Why Are You Single? By Trina Rogers

Trina BabyTee Rogers

Young and young-minded females have a few subconscious issues to resolve. Why are they single? Of the many answers I have been presented with, one response has never been stated with all honesty. I've heard the ones who say 'I want this type of man', 'he has to be able to handle a woman like me', 'there are no good men', 'they're all gay or married'. Typical deflection if you ask me. But what about this response: I need my life (heart, body, mind and soul) to be completely ready for when God sends him to me. Some women have requirements, expectations, demands and presumptions about what 'the man for them' should be, but the man has the right to want a certain type of woman as well. In the midst of all the chaos of the Good Black Man/Woman relationship, have these women really taken into account their attitude and conversation towards men? While they are speaking their mind, recalling past experiences they can't let go of, and placing blame for whatever reason, that one man is sitting on the sidelines watching their every move. Do they think that man likes what he sees? Do they think God will send them a man when they regularly talk and behave the way they do towards what He has created for them? If the old cliche' is true that Game recognize Game, they see the no-good men because they themselves are.

 

 

 

 

 



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1. What you value, goes into how you live your life.

2. During the course of getting to know someone, how they handle the word "no" speaks volumes about their character. Are they going to have a conniption just because they don't get their way?

3. You cannot be a leader without any followers.

4. Most people are great individuals until you make them mad, and all heck breaks loose. Your true character shows in rough times.

5. What you allow, is what will continue. For instance, if you allow someone to disrespect you and you don't check them, they will continue doing so.

6. Just because a man speaks truth about a woman, it doesn't mean he hates his mother or women. Some women need to stop that foolishness.

7. I used to think everyone was cut out for marriage, but now, not so much. Unrealistic expectations from men & women have contributed to this mindset.

8. Black Men & Women have a hard time finding quality mates, so why do some (wo)men try to make it seem like one gender is better off than another when it comes to searching for love? True, women far outnumber men, but quantity doesn't always equal quality.

9. 20-30 years from now, most people won't remember Drake, Lil Wayne, or Rick Ross.

10. There are girls, and there are women.

11. There are boys, and there are men.

12. If a man is truly interested in a woman, he will move heaven & earth to show it.

13. Much of life comes down to choice, take or trust.

14. People talk about Jesus Take The Wheel, but when Jesus takes the wheel, folks want to get back in the driver's seat.

15. Better watch those people you call your friends!

16. Loyalty is a lost art among people; everyone has their own agenda.

17. Riding solo isn't always a bad thing.

18. I remember when Atlanta and Miami cats used to beef heavy in the 90's, because the Boobie Boys took over Atlanta's dope scene

19. Home should be the one place you have peace. If you don't have peace in your own home, something's wrong.

20. The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.



Ladies, Know Your Role: By Trina Rogers

This conversation is based on a status from Trina Rogers, called Knowing Your Role As A Woman. This is her status: A woman who knows her place, never loses her position.

　

Renee Robertson Some women just don't get this..

　

Trina BabyTee Rogers So very true Renee! Traditions have been distorted, and principles have no value anymore. I hear women saying they will submit to God and His will for their lives, but they won't submit to the man that God sent to them and what He created specifically for them. Submit doesn't mean being a doormat or a slave. It means the woman acknowledges the role the man has in a relationship and is willing to help him to achieve and succeed for both in the partnership.

　

Richard Hudson School these wayward women Trina BabyTee Rogers. It's funny though, because if a woman can't submit to God's ordained man for her life, how can she expect to submit to God and his will for her life? NO BUENO.

　

Trina BabyTee Rogers Exactly Richard!! They get caught up in "whom" they are submitting to, not why!

Renee Robertson Women have a problem letting a man lead and quite truthfully a lot of men want to lead in certain areas and want to fall back in others...It doesn't work like that! You need to be the man of the house and if a woman can't let him be just that she's either with the wrong man or needs to stay single a little longer until she gets it. I have a strong personality and very strong willed, and if you let me walk over you, its a turn off and I can't do it! If you can't speak up for yourself, you damn sure won't be able to speak for me!!

　

Richard Hudson There can't be two chiefs in a relationship. If you have two strong personalities in a relationship, you two will clash. It's best to have one strong-willed person, and the other be a combination of strong and meek (not pushover, but speaking up when it counts).

Trina BabyTee Rogers The woman can be as strong as a man. She just needs to realize when to use that strength and never use it against him. The man wants to know that when he isn't there she can hold down the home and family.

Richard Hudson Right. Many women lose sight of this. No man wants a woman that can't hold it down in his absence.

Renee Robertson That's where the right man comes to play Richard and being ready for him.. A strong woman will submit to man she feels deserving when she's ready!

　

Richard Hudson Of course Renee. A woman should never submit to a man that hasn't proven himself. That's why many women have issues with submission, they submit to the wrong clowns who aren't about nothing.



A Liar Is Dangerous

Falcons LB Brian Banks after his first training camp practice

 

If the Brian Banks story has taught anyone anything, it should be that A Liar Is Dangerous. Why are liars dangerous? Because a liar can't be trusted. Someone's life could be at stake, and the difference between life & death could lie in a liar's testimony. If they tell a fib, the alleged offender goes free, but if they tell the truth, the offender is locked up for life. I read instances on how people have lied on someone in revenge. Want examples? Here's one. A woman and her husband are engaged in a bitter divorce, citing irreconcilable differences. Each has a sizeable amount of assets. If memory serves me, alimony favors women because sometimes, women enter a relationship with less than their men, so the courts look at it like; she needs such & such amount to survive, so we're taking half of everything this man has worked for. She's not satisfied, so she's looking to take him for everything (or close to it) he has. When a person's been wronged, most times they're looking for revenge. Why wouldn't they? They want the other person to hurt just like they do/did. For anyone not familiar with Brian Banks, let me get you up to speed. Falcons LB Brian Banks was falsely accused of rape, and did 10 years for a crime he didn't commit. He was released not too long ago, and is looking to reestablish his football legacy. For him not to have ill feelings towards his accuser, speaks volumes about his character. I don't know too many people that would take being falsely accused lightly, and rightfully they shouldn't. When your life is on the line, you're supposed to fight. We must not allow anyone to front on us, and we not do anything about it. Me personally, I don't know if I could forgive right off bat; It would take lots of prayer for me to not hold a grudge against the lying woman. You can forgive, but not forget; otherwise, what's the use of having gone through that ordeal? That's crazy to me. There are real-life examples of people being falsely accused; having done 10, 20 years before they're found innocent. By that time, it's too late. Being falsely accused of a crime, and having to do a bid, only to be found innocent years later does something to your psyche. No amount of money can make up for lost time. Your kids are grown or almost grown, so that means you missed out on graduations (high school & college), and other milestones. You didn't ask to be falsely accused, someone decided to be spiteful and frame you. The worst kind of liar(s) is one in authority. The reason why liars in authority are extra dangerous is because your livelihood is oftentimes in their hands. They don't need a reason to dislike you, they just don't like you. These people go to great lengths to get you fired, written up, etc. all because you're a threat to them. One day, you find yourself unemployed through no fault of your own, many times a spiteful supervisor finally succeeded in getting you fired. It's gravy though, because it's a blessing. You no longer have to experience that nonsense, though the aftereffects linger for quite sometime. Every person you come in contact with, you assume they are foul because of past experiences. Those are instances where a liar is dangerous. Like the elders say, if you lie, you'll steal.

Random Thought

 

It must be said. Adam, you idiot! How can you let Eve trick you into eating the forbidden fruit? Adam & Eve were given dominion over the Garden Of Eden. They had their selection of the choiciest fruit. God told them they could eat of every tree EXCEPT one...The Tree of the Knowledge Of Good & Evil. There's a reason why God commanded them NOT to eat the forbidden fruit. Forbidden fruit is just that, FORBIDDEN. It looks pleasing on the outside, but one bite of that forbidden fruit, and it doesn't bode well. When Adam & Eve disobeyed God, and ate from the tree of Good & Evil, Adam tried to play it off and say "That woman you gave me, she ate the fruit first, and then I ate." Yes, Eve did eat the fruit first, BUT Adam being the head should've checked Eve, and told her "Look, God ordered us not to eat from the tree of Good & Evil; we shouldn't do this." Eve allowed the serpent Lucifer to deceive her, and she deceives Adam. Because of their disobedience, sin came into this world, and that's why we have the BS we do today. Let's be real, God ordained man as the head, right? Right. A man's job is to keep order under his watch, by any means necessary. If there's anyone under his command that will not abide by established guidelines, he must do whatever's necessary to maintain order, even if he must terminate a member of his team. This goes double for husbands & wives. If a man asserts authority (within reason), and his woman refuses to submit, he should banish her on sight. Usually, rebellious women will show better than tell that they will not submit, even if the man is leading honorably. This is why it's important for a man to screen who he puts on his team. A coach's job is to motivate, and encourage his players. How can he do that, and much of his time is spent trying to get wayward players in line. Adam is symbolic of most men today; never want to take responsibility for what happens under their watch. True, no matter how stand-up a man is, and he leads correctly, there are some people that just won't do right. Those are ones he doesn't need to put on his team. This goes out to deflective men: If you want to wear the crown, take responsibility for the ups & downs.

Panties or Pants?

 

I'm going somewhere with this, so hold on. Panties Or Pants? I'm asking this question because there's a caliber of women that wear both. What I mean is that some women have forgotten how to be ladies, but they're content with wearing the pants in the relationship. These women seek out simps (weak men) because they know her man won't check her wayward behavior, and let her talk crazy to him. He sits there looking stupid, because he's dependent on her for survival. There is no way a woman should wear the pants in a relationship. It's a reason God has established order for men and women. God has guidelines for men on how they should conduct themselves, and God also holds women accountable. A woman must feel uncomfortable wearing the panties and pants in a relationship. Then again, some women like being the man & woman. To those types, we call them hermaphrodites. Fellas: There can be one woman, that must not be you. A man is to embrace manly wisdom. Ladies: There can be one man, it cannot be you. Embrace womanhood, and everything it entails. The problem is that men are too comfortable being women, and women are comfortable being men. When was it acceptable for an able-bodied man to sit home doing nothing? He's home chilling, while his woman is grinding at work. At most, he'll leave home at 8am, and come back at 5pm; acting like he put in a full day's work. The ladies are no better, because some of them act more manly than men, and that ought not be. Some men will do anything for their woman. Unfortunately, women see this as a sign of weakness, and then before a man knows it, his woman's wearing the pants in the relationship. When it comes to relationships, the ideal situation involves communication and equal partaking in both the decision-making and responsibilities. But this is not the case with most couples. In general, it is usually one spouse who ultimately takes control. From a Christian standpoint, the man is the CEO of the home, and the wife is second-in-command. This arrangement ensures that God's order is being followed. I'll leave you with this: If women are wearing the pants, and the panties, what is the man wearing?




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1. Chicago has long had violence issues, so why all of a sudden is Chicago in the news for murders? We get it, mass shootings & murders are commonplace. No need to constantly report that 50+ people were shot & killed.

2. Stevie J (Love & Hip Hop Atlanta) is doing the most. He's got Mimi and Joseline wrapped around his finger. When he says jump, they ask how high.

3. There's a time & place for everything: A time for laughter & grief, a time for jokes and seriousness, a time for grinding, and a time to relax. You get where I'm going with this?

4. Why is it that seemingly all singers get hooked on drugs? You have fame & fortune, and throw it away because you want to puff, puff, pass.

5. It's hard for most people to trust, because they have taken so many L's in life.

6. Sometimes, God will take you through storms in your childhood, so you can become a strong (wo)man.

7. You have to go back 60 years in order to find good music. Today's music is fecal matter.

8. When it comes to food, I'm not picky. As long as it tastes good, I'm all in.

9. Jay-Z, Stevie Wonder, Usher, and other artists are boycotting Florida because of our Stand Your Ground Law. Florida will go on with(out) them. Besides, millions of tourists will continue coming to Florida for vacation.

10. When you say, "I'll do anything", be ready for someone to hold you to that.

11. Some people want the fame and glory right now. They want the high paying job, want the perfect relationship, want the success now. But what seeds have you sewn to yield that crop? Thankfulness and humility goes a long way.

12. Going to the gym is my time to get away from everything & everyone. When I'm working out, I have no worries.

13. Ever since Lebron James said "I ain't got no worries". I try to adopt that motto to my life.

14. In order to prosper, you may have to leave your stagnant environment. For example: If you're looking for a decent job, and can't find one where you're at, look elsewhere.

15. Why are some people afraid to step out on faith? The worst that can happen is *gasp* THINGS FALL INTO PLACE!