Today's Message: Love Yourself First, Then Love Someone Else

 Why are some people scared to be alone? They choose wrong & get hurt, so they label all (wo)men as no good. That comes from not loving oneself enough to accept that you may never find a (wo)man. I get that humans were made for relationships (to an extent), but it's never been that serious for me to get involved with the wrong people. I'm happy for everyone who has found the right person to do life with, but for those who are desperate to be with someone, don't claim the wrong person and wonder why you end up in your feelings playing sad songs. The best way to find yourself is by yourself. When you're comfortable with self, you can be comfortable with someone else.

Anything For A Friend

 

It's sad to see people do anything for friendship. These people are so scared to be alone that they will sell their character and values just to be approved by others. I promise it's never been that deep for me. I don't fit in & never will. I never wanted to. It takes more heart to ride solo than to be a mini-me. I don't consider everyone a friend because I don't use that term loosely. For me, a friend is someone that I've known since childhood, someone that's got my back & vice versa, we keep it real with each other, and so on.

It is pathetic. Who raised these grown folks to follow the leader? When I was a kid, and I wanted to do what everyone else was doing, all my parents had to ask me was this question: If everybody jumped off a building, would you? I don't know about anyone else, but I'm glad I was raised to think for self, because the majority can be wrong.

Another bomb comment from one of my FB friends. She nailed it: Humans are way too fake & phony, so it's best to deal with them accordingly.

 

Move In Silence

Date, love, Be happy, live, make money, take losses & Rebuild yourself in private.💯 

Monday Sermon: Let People Be Great

One thing I hate more than anything is jealousy. Today’s Word: If you have to undermine someone’s success with comments like “I’ve had what you just achieved” or “Everything you’re doing, I’ve already done,” you’re a hater and need help. Let people be great. Just because you’ve had everything handed to you, doesn’t mean others have. Unlike you, some people had to work for their success, and those who went through hell to make it tend to appreciate their success more because of what it took.

HBCU Homecoming Violence

1 dead, 8 injured (some victims in serious condition) yesterday during FAMU’s homecoming. The fallen victim’s family was a classmate at my old high school. I didn’t know him personally, but a lot of my classmates did and they say he was a good dude. The murdered young man’s family has to bury their loved one. I hurt for the victim’s family because they lost their son, cousin, nephew, uncle, etc. too soon. I know violence doesn’t discriminate; the same violence that happens at HBCU homecomings also takes place at other schools, but it seems like HBCU’s are in the spotlight every time something bad happens. What is it, do people wait to cut up at HBCU homecomings? It seems like it. 

In light of the violence that took place during Homecoming weekend, maybe Homecoming should be canceled since clowns want to act a fool. It’s pitiful that folks can’t have fun without gunfire.🤦🏾 I’m sick of these 🤡 not knowing how to act around FAMU Homecoming. Every time, there’s a shooting/murder.🤦‍♂️Who raised these fools?

Nikki Brooks: 20 Takeaways From Kanye

 Credit to Nikki Brooks for this FB post:

My 20 Critical Takeways from YE for YOU (in no order of importance): 

🚨 LONG KANYE POST ALERT 🚨 

Kanye is NOT:

1. Being discriminated against. 

2. Being persecuted for free speech

3. Exposing the Illuminati 

4. Kanye/Ye is Suffering consequences for his actions.

5. Just because speech is FREE don’t mean it won’t cost you. 

6. The old folks used to say “Don’t write ✍️ a check with your 👄 that your 🍑 can’t cash.” This situation aligns. 

7. The benefit of Partnership and Employment in America is a choice and privilege - not a right.

8. None of us have the RIGHT to offend partners, employers or anyone else and still be entitled to the partnership or it’s benefits  💴.

9. You aren’t going to partner with, pay or employ anybody that is disrespectful to you or your family so what makes you think companies like Adidas have to?

10. See number 8. 

11. You are not entitled to retain the partnership, support, business, services or money of anything you disrespect. (See #8)

12. A lot of people actually hinder their personal economic progress because they see #8 as a game they don’t want to play. (Looking at you Monique 👀)

13. Playing the game is optional. Getting rewarded from the game when you won’t play by the rules is impossible. (Looking at Mo again 👀)

14. Others get to define what respect is to them, what it looks/feels like and they reward/consequence of such.

15. Choices have consequences. You get to decide the choice - not the consequence. 

16. It is upsetting that there is tolerance and normalcy for disrespect towards Black folks.  Yet The principle in #12  still stands. 

17. As a culture, Black Americans are so comfortable with abuse that we believe it’s not abuse if it’s not happening on par with what we are enduring.

18. Instead of complaining about Anti-Semitic standards, adopt them. Cuz as a black woman I want all of y’all to keep our name out your mouth. #BonnetChronicles 

19. Kanye is unwell. And he is exhibiting a lot of behaviors that are symptomatic of various diagnostic categories that respond well to EARLY behavioral therapy and EARLY treatment. 

20. A lot of folks are talking about this because he is a celebrity. Many people need to be talking about this because there are a plethora of symptoms he has presented for years that lend themselves to tons of issues in you, your loved ones, and YOUR CHILDREN that respond well to therapy and treatment.

My thoughts: Kanye has lost $1.5B in a matter of days, and folks say he's a genius? Unless the definition of genius has changed, there's nothing smart about losing billions in a matter of days for talking crazy. A "genius" would make the system work in their favor.

Friday Sermon: Stop Proving Yourself

Learn to be ok with people missing out on you. Stop proving you’re solid & move on! 

I’m glad people miss out on me because it means we’re not good for each other. I don’t fit in; never did & wanted to. I do me. In my mind, people who go out of their way to prove their solidity to others are insecure. They aren’t comfortable enough in themselves to be unbothered with acceptance from the masses. People who are truly solid don’t have to prove it to others, they are solid whether people realize it or not.