spouse to tell them the truth. If they get upset, that's their issue. They may not see it now, but give them time. Later, they'll come around and appreciate your candor.

 

If I'm Not Happy, No One Is Happy

"If Mom Ain't Happy, Nobody's Happy" & "If she ain't happy, you (the man) won't be happy" are two phrases some women love to utter. Think about it, a man can be handling business when his lady comes out of the blue & starts nagging. Many times, some women don't know why they're nagging, they just do it out of habit. I get that women want quality time with their man, and I'm all for that. There's a different way to go about it. Nagging is a turn-off for any man, and makes many men tune her out completely. Nobody has time to hear someone run their lip 24-7. Look, a woman is more likely to get what she wants if she approaches me in a respectful tone. If some women master this, they will always get what they want from their spouses. Men don't like being talked at, and if a man feels like his woman is talking at him, he won't only ignore her, but he will not go out of his way for her. Some women have been misled into thinking that nagging will get a man to acquiesce. It may work on some men, but he'll do it to shut her up. I'm thankful that my happiness isn't dependent on a woman, or anyone else for that matter. If someone's unhappy, that's their problem. It's not going to stop me from being happy. When I hear those two phrases come out of a man's mouth, I think simp. A simp goes out of his way to please a woman who's not interested in him, so he's going to use the aforementioned statements if it's going to put him in good standing with her. It comes as no surprise that some women who utter these statements are being manipulative, because a real woman would allow her man to make her happy in his own way. A real woman doesn't have to nag to get what she wants out of her man. As long as she's submissive, a man will move heaven & earth to please her.

Why Can't Men Turn Down Sex?

Women can turn down sex with no problem, but some men have the hardest time rejecting a woman's sexual advances. Why is that? I think it's because women value sex much more than men do. For many women, sex represents that magnetic bond that links a woman and her man for life. Some women have to feel comfortable enough with a man before they sleep with him, which makes sense. Men can bonk this woman and that woman with no connection; thank you, and leave $20 on the table. There isn't a man alive that will turn down cutty, because he doesn't want to be seen as gay. Granted, there are some men that will reject cutty, but they're in the minority. Most men think with the little head instead of the one containing their brain. In high school, young men are pressured to make out with the hottest girl in school or else he gets the third degree of why he didn't hit that, or being asked "Are you gay?" Too many men base their self-esteem on getting some loving from a random woman, not realizing she could be taken or have a STD. Most times, these men have no business going for themselves; all they want to do is chase after some booty. You have a real man who is about his business, and doesn't salivate over a shapely woman wanting to sleep with him. To him, there's more to life than sexing an attractive woman. He turns her down, and she gets upset and proceeds to attack his manhood (he's gay, he doesn't like women, he couldn't handle her anyway, etc.). Some men could care less because that's confirmation he made the right decision. How some men can put their lives on hold just to bonk a woman is beyond me. Do you think women are going crazy over not getting package from a man? No, because some women figure men are going to keep throwing themselves at them, so it's no loss. If women can focus on other things rather than getting it in with some man, men need to do the same: Focus on other things rather than chasing after booty. You know, build your legacy. When a man has his stuff together, the women will automatically come. It's better than worrying about whether this woman or that woman is going to let you hit it.