This story has gone viral all over the internet. Stephanie Smith has been challenged by her boyfriend to make 300 sandwiches or he won't marry her. So far, she's made 176 so I'd say she's doing pretty good on the challenge. I just love to see people get bent out of shape about this story without digging deeper. This is why the word "feminist" has such a negative connotation for many people. If a man buys his wife or girlfriend a Rolls Royce, a trip to Spain, or a mansion in Beverly Hills, no one thinks twice; it's almost expected of him. But if a woman decides to do something nice for her boyfriend, something that smells remotely of June Cleaver, the feminazis get out their knives. It's not about the 300 sandwiches, it's about meeting a challenge. When she says "He gave me a challenge—a dare, to some degree", it really is a testament of how a healthy relationship isn't about settling, but constantly pushing and challenging your partner to be better. For some that is stop swearing, quit smoking, loose weight, or make 300 sandwiches. Many women burnt their buns when they read this story; "She shouldn't have to make 300 sandwiches to prove her love for him". Those women remain unmarried because they aren't willing to go the extra mile to get & keep a man. Women who object to Ms. Stephanie making 300 sandwiches remain unmarried, because they're the main ones crying over why no man wants them, but they don't want to do what it takes to keep a man. It's not like she's telling women to follow her path; she's doing what she feels is necessary to get Eric to marry her, and if it's through sandwiches, oh well. The 300 sandwiches thing wasn't a literal challenge from her boyfriend. Instead, she has discovered how taking a genuine interest and putting forth actual effort into something HE loves has made their relationship stronger regardless of a ring. She has enjoyed learning to cook and experimenting in the kitchen. And the boyfriend appreciates her efforts (since he is a gourmet chef and all). When 2 people are willing to take an interest in something that defines their partner, then gratification makes the love that much sweeter. If more women had her humble spirit, men would come out of the woodwork to get at them. I think it's funny how some women are crucifying her, saying all kinds of craziness like: She has low self-esteem, he should love her regardless of her making 300 sandwiches, he's not going to marry her after the 300th sandwich, etc. As stated before, the same women criticizing her for using food to hook her man (Eric is already a gourmet chef, so he knows how to cook.) are the same women who don't have a man. Let them tell it..."My man should love me even if I don't know how to cook" Sorry ma'am, but many men will not entertain a woman who can't cook, let alone do simple things to show her love for him like making sandwiches.
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