Willing Participant

Nojma Reflects

Monday

Why is it that women want me to talk about the lack of discipline that men have, all these babies that they are making, and all these women they are "running through", but get upset when I make a point to say that same lack of discipline also resides in women, because how else would a man be able to make all these "babies" if all these wombs weren't available to him? How else would a man be undisciplined, unless he was dealing with an undisciplined woman? How else would men be able to run through women, if women weren't passing their wombs like batons in a track meet? I mean really. If you want to know why all these men are able to do all those things, instead of asking them...why not ask the WOMEN that allow it by giving these men permission? I just love how I am told that Women are the source of everything, how we are the life force, you know all the stuff that makes being the source sound good, until I use this situation as an example, then all of sudden we aren't the source of everything lol. Which one is it? You can't be the source when it's admirable and convenient, but want to run when being the source places you in a less than favorable light.

 

My View: I've said it before, and I will say it again. People do what you allow. There's always a willing participant, someone who offers the opportunity and a taker. Always have been and always will be. If men weren't going to the coochie bank, the woman's womb would have to shut down. Just like businesses can't survive without customers, the source can't survive without a willing participant. Women are the source of everything, life included. A man will always go as far as a woman lets him. It baffles me that women get upset when one of their own calls them out, but think nothing of it when they let men run up & through them. Some women should be upset at these men who hit & run. A real man seeks out a disciplined woman. A disciplined woman respects herself enough to give it up to the right man. It's like a used car: The more mileage, the more problems that vehicle will have. It's the same with some women, the more men they let in HER house, the more these men are going to eat her out of house & home. Sooner or later, she will have nothing left to give to a good man who comes into her life. The bitterness she carries as a result of feeling used; she expects future men to pay for her mistakes. If a woman chastises one of her own, it's out of love & respect. She respects her fellow sister enough to want the best for her. She doesn't want her fellow sister to become a statistic. If some women want to be treated as sperm banks, let them.



Look Ma, No Hands

Nojma Reflects

Ok, Let's see if I Got It. First you tell me that the Black Woman is "strong" because she has to hold it down, because the man that SHE chose turned out to be a shiftless bum(let her tell it), and how she is Independent, intelligent beyond comprehension, she is the new age woman, she doesn't need a man to do anything for her, but wait for it......when it comes to men, well the men that "dog" her out, she all of a sudden becomes defenseless, and incapable of comprehension or discernment.

It seems to be instantaneous. I mean how does this "strong, independent, lettered woman" turn into this helpless creature?

I mean is she not coherent when HER virtue is being slid down HER waistline by HER OWN hands? I mean....is she having an out of body experience when SHE is laying on HER back? Ummm is she not cognizant when she parts heaven for him, signaling an invitation? During the "act" is she not aware of what is taking place? I mean TWO lay down, but some how, some way, when they BOTH rise, only ONE holds the consequences of the actions of BOTH?

So....during all this time that she is on her back, she is unaware, about what's going on in HER womb.....but isn't it amazing how AFTER she is so called dogged out, she IMMEDIATELY snaps out of that zombie like state, and miraculously she remembers everything bad that HE did?

Man...eff a Houdini....you thought he was a great escape artist? Puleeze! You haven't seen a great escape artist or a master illusionist until you see a woman "escape" accountability!

***look Ma! No hands!***

 

My View: What comes to mind is the famous saying, "The Devil Made Me Do It" or "I accidentally fell between his legs" LOL! So you mean to tell me a spell made you sleep with him? Deflection is not the move. If a man pulled this stunt, he would be clowned and be forced to man up and take responsibility. When you have two people who lay down with each other, BOTH are at fault. Someone gives an opportunity, the other capitalizes. It's that simple. Some women are good at playing the helpless role, they deserve a Grammy. Women are very skilled at playing the damsel in distress when it comes to situations like this. She was strong & independent before she parted heaven for him, but now she's the damsel in distress. I Got It. Anything to escape accountability, right? Shakes Head.



Henpecked Men

STOP Simping Movement

Hen Pecked is when you're married doing simp stuff.

Taking verbal abuse from your wife, nagging. You follow your wife's rules & curfew (I'm laughing as I write this). Generally, your wife looks more like the man of the house than you.

Examples of a hen pecked man would be fictional characters like: Doug from King & Queens. Raymond from Everybody Loves Raymond.

Real life Hen pecked men were, and are cats like Seal & Kobe Bryant. Anybody in a relationship with Superhead. Most married men in relationships on Social Media.

The word of today is Hen Peck. cluck, cluck.

My $.02: Just about all of this is true. Let's be clear: Being henpecked IS NOT doing whatever it takes to keep your lady happy, if you really care for her. That's what a man's supposed to do, move heaven & earth to keep his woman happy. If a man is scared to stand up to his woman, he's henpecked. If a man allows his woman to overtalk him, or otherwise emasculate him, he's henpecked. Anytime a man compromises his manhood to gain the approval of women, he's a simp. Here's the catch: Most times, his efforts are in vain because she still won't give him the time of day. All that brown nosing he did was for nothing. There are relationships where the women are in charge instead of the man. That is not acceptable in my eyes. A man is supposed to be the head of the home; what he says, goes. It doesn't mean the wife doesn't have a voice, but she speaks her piece and trusts the husband to lead appropriately. If the wife looks more like the man of the house than you (the man), that's a violation. She might as well be single, or raise another adult since she's doing all this. And what's all this nonsense about following a wife's curfew & rules? He's not a child, and should not allow himself to be treated as such. To me, taking verbal abuse would be grounds for immediate divorce. If a man allows verbal abuse from his woman once, she thinks she can pull that stunt repeatedly. The definition of henpecked: Browbeaten, bullied, or intimidated by one's wife or girlfriend. To harass by persistent nagging. Money trumps all! If the man isn't bringing in the income, the woman has no choice but to lead. It hurts, but it's truth.

12 Year Old Dies After Bullying Attack At School

Father God, I pray for the family of Bailey O'Neill. He was a 12-year old boy whose life was tragically cut short. He didn't have to die this way. As for the students who beat him to death: Bailey's parents need to PRESS CHARGES on the other parents. As for the kids, may they be punished to the fullest extent of the law. Kids are being raised in a septic tank of society: Homosexual agenda being forced on them at an early age, bullying, etc. If this is the world we live in, I want no part of it. Shakes My Head. Scratch that, I refuse to bring up children in this sorry world. When I was coming up, there was bullying, but it didn't result in death. Most times, the victim stood up for him or her(self), and the bullying stopped. Where were the adults? There should have been responsible adults present to stop the carnage, but due to negligence, a 12-year old boy lost his life. Who knows what Bailey could have become? He could've been the next scientist, engineer, computer programmer, etc. Now, we will never know what potential he had because his life expired. I know people are going to say "The bullies are kids, they shouldn't have charges pressed." Newsflash, 11 & 12-year olds are committing adult offenses so what do you suggest? If anything, go after the parents of these monsters. Obviously, the parents did a poor job of raising these children with the proper morals so that's why they turned out the way they did. All throughout the video, Tommy makes valid points. Folks want to get his channel taken down, but won't raise sand about important issues. People support what matters to them, that's all there is to it. Rest In Peace to young Bailey O'Neill. His parents will never get over the death of their child. By the way, I was serious about not bringing children in this world, and stories like this make my case & point.

FEMALE PREACHER Who Preaches With Her BREASTS OUT

 

She is a new female preacher who preaches with her breasts out, and men are flocking to her church! With women dressing provocative and men wearing skinny jeans to church, do I think churches need to enforce a dress code? Yes. Before I explain my reasoning, I want to say that coming to church dressed provocative is Etiquette 101; that's a no-no. Some people come to church to hear the word, and how can they focus on the pastor if they see some woman dressed like the club? It's disrespectful to those who have respect for God's house. In the Bible, when the moneychangers used God's temple to conduct business, God was upset and drove them out of his temple. These young people have no respect for older people anymore. I think there should be a dress code; they follow it for the club so they should follow it for church. Sad truth. It's good they show up at all, and you don't want to discourage them because they dress poorly. Maybe cover church etiquette in the sermon. At the same time, God says come as you are, so I feel folks should not be thrown out of church for not following it. You address it, let them stay & listen, and over time, the example set by the body of believers in the congregation will rub off on them. I went to a few churches where women who dressed poorly were given a bag to change clothes. Many would go into their closets and give away what they thought would fit. The next time they showed up, they were there for the Word.

New state law lets mother decide who will raise children born out of extramarital affair

New state law lets mother decide who will raise children born out of extramarital affair

 

This is the mess I don't like. A woman who has children out of wedlock gets to decide who will raise the kids. This should serve as a wake-up call to all men, to keep their sausage in their pants, because this law is yet another advantage to women. Out of spite, a woman could withhold her children from their biological father, and it would be hard for him to get custody of his child(ren). One of my Facebook friends was right when he said that laws are slighted towards men, because they are. Anyone who doesn't think so, is living in La La land. If a man screws up, it goes harder on him than it does the woman. A man loses his professional licenses/certifications, wages garnished, jail time, child support, etc. Let a woman screw up and she gets a slap on the wrist. I was so mad when I read this story, I had to do a blog commentary on it. What if hubby doesn't want to raise another man's child, then what? These tricks make me sick. It's not one, but two men getting screwed. After reading the story, this is nothing new. When full authority is placed in the mother's hands, it won't bode well for the father, and the child. The past 40+ years is proof of that. “She was a great woman, very attractive, very intelligent, fun loving, and easy going,” says Grimes. The keyword is WAS, which is past tense. This action revealed her true colors, and I hope this man learned a valuable lesson: All that glitters isn't gold. At the same time, it's hard for me to have compassion for him because he knew she was married, AND...she had the law on her side. In custody battles, they almost always favor the woman so it behooves these men to keep it in their pants. Stories like this give men more ammunition not to get married, because the law is slighted towards them.

More Than Meets The Eye

Nojma Reflects

Sisters, if your greatest claim to fame is that you are "thick" with a big "booty" then you are seeing yourself in the WRONG light. Please step out of the darkness. Sure a nice physique might catch his "eye" but what will catch his "mind?". We need to research the science and definition of words.
Booty is defined as: spoil taken from an enemy in war.
Spoil is defined as: booty, loot, or plunder taken in war or robbery. Now who was taken away by an enemy in war? WE were Black Woman. WE became the "booty" of our slave masters, and here we are flaunting our "booty" for all to see.
Why not promote your mind instead of your body? If all you have to offer a man is your womb, what you are REALLY saying is that, you lack the mental capability and capacity to stimulate his mind. I don't know what you heard, but a man wants a woman that can do more than just lie on her back. You need to be able to operate and function OUTSIDE the bedroom. If you find yourself constantly being referred to or treated as just a "piece of azz" it's because that's all YOU are offering

 

My View: I'm paying the whole note with interest on this one. The reason why women flaunt themselves as a piece of meat, is because men respond to that. Some men don't know how to look deeper than a woman's curves. Women sense this and market accordingly. Looks do catch his eye, but it's going to take a lot more than thickness with a big booty to keep him; if he's discerned enough to look for more in a potential wife. A sexy woman is one who's beautiful in mind, body and spirit. I like her definition of booty: spoil taken from an enemy in war. Do men want spoil? I hope not. A MAN wants a diamond, someone who shines bright in all areas of life. A woman is a reflection of her man. If a man is trashy, a woman will respond in kind. If he's upstanding, an upstanding woman will respond in like fashion.