Mar 6, 2015

Frustrated In The Church


He's feeling some kind of way about her breaking up with him, so he reacts in a childish manner. The last time I checked, women outnumber men 15 to 1 (or something like that) so why is he sweating her? Seriously, it makes him look foolish because he keeps carrying on with his juvenile antics and so far, she's not giving him life. A person can only take so much juvenile banter from someone until the person hauls off and hurts their feelings. Then some people want to feel offended because they got told something. It's like this: No one is obligated to remain with you if they're not happy. If they're not happy being with you, let them go. For me, no one can make me happy like I can, so I probably wouldn't have this issue. My suggestion for this woman is to keep rising above his childish antics, but if push comes to shove, check this clown and move on. Outside of church, do they work together on a professional level? If not, then they should go their separate ways. Unless absolutely necessary, she should minimize her contact with him because he's not pleased with her breaking up with him, and he's intent on letting her know. Making petty comments, criticizing her decisions, hanging up after she answers her phone; I would expect that from a child or teenager, but not a supposed man. Just like she moved on, he needs to do the same because all he's doing is confirming she made the right decision. Some people aren't compatible, and that's ok. It's better they broke up now, because at least they won't have no shoulda, coulda, woulda moments.
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Digging Deep


Today's Strawberry Letter is a good example of why you should go to the source for the truth, because people will lie to make themselves look good; it's crazy & sad at the same time. This man makes his daughter's mom to be the worst parent in the world: She doesn't do nothing for the daughter, she's trifling and this, that, and the third. My question is: If she's so trifling, why did he lay down with her? He didn't think she was trifling when he was hitting it, so all of a sudden she's trifling because she put him on child support. Some of these men irk me with this mess; She's good enough to lay down with, but not good enough to raise a child with. Yeah, ok...that makes sense. After meeting his family, the stepmother to this 8-year old girl decides to ride with one of his cousins to the baby mama's home. Needless to say, his story didn't match hers. From what I read, the 34-year old mom has herself together and encourages her daughter to have a relationship with her father. That's good because girls need their dads just as much as sons do. A father is the first example of manhood for a young lady. 
If a father does right by his wife, that daughter won't settle for anything less in her romantic involvement with a young man because she saw an example of a healthy relationship between her parents. I salute this mother because she could be nasty and keep her daughter from seeing her dad, but from what I read, she doesn't flow like that. As for him, I can't co-sign his behavior because a man owns up to his responsibility. A thorough man would have no problem with child support if he created the baby. What he doesn't realize is that the longer he dodges child support, the greater his arrears and the longer it'll take him to pay off that balance. $32,000+ in back child support? That's crazy. That's a new car, entry-level salary, a down payment on a home; a lot of things. She had no way of knowing he was shaking his responsibility because he told her what he wanted her to know upon first meeting him. At least she followed her instinct and dug deeper for the truth. Now that she knows, is she going to stay with him or leave? If he kept this from her, there's no telling what else he may be hiding from her.

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Mar 5, 2015

Realness In 140 Characters Or Less Cont'd

This is a continuation of my previous blog where I post some of the best tweets from myself and others on my timeline.












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Realness In 140 Characters Or Less











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Mar 4, 2015

Thicker Than Water Season 2 Episode 6 | The Ben Honors

Since it's debut, Thicker Than Water has grown into the highest-rated family show on Thicker Than Water. It chronicles the blended Tankard family: Ben & Jewel, the Tankard daughters (Brooklyn, Brittney & Cyrene), Benji, Marcus. This is my favorite episode because it discusses Ben's rags to riches story as well as the tribute to 25 years in the music industry. One thing that stuck out to me was when Ben Tankard said: The death of my basketball career, created the birth of my music career. Sometimes, Christians have their trajectory planned out from Day 1 of what they're going to do, and most of the time God blesses our trajectory. What happens when unfortunate circumstances derail our trajectory? Some Christians get in their feelings and get upset at God because our plans didn't work out how we wanted. When Ben said "I can't read a lick of music, and I've had a successful music career", that had to be God's anointing. Take a look at this recent Thicker Than Water episode.

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Focus On Who Wants You

One of my Facebook friends posted a stat about men's relationship trouble. He stated that men focus on women who don't want them, instead of those that do. When she repeatedly rejects him, some men want to get mad, and call her everything but the child of God. I think I can understand why some men try and go after women who don't want them; they like a challenge. If they're persistent, many men feel she'll let her guard down and say yes. By saying yes, he feels accomplished because he was able to conquer her; meaning, he wore her down enough to where she gave in to his advances. Now, I'm pretty sure when some women say no, that's what they mean. I know for me, no means no. I seldom go back on my answer unless there's strong reasoning stating otherwise. The way I'm set up, I don't have the desire of going after women who don't want me. Why? I don't have the patience to give her 10,000 reasons why she should accept me as her man. I know my worth, and what I'm willing to provide her with, and if she can't see that, it's her loss. For me, it's common sense: I check for those who check for me. It's a win-win situation for me & her. I'm about easy victories, and if I sense drama, I back off from it. Men need to stop that challenge nonsense, and learn how to pursue women who WANT them. That's why you have these Facebook Relationship groups with men and women bashing each other. Both genders wasted time pursuing those who didn't want them, and when they finally got tired of rejection, they become jaded and label all (wo)men as no good.
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Mar 3, 2015

Purpose: By Khrystle Nichole

Had to share something from one of my Facebook friends.

Khrystle Nichole
3 hrs · 
Each of us come here for a purpose. Sometimes we often wonder what our purpose is. Whether we know it or not, we are all teachers and students. Many times, our experiences are lessons for others as well as ourselves. We are also comforters and servers. We have the power to comfort and serve others with kindness, generosity, and selflessness. Teaching and learning, comforting and serving is not always easy. Sometimes these come as the hardest challenges in our lives. Yet this is our purpose. Teaching does not come without learning and comforting does not come without serving. We will never figure out all the answers to the questions of why. It is when we recognize and accept the teacher, the student, the comforter and the server within ourselves that we find some purpose and joy while we are on this journey called life.
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