Strawberry Letter- Crazy In Love | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

Strawberry Letter- Crazy In Love | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

 

What's the confusion? Either she loves her husband or she doesn't. From what she says, she's not in love with her husband, nor was she ever. She's leading him on because she doesn't want to hurt him, but you can't force feelings for a person if they're not there. I think she should just tell the truth, and let the chips fall where they may. He may be hurt at the revelation, but he'll respect her honesty. She's not the only one who isn't feeling her husband, because he's still in love with his ex-wife. Basically, they married each other on the rebound. Both were hurting from previous relationships, and by getting involved with each other, they could help each other through the pain. The problem with that is if you marry someone on the rebound, you don't allow yourself the proper healing timeframe. You carry old baggage into a new relationship, and the (wo)man may not be as patient. I'm thinking this wife is working on getting alimony once she can prove infidelity, and whoop this woman's behind.

Who marries someone out of pity? I agree she should marry her friend, but she must be more than friends, and it sounds like her feelings never evolved past friendship. If she's unhappy in her relationship, don’t string him along, just leave. Then she mentioned she would never cut him off sexually because she's not that kind of woman, but she's sleeping with a married man? Okay, that makes sense. Get a divorce and move on. If he was serious about her, he would've married her. Both of them have been messing around on each other, so they both need to figure out what they want to do. Both of them are side pieces to someone else, then have the nerve to come together like they've been married all along. His wife is probably trash, just saying. I would've had more pity for the husband, if the letter didn't reveal that he was still in love with his high school sweetheart. Poor little tink tink.

Strawberry Letter- Pregnant By My Son-In-Law | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

Strawberry Letter- Pregnant By My Son-In-Law | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

 

Mama's got her groove back, but at her daughters' expense. She better pray her daughters don't find out, because if they do, all hell is going to break loose in her family. If you have watched Fresh Prince in the 90's, there was an episode where Will was dating his uncle's old college friend. Janice Robertson (Pam Grier) came to Uncle Phil's home to catch-up, and his wife didn't like it. Janice was trying to rekindle an old flame. Ms. Roberts made advances toward Will, and they ended up sleeping together. It's funny how art imitates real life, because when I read this letter, I immediately thought of that Fresh Prince episode. What kind of mother would do this crazy stuff? A mother that has no discretion about herself, that's who. She's not happy, so she doesn't want her daughter(s) happy. There are mothers who can't stand to see their daughter(s) happy, so they take their daughters' good man.  I feel for the daughters because it's gotta suck to have a trifling mother.

She knew what she was doing; she's not fooling anybody because how do you pleasure another man, then claim to be ashamed? She strategically set this up. Some women are very conniving so you can't put nothing past them. This is why men need to be very careful about who they lay down with, because she could be the baby mama to TWO husbands. Not one, but TWO. The husband better file for divorce so he won't have to pay child support for his wife's baby. In some states, even if DNA proves a man isn't the father, he can still be liable for child support; especially if he stepped up to raise the child as his own. There's going to be a nasty fallout from this, so I hope she's ready. Her daughters will hate her, and the husbands involved will probably end up on First 48 because some women are crazy. There have been articles about wives killing their cheating husbands, and yet these two men can't keep their d*** in their pants.

What this boils down to is unhappiness. If momma's not happy, her daughters won't be happy. Sad to say, she proved this by messing up her daughters' marriages.

Do What Makes Sense

Today's message is simple: Do What Makes Sense. So many times, people make life more complicated than necessary, which explains why many people are confused about which way to go, what decision to make regarding your career, the person to marry, etc. I try my best to simplify life as much as possible, so that's why I have a motto: Do What Makes Sense. If I'm living in a major city and my job is located in the city center, it would make sense for me to live downtown so I can walk the 2-3 blocks to work. It doesn't make sense for me to live in another part of town, then have to fight traffic commuting to downtown for work. The only exception is if my finances wouldn't allow for downtown living. I'd still find a spot that's in close proximity to my job. I would pay more in rent because of convenience, but I would be close to nightlife, my job, sporting events (many stadiums are located in city centers), with easy access to other parts of the city. Life can be as complicated, or as easy as you make it. The motto of "Do What Makes Sense" applies to all walks of life.

If you're looking to marry, the first thing you look at is compatibility. No one is going to marry someone they're not compatible with, that's bonkers. If you're chill, and your spouse is the "turn-up" type, wouldn't it make sense to not get involved with them? You two vibe together very well, but you can't get past their "turn-up" personality. Every day, they have to go out. You want to spend time at home with your spouse, but they would rather go out & party every night. That's grounds for fussing. There's nothing that good outside the home where you have to be out & about all the time. Facebook has this meme circulating: There's nothing sexier than a woman who knows how to keep her behind home. It gets no better. It makes perfect sense to marry a likeminded person, because those are the best relationships. A spender & saver would not work out because one person wants to spend as soon as they get a little change, the other wants to stack money because of a rainy day. There's nothing worse than an emergency coming up, and you don't have the money.
In conclusion, always remember to do what makes sense, whether it's choosing a degree to study or choosing a (wo)man o build a good life with. If something doesn't sound right, chances are it doesn't make sense and you don't need to go that route.


I Dislike...

Today's message is going to deal with my dislikes. This is going to be good, so let's get to it.

1. I dislike sex hounds. You know men who are obsessed with what's between a woman's legs. 

2. So women won't date a man who works at McDonald's. As hard as it is to find a decent job, a man would be wise not to entertain such women. She'd be checking for him if he worked in McD's corporate.

3. Just because someone's not in a relationship, doesn't mean they have "issues". That's that stupid stuff I don't like.

4. Opposites DO NOT attract. Ex: A saver and spender can't have a good relationship because one wants to spend, and the other wants to save.

5. I fail to understand the benefit of marriage as it relates to moving up in the corporate world. I would think at some point, your professional and family life will conflict.

6. A good spouse can make or break you.

7. You don't have to be married to be successful in ministry. Case In Point: Bishop Noel Jones & his "special friend" Loretta.

8. I dislike suck-ups. 

9. I dislike all these so-called "reality" shows coming out. Everybody and their mama has a reality show coming out.

10. I dislike how biased employers are towards those with disabilities. Everybody has a handicap. As long as they're qualified, learn to overlook some stuff.

11. I understand why some parents homeschool their children. Public schools have gone downhill because you have students that don't want to be there, so they cause trouble for the kids who want to learn.

12. I dislike the rationale some people have against homeschool: "The kids will miss out on the social aspect" Kids can still get the social aspect by joining neighborhood clubs, and they'll be in a structured environment.

Christian Sex

Biblical Sexing

Sex has been considered a taboo subject in church. Very few pastors are willing to tackle this issue because they don't want to seem worldly. In a way, I understand because some Christians are conservative, and there are subjects that just aren't discussed in Christian homes. On the flip side, God created sex to be enjoyed in the confines of marriage. There's nothing like a couple expressing their affection with a sacred act. After all, God did create sex and how do you think any of us got here? Our (grand)parents came together, and the rest was history. Sex has been around since Biblical times, so this article was right on target. The reason why many Christian leaders won't discuss sex is because society has tainted sex. The sex industry makes billions annually, so it attracts those with ill motives. I think Christians shouldn't be afraid to keep it real about the subject of sex. Don't be afraid to have frank discussion about satisfying sexual relations between Christian married couples. In my opinion, all bets are off when it comes to sex between Christian couples. If a couple's married, there should be no hangups about what kind of sex you engage in. God did invent sex, didn't he? Of course he did. If (s)he has conflicting styles of sex, they can find a way to combine desires so that both parties can feel fulfilled. It's not just about the man getting his, the woman must get hers. When both feel fulfilled, that couple looks forward to more encounters because both are ready & willing.

Friendships Between Preachers Wives

I was watching Preachers Of L.A. on Wednesday night, when this subject came up: Can First Ladies be good friends? If you've followed the show, you have Bishop Ron Gibson and his wife Lavette, Minister Deitrick & Dominique Haddon, Pastor Wayne & Myesha Chaney, Bishop Clarence & Priscilla McClendon, Pastors Jay & Christy Haizlip. During last season, there was an episode where Lady Myesha invited all the wives to her tea party. All the ladies chopped it up, and got to know each other pretty well. They discussed the struggles they face as preachers wives, and they seemed to get along. I think preachers wives can become good friends because they have a lot in common. Their husbands are ministers so by default, the wives are able to identify with the struggles of being a preacher's wife. Preacher's wives have an insight that regular wives don't have when it comes to being involved in the ministry.

Just because I think preachers' wives can become good friends, doesn't mean caution should be thrown to the wind. Just like worldly women can be catty, so can preachers' wives. Yes, a minister's wife is to set herself apart from a worldly woman, but a minister's wife isn't immune to occasional screw-ups. Here's my thing: It shouldn't matter if one minister is more famous than another, they're all doing God's work, so there's no need for one wife to undermine another minister's ministry. You have some preachers wives that will get close to another wife just to find out how popular a minister may be. If she feels threatened by another minister's success, she's going to be slighted because she believes her husband deserves the spotlight. When the shade is thrown, look out. Why do you think Loretta (Bishop Noel Jones' "special friend") caught major shade from the other wives? They believe Loretta should marry Bishop Noel Jones.

In conclusion, preachers wives are able to identify with each other's struggles, because they're in it together. There's nothing like being able to relate to someone when you're going through rough times because they're going down that road with you. If preachers' wives are going to become friends, it should be with the understand that they have each other's back, and most of all their husband's.

Being A Ho Is Embraced

I remember being a ho was a badge of shame, now it's embraced. Some (wo)men are proud to be ho's.  These are the same people that are ready to fight if someone calls them that. You're the one screaming about being proud of being a ho, you're the one who chose to be a loose (wo)man, so you have to accept that others won't co-sign your decision. As crazy as this sounds, I respect ho's that embrace that lifestyle. They don't care what others think, they do what feels right for them. All I'm saying is if you're going to be a ho, be prepared to deal with the repercussions. You have no right to get upset at people for calling you what you agree to. True, it's none of anyone's business how someone chooses to live their life, but people will always have something to say about how someone chooses to live, good or bad. The remedy is to NOT give them a reason. Women aren't the only ho's, men have surpassed women in promiscuity.

It's expected for men to sleep around because most men are coochie hounds. Their lives revolve around sex, and that's sad. When the women get pregnant, he wants to bellyache about child support. Men weren't upset when they were hitting that, so why switch up now? Be honest, how many women would be cool with a man knocking them up and not demanding he take responsibility for that child? I rest my case. These days, women find every reason to put a man on child support. If men don't want baby mama drama, they should stop chasing after cooch. That's too much like right for some men, because many of them are driven by cootacat. Their lives would end if a woman wouldn't give him any. Women have more power than they realize. Men are willing to wine & dine, to kill for what's between a woman's legs. In conclusion, both genders need to realize there's more to life than sexing. What used to be frowned upon, has become acceptable. If you can embrace whoredom, you embrace judgment from others.