Stand By Your Man

 

Famed country singer Tammy Wynette dropped this song Stand By Your Man. The premise of the song is that women need to stand by their man, right or wrong. Today's message is based on Tammy Wynette's hit from the early 90's. A newly married couple has big dreams for their marriage, plans that involve financial security. The husband gets word of a business venture, and agrees to invest half his life savings (without consulting his wife) The reason he doesn't consult his wife is because he believes in this venture so much, that he throws caution to the wind. His wife is skeptical, so it's hard to convince her to go along unless she has concrete evidence that the business will succeed. The success rate for this business is 50%, but he believes in this investment so much that he's willing to risk it all. Do you put your fear aside and discourage him, or you believe in him so much that you are willing to support him in this endeavor? Here's the catch, he's already invested and has lost half the life savings, but he's confident with a few adjustments, he can make back what he lost, and then some. He invested without her knowledge because he thought it was a sound investment; he got advice from an investor, and moved forward with the investment decision. At first, you think he didn't make a wise decision, but there's always bumps in the road at first. The true test is sticking with your man so you can reap the reward at the end. You're not going to be successful right off the bat all the time. He's basing his confidence on research. You can have your man's back, and question him. Sometimes, you have to question your man's judgment especially if you think he's going to lead you wrong. If the husband raised any objection, his wife would catch feelings and say how he's not supporting her. Yes, he lost half the life savings in this business venture, but he's determined not to fail. He's going to make adjustments, and the business will prosper. The wife gets upset (and rightfully so) because there goes the children's college fund. The main idea is that sometimes, you have to weather the storm with your mate, even if it means taking losses along the way. When he reaches that light at the end of the tunnel, he will remember his woman who supported him through it all. She will have reason to celebrate in his prosperity, because she didn't quit when the going got tough. Many (wo)men want the shine, but not the grind. They want to celebrate their mate's blessing, but they weren't there during the struggle.

Dahlia (How To Be A Woman): Protect Your Man

Today's message is from Dahlia, one of the administrators of How To Be A Woman on Facebook. This message shows that men need to be protected just as much as women. Men deal with a lot on a daily, and if his woman doesn't have his back, what does he do? Show your love for Dahlia.

 

How to Be a Woman

REPOST - Protect Your Man

Ladies, you have the power to protect your man. Men face a lot, more than you think. They face stresses of the world and pressure from their roles. They must be the providers, the guardians, protectors, the kings, the alpha men. They must go out in the world and battle with the elements of society. When he is worn out, defeated and tired, protect him.

Yes, men need protection too and we women have the nurturing spirit to protect them. He is like a sword, you are like his sheathe. A sword can be a dangerous weapon when wielded. A sheathe protects the sword from wear and tear, and weathering from the elements, but it also keeps it enclosed so it won't harm. He is the warrior, you are his shield. You protect him from attacks, ensure that his vital parts are covered and that he is safe. Sometimes, he even needs protection from himself when he's feeling down and needs uplifting. When he's facing war with his job, society, his family; be at his side and soothe him, reassure him and take care of him. Protect him from the outside forces that drain him and drag him down.

Men need for their women to have their backs. Have his back and protect him. Be the ear when he just wants to vent, be his nurse to soothe his wounds, just be there. Protect him always and maintain peace for him, yourself and the foundation you have together. The time is now ladies. Let's protect them!

~ Dahlia



Cheating & Lying=Caring About Someone?

 

Some women will actually believe this crap that men speak. First off, a true man would never cheat & lie to his woman because he considers how it makes her feel. Second, once she finds out the truth, she doubts everything he tells her from that point on, even if later on down the line he is honest about other things. I cannot support this statement because it promotes dishonesty. If you can't be real with your mate, who can you be real with? That's crazy to me. Unfortunately, many women believe this because deep down, the truth hurts (and usually it does). If the truth hurts, why wouldn't you want it watered down? It's like medicine: Good for you long-term, but bitter in the short-term. When I think of a woman who accepts this statement, I think of someone who can't handle the truth. She has no one in her life to keep it real with her out of love. Her circle is full of yes-(wo)men, those who butter her up with cutie-pie talk instead of that which will help her grow into the best woman possible. Sadly, not many people can handle true talk; that shouldn't stop anyone from telling the truth, as long as it's done with tact. Nobody's going to respond to tough love like "you did such & such wrong, you did this, that and the third incorrectly". A woman should be able to handle truth however it comes. I have a hard time understanding how you can cheat & lie to your mate, and claim to love them. If you care for someone, you wouldn't intentionally hurt them. You care enough about your spouse to tell them the truth. If they get upset, that's their issue. They may not see it now, but give them time. Later, they'll come around and appreciate your candor.

 

If I'm Not Happy, No One Is Happy

"If Mom Ain't Happy, Nobody's Happy" & "If she ain't happy, you (the man) won't be happy" are two phrases some women love to utter. Think about it, a man can be handling business when his lady comes out of the blue & starts nagging. Many times, some women don't know why they're nagging, they just do it out of habit. I get that women want quality time with their man, and I'm all for that. There's a different way to go about it. Nagging is a turn-off for any man, and makes many men tune her out completely. Nobody has time to hear someone run their lip 24-7. Look, a woman is more likely to get what she wants if she approaches me in a respectful tone. If some women master this, they will always get what they want from their spouses. Men don't like being talked at, and if a man feels like his woman is talking at him, he won't only ignore her, but he will not go out of his way for her. Some women have been misled into thinking that nagging will get a man to acquiesce. It may work on some men, but he'll do it to shut her up. I'm thankful that my happiness isn't dependent on a woman, or anyone else for that matter. If someone's unhappy, that's their problem. It's not going to stop me from being happy. When I hear those two phrases come out of a man's mouth, I think simp. A simp goes out of his way to please a woman who's not interested in him, so he's going to use the aforementioned statements if it's going to put him in good standing with her. It comes as no surprise that some women who utter these statements are being manipulative, because a real woman would allow her man to make her happy in his own way. A real woman doesn't have to nag to get what she wants out of her man. As long as she's submissive, a man will move heaven & earth to please her.

Why Can't Men Turn Down Sex?

Women can turn down sex with no problem, but some men have the hardest time rejecting a woman's sexual advances. Why is that? I think it's because women value sex much more than men do. For many women, sex represents that magnetic bond that links a woman and her man for life. Some women have to feel comfortable enough with a man before they sleep with him, which makes sense. Men can bonk this woman and that woman with no connection; thank you, and leave $20 on the table. There isn't a man alive that will turn down cutty, because he doesn't want to be seen as gay. Granted, there are some men that will reject cutty, but they're in the minority. Most men think with the little head instead of the one containing their brain. In high school, young men are pressured to make out with the hottest girl in school or else he gets the third degree of why he didn't hit that, or being asked "Are you gay?" Too many men base their self-esteem on getting some loving from a random woman, not realizing she could be taken or have a STD. Most times, these men have no business going for themselves; all they want to do is chase after some booty. You have a real man who is about his business, and doesn't salivate over a shapely woman wanting to sleep with him. To him, there's more to life than sexing an attractive woman. He turns her down, and she gets upset and proceeds to attack his manhood (he's gay, he doesn't like women, he couldn't handle her anyway, etc.). Some men could care less because that's confirmation he made the right decision. How some men can put their lives on hold just to bonk a woman is beyond me. Do you think women are going crazy over not getting package from a man? No, because some women figure men are going to keep throwing themselves at them, so it's no loss. If women can focus on other things rather than getting it in with some man, men need to do the same: Focus on other things rather than chasing after booty. You know, build your legacy. When a man has his stuff together, the women will automatically come. It's better than worrying about whether this woman or that woman is going to let you hit it.
 

Acting Brand New

It's funny how some people forget their struggle, once they get on top. You know what I'm talking about: A person gets their breakthrough, and they start acting brand new. Their demeanor changes from their clothes to self-esteem. There's an old-saying that goes "Never forget where you come from". Simply put, don't let success change you. So many people forget they weren't always on top, so why are you going to act like you're all that? It's stupid. It's shameful that some people don't know how to handle success. They forget who supported them when no one would give them a shot. Like the Bible says, pride goes before a fall. Be careful how you treat people because on your way down, you'll need some of those same people. Life has a way of flipping the script where you struggle, and others prosper. Some of these celebrities are good for this. Many of them came from nothing, and had to work hard for their success. Once they got big, here come the big mansion, luxury car(s), fine dining, etc. I'm not saying you should be ashamed of being blessed; quite the contrary. You're supposed to look like God did something for you. If someone has a problem with you being blessed, they can take it up with the Lord. At the same time, remain humble. When you're humble, God can bless you with more because he knows you can handle it. He knows you won't act brand new. If you're wondering why God doesn't bless you any more than he has, maybe it's because you can't handle the blessing. God doesn't bless someone if he knows they can't handle it.

Blk Man Commits Suicide By Cop After FB Post Reveal Beastie Baby Momma K...

 

This story is crazy. This man kills himself because his baby's mother wouldn't let him see his son. Get this, he wanted to be in his child's life. You have fathers that pump & dump; they pump a woman with his seed, and dump the child on the woman. I'm going to post a few of Rachael's comments from my Facebook page:

Rachael Notyaaveragechick Guelle Unbelievable. Smh! You women don't want a good man to be a father....blah. He laid down with a lowlife piece of shit and now all women are to blame. How was getting himself killed helping the situation? If there's a God? Like really? Smh! I wish people would stop having kids with trifling hoes. She will get her justice. You never turn your child against his or her other parent. Even if the other parent ain't shit. Smh!

Rachael Notyaaveragechick Guelle Killing yourself over anyone is stupid. I could understand if he killed her but that's wrong too. I can't believe he left his child behind with that scum. Smh! Never. I would've made her life a living hell. I would've tracked her every move, recorded every conversation. Smh. All I see is two sorry ass parents. Damn shame!

 Another comment from Rachael: They are both pathetic. You never turn a child against his other parent. It doesn't matter if they are good or bad. Smh! If you don't have anything good to say, shut the fuck up.

 

My View: Men, be careful who you lay down with because you never know someone's true nature. It's no secret that some women can be very foul. They use their children against the father because of a personal vendetta. I guess if she can't get to him, she'll get him through his child(ren). No matter your problem against your (wo)man, YOU DO NOT use your child against their parent. I can't respect that at all. People say he took the easy way out, but I don't see it that way. This man was tired of fighting; he was going through this situation for 5 years, and each time he got no results. How much more can you fight? Men, do not take your lives over these foul women. They're not going to be at your funeral; they're not going to paint you as a hero. On the contrary, these women are keeping it moving. Going further, the system will allow these single mothers to take days off to go after child support. This is real talk, her justice is coming. She will never sleep at night, because she caused this man to kill himself. She will have his blood on her hands & once the child grows up, that child will want to know the truth, and I hope the guilt eats at her to where she tells the truth. She needs her son taken from her and made to pay child support. There are plenty of stories like this, and each time I come to the same conclusion: Men need to wake up! Stop going by your sausage and use the brain God gave you! If you don't see yourself with her long-term, don't have a child with that woman. You don't know if she's vindictive, and you don't want that in your life. I'm thankful I don't have to go through this because I have too much to accomplish in life to be saddled with child support for 18+ years. Should I decide to get married & produce children, I'm doing it the right way: Get established in my career/education, meet the right woman, we have real talk, then get married. Some of these men are too stupid to realize that many women are playing them. They turn men against each other as part of a master plan to eliminate the male gender. The reason why some men simp so hard for the approval of women is because they think she'll give him sex. 9 times out of 10, that's not the case. Some of these men need to wake up. If this story doesn't cause men to tighten up, I don't know what will. I read about this and it's very very sad! I saw the FB post the young man put the day before he died. If you look on my news feed page, there's a guy Marvin Cease. He shared the entire post of what the young man felt. If what he said about her has truth, I just don't understand why these immature spiteful women prefer their children to be without their father. If they're wanting to be a father, let these men father their children regardless of what he might have done to you, or what happened to your relationship! Grow up! At the same time, it was selfish of him to kill himself, because now his son is going to grow up without a father. I'll never forget this story. My condolences go out to Derrick's immediate family.