Strawberry Letter: Less Than A Wife

Less Than A Wife

She wants to start a family with her husband, but her health issues won't allow it. She feels bad because SHE thinks her husband views her as less than a wife because she can't give him a baby. It's like this: Her man loves her with(out)the baby, so why is she stressing? Considering her health issues, she should reconsider pregnancy because she doesn't want her children inheriting her health issues. Her husband supports her and still loves her, so that should tell her something. Honestly, she shouldn't have a baby, considering her health issues. I'm also big on faith, so that being said: She should find scripture, quotes, songs, pictures, people, etc. that represent what she wants, and that makes her feel hopeful.  Next, she counteracts all fearful, doubtful, and judgmental thoughts with affirmative words. This is very important because it will reprogram her subconscious mind to believe in the possibilities in having this baby. Take your meds joyfully and with gratitude. My heart hurts for this woman, and I pray she finds peace in the midst of her storm.

Introspection, Pt. 1

When you stay in your own lane and keep quiet, you find out a lot about yourself. Today I did some introspection and found out I've been holding back. It's for a good reason too. Why should a person give 100% when they're not fully rewarded or compensated for it? Think about it, most of us have Bachelor's and Master's degrees and get paid like we just graduated high school or half way through with an Associate's degree. That's that 100%, pure unprocessed nonsense.

On the other hand ,we do need the money to survive. At best, I've learned that 30-40% is enough. I wonder what I'll learn tomorrow.

Real Women Don't Argue With Men

If real men don't argue with women, then real women don't argue with men. #FlipTheScript.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 19, 2015

What is a woman's favorite shaming tactic when a man is winning an argument against her based on logic and facts? Real men don't argue with women. No woman will admit to not using shaming tactics because that would be too much like right. If shaming doesn't work, emasculation is her next best tool. Attacks on a man's sexuality, statements like "your mother is a woman, a woman hurt you, etc." Let me say this: If real men don't argue with women, then real women don't argue with men. It goes both ways. If a man's outdoing a woman in an argument with facts & logic (men's strong suits), there's a good chance emasculation is on the way.
All that's doing is further proving his case. Today's men are choosing not to be phased by some women's "real men don't argue with women" mantra and continuing to speak out against certain behaviors. Salute to my fellas for staying strong, don't let some women silence your voice because after all, they've had a half century to say what's on their mind, and it's long overdue for us to do the same. So remember, if real men don't argue with women, then real women don't argue with me. That medicine doesn't taste so good does it? It's not supposed to.

Strawberry Letter: Oh The Tangled Web We Weave

Oh The Tangled Web We Weave

Lies On Lies On Lies, you folks like that rap? Well, it's fitting for this lady. I understand she doesn't want kids, and she shouldn't. She had 4 kids and the last thing she should want to do is push out another one. She did right by shutting the baby factory down. The problem is that she made up a fake pregnancy because she didn't want to lose her man. In the earlier stages of pregnancy, she could get away with this but as the weeks and months go by, her husband is going to catch onto her fake pregnancy and that's when she'll have serious issues. A woman begins to show as she gets closer to her due date, so she better hope her husband stays clueless. Honesty is the foundation of a solid relationship because if you can't be real with your mate, who can you be real with? My thing is, if he did something similar she would have a fit because he lied to her, but because she's a woman, she gets a pass. The best thing she can do right now is come clean, and accept the consequences.

Nothing means more to a man than having a child of his own, with his lady. However, he signed up for the stepfather role when he agreed to be with this woman. Did he expect her to want to pop out a baby for him when she already had 4? If he can't deal with being a stepfather, then why did he choose this lady for a relationship? Her and the kids are a package deal, so he knew what he was getting into. There's only two choices: He comes to terms with her not wanting to get pregnant again or he leaves for a woman who will give him a child of his own. Either way, she's toast with no jam once her man finds out she lied.

Top 5 Tweets + Bonus Mention

You guys know how this goes, no explanation needed.

It feels good to kick back on the weekends knowing you've went hard in the gym Monday-Thursday.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 20, 2015

If real men don't argue with women, then real women don't argue with men. #FlipTheScript.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 19, 2015

Women don't get hysterical, they get historical. When a woman's arguing with her man, she'll bring up all kinds of old stuff.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 18, 2015

The blessed don't beef with the miserable.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 18, 2015

When a Christian gets into it with somebody, what's the first thing they say? They like to say it's the enemy working through that person.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 18, 2015

Honorable Mention:

When you've had a lot, you look for more important things.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 16, 2015

Strawberry Letter: Where Do I Draw The Line?

Friends With Ex: Where Do I Draw The Line

Couple things:

1. She's been with him for 4 months. She already sees her future issues. She needs to give him an ultimatum: If he’s not making her a priority, she doesn't make him hers. If he doesn’t respect her feelings, don’t be desperate because there’s more to follow. She needs to put a period at the end and move on. Key statement: "If I want to get back with my ex, trust me I can." That says it all right there.

2. She will never be #1; Her intuition has already kicked in; RUN. It’s a lot more going on than she thinks. He's running game on her. Move on to someone who will make her a priority. Besides, how much communication does someone need with their ex? The kids are old enough to reach out to dad on their own. I don't buy that excuse "It's about the kids."

Blessed Vs. Miserable

The blessed don't beef with the miserable.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 18, 2015

It looks crazy for a blessed person to get into it with someone who's miserable. Why would (s)he do that? Someone who has everything going for themselves has no business in conflict with someone who doesn't have a pot to pee in, straight up. I see that as dropping down to their level, and I'm too good for that. It's not a good look doing battle with someone who's miserable for whatever reason; they're looking to drag someone down with them. When you're blessed, you're supposed to have a different outlook.
 Your walk & talk changes as well as your circle of friends. Many people don't want to admit this, but those friends they thought were happy for their blessing could be the main ones they battle. The fact is when you're blessed, you shouldn't be into it with someone who doesn't have much because all that's going to do is make you look crazy. I don't know about anyone else, but I refuse to let somebody stop my blessing(s). If that means letting them act stupid, be my guest.