Biological Father vs. Stepdad

Fathers who aren’t involved in their children’s lives can not dictate how their kids are raised, especially if another man steps in to raise YOUR children. 

Friday Message: Other People’s Insecurity Is Not Your Problem

 Repost (Britteny Brown Inspiration Coach)

It really bothers people when you're comfortable with yourself. They start feeling like you think you're perfect or above the next person... their insecurity is not your problem.

3 Prophetic insights for 2023 | Crypto is not enough

This is Prophet Tomi Arayomi, someone I follow on YouTube, and a lot of gems were dropped. Many of the gems dropped were telling people to get their finances together in case of an economic collapse. This ties into the Bible story about the 5 foolish and wise virgins: The 5 wise virgins made preparations so they stacked oil, the 5 foolish waited until the last minute to get ready, so they were caught slipping. Because the 5 foolish virgins were caught lacking, they depended on the wise to hook them up, but aht aht...the wise had to turn away the foolish virgins because the wise didn't have enough for themselves and the foolish virgins. That Biblical parable ties into today because prophet Arayomi is telling people to get their finances ready: pay off debt, invest, save, etc.

The next gem he dropped was getting rid of foolish friends. Friendship is fine, but if those friends are keeping you from your purpose, drop them. This really stood out to me: Don't make friends, choose friends. I've never heard friendship described like that before. For me, the only friend I have is Jesus, and I'm good with him being my solo friend. At this point in my life, I'm on a mission & I won't let anyone in who's bad for me; my purpose is too valuable for that. It annoys me when I let someone in & the energy isn't right. It's tough for me to consider someone a friend if I haven't invested time with them.

I pray this blog post & prophetic message reaches people, and causes them to get ready, but if not...all I can do is promote this prophecy. What people do is on them. I felt led to share this.

Wednesday Gospel

There's always a motive behind what people say, do and ask of you-Anonymous elderly woman.

 Doing what I have to do in order to make a better way for myself. I'm on my hustle, I'm on my grind. 

Suffering At The Hands Of Evil People

I put the disclaimer at the bottom because I know this subject is too real for some Christians. Why? Because most of them are used to powder puff preaching: Serving God is the best decision you'll make. For mature believers, yes because there's nothing like God having your back when you need him most. What about baby Christians, those starting out in the faith? I feel that mature Christians need to be real with rookie Christians about the faith walk, because a lot of babes in Christ come to Him under false pretenses that everything will be sweet once you give your heart to Christ. Aht aht...once you surrender to Christ, game on. You become a target for Satan, so he's going to throw every fiery dart at someone to deter him/her. You have to be built Ford tough to walk with Christ because we live in a fallen world, and part of living in a fallen world means battles choose you. I know most folks aren't used to that real talk, which is why many sinners choose to reject Christ; because for them, there's no benefit. If you go through more hell as a believer than not, then why should anyone choose to serve Christ? Remember, God reigns on the just & unjust, so that means trials will hit everyone, whether they're evil or good. Those who are anchored in Christ have a better shot of survival because they can lean on Him. 

Parenthood

Repost (Tera Carissa Hodges)

#Fathers if you love your children,

#1 choose mentally stable women as their mothers…preferably, they should be your wife first

#2 stay in your child’s life to be the healthy balance and adult advocate if need be. 

(Moms, the same goes for you, but I’m referencing a trending video right now). 

That video going viral of a mother #bullying her daughter, recording it, then cutting her hair is straight up child abuse.

It’s something she’ll never be able to live down because it’s out there now. 

The mother is so short sighted, did she consider the impact of such video if they girl ever applied for a #scholarship, a #job, etc.

I truly hope loved ones have intervened to have the girl removed and the mom investigated. 

This is one time, I would have supported the daughter standing up to her mother 

(read between the lines to get what I’m really saying and multiple times to defend herself.)

Enough is enough.

If you can’t get through to your child, perhaps there’s an issue YOU need to work on as a parent.

She’s accusing her daughter of being obsessed with looks but is recording herself with a beauty filter on. My guess is, #jealousy of a younger, prettier version of herself was also a motivating factor. 

And of course, the mother was substantially bigger physically than her daughter.

Rarely, do you see a parent picking on a child their equal or bigger than them. 

Abusers are not stupid. They pick on who they think they can win a fight with. 

We often hear of parents keeping a child in their place, but parents need to be kept in their place as well. 

It’s time out for parents trying to humiliate their kids and then wonder why they grow up to have low self-esteem, harm themselves, bully other people, stay in abusive romantic relationships or have nothing to do with them etc.

You reap what you sow.

I use to judge people who stayed in abusive romantic relationships until I began going through the process of becoming a therapist and realized so much of why people stay is rooted in what they were taught about love growing up…

“You know I’m only bullying you, hitting you, screaming at you, cursing you out, etc.” because I love you right?”

The video is an example of why I’m not quick to sympathy for older adults who complain about their adult children not coming around, not bringing their children/the parent’s grandkids around. 

If an adult is otherwise stable in other areas of their life (a functioning, healthy, productive adult) and they are avoiding their parent, there’s a reason why the parent is not telling. 

It’s also why I advocate, the first thing to do if you’re escaping a #toxicfamily dynamic is get your #money together.

The #1 thing that keeps people tied to abusive situations (including toxic relatives), is needing the abuser financially. 

Adding on to what she said, men need to read #1 because it would save them a lot of baby mama drama. If a man doesn't see a woman as a future mother, he shouldn't lay down with her. Then again, most men think with their second head instead of the one attached to their shoulders.

Privacy Is Power

 

When no one knows your next move, they can't sabotage it. I'm learning this daily because I can't run the risk of attracting envy. People will go to great lengths to sabotage your success, so for me, the best course of action is to make moves in privacy. Remember, what people don't know, they can't ruin. Let people think you have nothing going for yourself, that's the key. When you make it big, the evidence speaks for itself. Folks shouldn't have anything to prove to anyone.