Glutton For Punishment

So many times I've heard women say, "I can't leave him because the sex is so good.", and my response is always the same: Well, go ahead and enjoy the good sex that comes with being mistreated. Good sex should never be a reason for anyone to stay in a bad relationship, but the reason why some people do is because they don't know their worth. They think with the other head instead of the one attached to their shoulders. I'm grateful everyday that I don't put sex on a pedestal that I stay in a bad relationship. No sex is that good to me to where I will tolerate foul treatment from any woman. Sorry, but my worth won't allow it. If other people choose that for themselves, that's their decision; if they like it, I love it. I hate to see people hurting because they would rather enjoy the good sex in a bad relationship. As with everything else, it comes down to choice. Would you rather enjoy good sex from the right person or good sex from Satan's spawn? If you're smart, you choose #1. I have to be honest: Some people are gluttons for punishment if they would stay in a bad relationship just because they enjoy the "sex." In that case, they have no right to complain about being mistreated because they allow themselves to be dogged.

Advancing Black Americans

I got this from a mutual friend's Facebook page:

First off, I'm targeting the media who does a good job of painting blacks in a bad light. I would order proper representation of blacks in all sectors: Media & entertainment. Next, I'd clean up all black neighborhoods of violence & drugs; get rid of all gangsters, dope boys and those who stand on the corner doing nothing. Honestly, it's a dead giveaway that a neighborhood is rough if there's frequent police presence, you see the same guys standing on the corner from sun up to sun down, gunfire, the only black businesses are low-income stores, etc. No low-income housing because residents would have paid on the job training programs specifically designed for them to make enough money to move out of the hood. All black communities would have their own schools teaching our history & culture, our own colleges & universities, etc. What blacks have to travel miles to another part of the city for, they would have right in their own neighborhood.

Did I Miss It Or What?

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

When I read this Strawberry Letter, at first I thought the husband was being jealous, but now his gripe is legit. Why would his wife get bent out of shape because her husband was mad that another man spoke to his wife in a disrespectful manner (he states the man who spoke was smiling with his boys.)? That's a dead giveaway that there's more to the story than she's letting on. No wife would get that upset over her man checking a perceived offense, so to me she could have something going on. I, and others have mentioned in Facebook groups that men can see things women can't. In a perfect world, a man can speak to a married woman & think nothing of it, but because some men have ulterior motives when speaking to married women, you really can't put anything past folks nowadays. Her husband was right to be upset because he saw a perceived offense against his wife, and he handled it accordingly. A man's job is to protect his turf at all costs. If someone is entering his territory, the husband is within his right to eliminate any & all threats. I don't see anything wrong with the husband's reaction, because if another woman spoke to him in a flirtatious manner, best believe his wife would lose her mind. She raised a red flag for getting upset with her man that he checked the disrespect as he saw fit, because unless something's going on between this other man and the married woman, she shouldn't be mad at her husband for protecting what's his. In conclusion, I side with the husband because like a lot of husband, he knows a man's true intentions. What she saw as a simple hello, he saw something more than that.

Video: Little Girl Goes In On Father

The following video is of a little girl letting loose on her deadbeat father for choosing a woman over her. First off, any parent who puts their mate over their child(ren) is foul. The child was there before that (wo)man, so why should the child(ren) be on the backburner? Mess is crazy to me. You can tell this little girl is hurting because she is GOING IN. A lot of people are coming down on this girl, but who cares? This little girl has every right to vent, but from what she says: She's accepted the fact that her father will never be around, so her venting was a release. This video is symbolic of what many children went through/are going through; parents who either aren't in their child(ren)'s lives, or who choose a (wo)man over them. The thing is: These are the type of people who go on to do great things in life. They take their pain and turn it into victory because they knew what it's like to be without, they know what hurt is like so they turn it around and help others going through the same thing. It's like this: Kids know what's up. Kids are a lot smarter than parents give them credit for. A mother doesn't have to talk bad about her child's father, that child already knows. The sad thing is this girl has tried reaching out to her father with no success. If her dad doesn't care enough to have a relationship with his daughter, then it's for the best he's not around. Yes, I said it: Sometimes, a father's absence is a blessing because that's less drama for the mother and her kid(s) to deal with. Even if her father does come around, this little girl and him are strangers; they have no relationship. Sad to say, this little girl has gotten accustomed to not having her father around, so it's "Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind." The only thing a deadbeat father can teach their child is what NOT to do. Watch how dad comes around years after she's successful and wants a relationship, but by then it's going to be too late. It's too late to want a relationship with an adult child. That adult child has their own life to live. 

Little Girl Goes In On Deadbeat Father

Grown Women Wearing Hello Kitty

If you're a grown woman wearing Hello Kitty, you should be ashamed of yourself. Last time I checked, adolescent girls wore Hello Kitty.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) June 3, 2015

The dumbest thing I can witness is grown women wearing Hello Kitty. You're over 21 and sporting Hello Kitty paraphernaila that's designed for teenage girls? Some of these women should be ashamed of themselves for not growing up. She may be mature, but when I see a woman wearing Hello Kitty, I can't help but think she's trying to relive her youth. I would expect young girls to wear Hello Kitty, because it was designed for them! I get that Hello Kitty is a very popular brand, but if a woman is 30-something and rocking Hello Kitty, she needs to get her life and fast. For the life of me, I will never understand how a grown woman can rock Hello Kitty. Maybe it's her decision, and she could probably care less what others think since they aren't buying her wardrobe. *Shrug* 

Question From A Friend: What Would You Do?

I was on a Facebook friend's page, and she posted the following letter. Warning: It's long, so don't bother reading if you have a short attention span.

Question from a Friend - What would YOU do?

Dear Nikki,

My husband has lost his mind. When we met I was a management consultant at a reputable firm. When we got married I stopped taking travel assignments and I resigned to stay home with our kids. It's been 7 years & last year I started taking a few small work from home gigs with the firm. My colleague is now a partner and the firm just won a HUGE bid that I was instrumental in preparing & my colleague wants to bring me back in as a Lead Account Manager. It would require I spend the 1st 3-4 months in Denmark & Singapore though. But it's a setup for me to be promoted to a Sr. Partner.

The salary is more than triple what my husband makes. We have 3 kids and we are provided for, but this would be another level.

I have an MBA in Finance & Administration - I am one of the BEST and my husband doesn't want me to work. I literally KILLED my career and I believe that GOD is resurrected it. My husband who is now a minister believes this is out of order.

Our pastor & spiritual father says that I need to wait another year. I told him we been trusting God for increase and it's knocking on the door. They said I am in rebellion & under attack and I say they have no idea what they are talking about. Now he is telling me I don't believe the prophet and I feel like the whole conversation is stupid. We have no college funds, we are not debt free, & my signing bonus ALONE would solve several issues - let alone the bonus.

My husband says I should like being a stay at home mom. I am BORED and unstimulated and I feel like I am wasting the investment in my education not to mention disrespecting the financial blessing this is to us and our kids and even family members.

All of this headship and submission and wait until he approves but in the meanwhile we have no college funds. I am seriously thinking of taking the job - I have 10 days and I can't see myself turning it down. I get physically sick to the stomach at the thought of saying no to this. My friend says I would be uncovered, but I don't feel covered I feel controlled.

Everyone around me knows the Word but they have no clue about business on this level. The firm is passing up people who have been on position to get me off the bench. This could change our lives for the better & they talking about the Devil. I think no vacation and no college fund is of the Devil. I need some insights. I have 10 days to accept & I wouldn't leave until July.

My Response: Anyway you look at this, she's in a bind. If she takes the job, she's going against her husband's wishes. If she rejects the offer, she resents her husband later on down the line. When God presents opportunity, you BETTER take it because there's no guarantee the same opportunity will come around. She accepts this job, and it's a huge step to Partner. If I'm the wife, I'd discuss the pros and cons with my husband, and if the pros outweigh the cons, I'd take the position even if he may not agree. She has a good education, so she better use it. Her taking this job could benefit the entire family: Kids will have a college fund, debt freedom, etc. Let me explain something: The husband's job is to support his wife, even if it means she may make more money than him. If a wife is presented with a golden opportunity that could benefit the entire family, the husband should stand with his wife, just like he would want her to stand with him. To be honest, it comes down to insecurity because let's be real: How many men would be ok with their wives making more? *Crickets* I'll Wait. Some women are blessed to have supportive husbands, but I can't co-sign the minister on this. He says she's out of order, I say he's shook because his income isn't where he wants it to be, and he's looking at it like "If she takes the job, she's gonna make triple my salary, so I need to shut this down quickly". This is a time where the husband needs to get behind his wife and encourage her to take the job. She's supported his ministry, so why can't he support her offer? Should she reject, she's going to kick herself for letting her husband talk her out of a golden opportunity to put the family in a good place. I know how women think, and she's going to resent her husband for not being supportive of her accepting this job. I'm leaning towards this being a control issue because he knows that should their marriage fall apart, she'll be straight on her own, so that's why he doesn't want her to take the job: He's scared that if she ever decides to leave, she won't be dependent on him for her survival.
I think she should take the job, and the husband is going to have to get over it. Besides, wouldn't he want her support if the same offer was extended to him? You better believe it. Also, some women aren't cut out to be housewives, and that's ok. She did say she feels as though her education is going to waste, and I have to agree with her. What good is an education if you aren't going to use it?

Bruce...I mean, Caitlyn Jenner

I thought Jaden Smith looked stupid rocking a dress, now Bruce has changed his name to Caitlyn Jenner. I get that he came out because he wanted to be at peace with himself, but the name change knowing the media will be all over it, is a bit much. He could've kept that to himself because now, he's opening himself to more ridicule. It's bad enough his family is struggling to cope with his sex   change, but to pose in women's lingerie is doing too much. If you're going to get a sex change, keep it to yourself because there are people that will not accept the decision. I just think Bruce is doing this for attention, honestly. When he did his interview about his operation, hundreds of millions tuned in to show support. I didn't watch it; no need to because it was all over social media. One thing about social media is that you will always know what's going on, sometimes more than you want to know. Fast forward to today; Bruce posed in women's lingerie and it's trending all over social media. Hopefully this will die down fast, but it probably won't. If Bruce likes it, I love it (sarcasm). I think Bruce needs to fall back. He needs to live low-key. I feel for the Kardashian clan because all these years, Bruce was living a lie. Kris emasculated Bruce a lot; he had no say-so in what's going on, so ai guess that's what drove him to get the operation. I couldn't imagine being married to a woman under false pretenses. I'm supposedly married to a woman, but she feels comfortable as a man. All this time, our marriage was a sham.